DH has directed us to shovel off the deck - AITA

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Anonymous wrote:Useless lazy woman.

Says the incel posting from mommy’s basement

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when women blame their laziness on not being strong or having a stronger DH.

I'm 5'1". I shoveled my own sidewalk, and 2 adjacent neighbors' sidewalks. I also cleared ALL the snow off my car, including the roof. It took like 15 minutes max.

Shoveling is great exercise, and actually kind of fun.

Great. Head on over to OP’s house to shovel a deck that no one is walking on.

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Anonymous wrote:Useless lazy woman.

Nobody is useless and everyone is lazy about chores they dislike. That's simply disgusting and disrespectful attitude, highlighting on commenter's personality more than the person in questIon.

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Anonymous wrote:DH texted myself and 16 YO DD..."I'd like you two to tag team to get the snow off the deck. It's going to freeze tonight so I'd like that taken care of. Thx"

We got about 4 inches of snow. The deck is fairly large.
The deck is perfectly strong, no structural issues.
We are generally not using the deck, as, you know, it's winter.
He might use a small area of the deck near the house to grill IF the weather is nice, which at this time it is not. I could see clearning that off in case the weather gets nice enough to grill. But then, the snow would melt by itself.

DH has a history of being overly picky and controlling. Can't put jeans in the dryer because "too noisy". Gets upset if there are dishes in the sink, or you haven't loaded the dishwasher the way he wants. He will unpack it and reload it. We are not "allowed" to put small bowls on the top shelf, those must be placed on the bottom. We started using paper cups to reduce dishwasher complaints and now he complains about the paper cups taking up space in the trash. It's endless. I could go on and on.

This seems like an insane request to me. Who goes outside to move 1000 pounds of snow around a perfectly sound, unused structure if it's not necessary for some reason? What am I missing?

DCUM, AITA?

Text back

Have at it dude

Your DH is a pos

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Anonymous wrote:It’s actually kind of fun to get out there and push snow around. I just got in from cleaning off 2 cars and half of our driveway. My DH would have done it but he had to get to work and I didn’t. I’ll get out there again after lunch to do more but just for the fun of it. Maybe you and your daughter can look at it that way.

What no

Her shit husband doesn’t tell his wife what to do

Anyone in a relationship like this has zero self confidence

Op tell him to do it himself

I have no problem shoveling it’s the way he asked unacceptable period

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Anonymous wrote:DH texted myself and 16 YO DD..."I'd like you two to tag team to get the snow off the deck. It's going to freeze tonight so I'd like that taken care of. Thx"

We got about 4 inches of snow. The deck is fairly large.
The deck is perfectly strong, no structural issues.
We are generally not using the deck, as, you know, it's winter.
He might use a small area of the deck near the house to grill IF the weather is nice, which at this time it is not. I could see clearning that off in case the weather gets nice enough to grill. But then, the snow would melt by itself.

DH has a history of being overly picky and controlling. Can't put jeans in the dryer because "too noisy". Gets upset if there are dishes in the sink, or you haven't loaded the dishwasher the way he wants. He will unpack it and reload it. We are not "allowed" to put small bowls on the top shelf, those must be placed on the bottom. We started using paper cups to reduce dishwasher complaints and now he complains about the paper cups taking up space in the trash. It's endless. I could go on and on.

This seems like an insane request to me. Who goes outside to move 1000 pounds of snow around a perfectly sound, unused structure if it's not necessary for some reason? What am I missing?

DCUM, AITA?

I think you are just looking for trouble or trolling us. He didn't "direct" you to shovel. He "asked' you. If he said "get your fat a$$ out there and make sure it done before I get home" yes, I'd say he directed you. Drama queen. Obviously, you are strong enough for DCUM. LOL

There is no "asking" in the above text. There is no please. There is no question mark. There is no question. This is a text my boss might send me.

If me or my DH are busy, that's how we text for chores or reminders but both of us do understand that other person doesn't have any ill intent, must be occupied or rushing.

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Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

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Anonymous wrote:Is he physically disabled? That is a man's job.

No, he is strong. Much, much stronger than I am.

What kind was man asks a 16 year old girl and middle aged woman that do that. What a jerk.

Sounds like maybe a man who is at the office while his teenager and lazy wife lounge around the house.

So it's a punishment? A big FU? Here's a pointless, non sensical task because I'm mad that I had to go to the office today? That makes more sense than the idea that a few pounds per inch need to be moved off a deck that is engineered to code standards.

No, it's not a punishment. It's not a big FU. It's a perfectly reasonable request to clear snow off a surface. Presumably the deck is an emergency exit of sorts for the house? I think the compromise here is clear a path for an exit in an emergency.

That's absurd. In the very unlikely event there is an emergency, they can walk through the snow.

Not so easily if it ices over, which is what he said he concern is.

It's almost like OP is stamping her feet and demanding to be lazy. Is this request interrupting her viewing of the Price is Right or something? Does she need more bonbons? It was a perfectly reasonable request. I would absolutely task my teenager with chores on a snow day. Or maybe the teen is wasting time on the TikTok or some shit like that.

That’s absurd. If it ices over, you can stamp on it. His “concern” is ridiculous and not worth validating.

But I live where I currently have a foot of snow and it is below zero. I am used to the stuff and don’t lose my mind over a few inches of white stuff like OP’s DH.

You sound exceedingly difficult. Like you're a difficult and petty person. I'd divorce your fat ass if I was unfortunate enough to be married to you.

Remember when you got married and took your vow and promised to obey your husband? This is one of those times you need to do what he directs.

Lol. What a clown. No one with any sense would ever marry you.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he physically disabled? That is a man's job.

So much for equal rights and feminism...I guess women want rights except when its hard work...I get it now

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Anonymous wrote:Useless lazy woman.

Says the incel posting from mommy’s basement

You need to get some new lines. Too old, used too many times.

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Anonymous wrote:DH texted myself and 16 YO DD..."I'd like you two to tag team to get the snow off the deck. It's going to freeze tonight so I'd like that taken care of. Thx"

We got about 4 inches of snow. The deck is fairly large.
The deck is perfectly strong, no structural issues.
We are generally not using the deck, as, you know, it's winter.
He might use a small area of the deck near the house to grill IF the weather is nice, which at this time it is not. I could see clearning that off in case the weather gets nice enough to grill. But then, the snow would melt by itself.

DH has a history of being overly picky and controlling. Can't put jeans in the dryer because "too noisy". Gets upset if there are dishes in the sink, or you haven't loaded the dishwasher the way he wants. He will unpack it and reload it. We are not "allowed" to put small bowls on the top shelf, those must be placed on the bottom. We started using paper cups to reduce dishwasher complaints and now he complains about the paper cups taking up space in the trash. It's endless. I could go on and on.

This seems like an insane request to me. Who goes outside to move 1000 pounds of snow around a perfectly sound, unused structure if it's not necessary for some reason? What am I missing?

DCUM, AITA?

Sorry, reread your original post and it does sounds rude, he used enough words to warrant addition of another, please.

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Will DH “allow” wife to wear yoga pants while shoveling deck?

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Anonymous wrote:Is he physically disabled? That is a man's job.

No, he is strong. Much, much stronger than I am.

What kind was man asks a 16 year old girl and middle aged woman that do that. What a jerk.

Sounds like maybe a man who is at the office while his teenager and lazy wife lounge around the house.

So it's a punishment? A big FU? Here's a pointless, non sensical task because I'm mad that I had to go to the office today? That makes more sense than the idea that a few pounds per inch need to be moved off a deck that is engineered to code standards.

No, it's not a punishment. It's not a big FU. It's a perfectly reasonable request to clear snow off a surface. Presumably the deck is an emergency exit of sorts for the house? I think the compromise here is clear a path for an exit in an emergency.

That's absurd. In the very unlikely event there is an emergency, they can walk through the snow.

Not so easily if it ices over, which is what he said he concern is.

It's almost like OP is stamping her feet and demanding to be lazy. Is this request interrupting her viewing of the Price is Right or something? Does she need more bonbons? It was a perfectly reasonable request. I would absolutely task my teenager with chores on a snow day. Or maybe the teen is wasting time on the TikTok or some shit like that.

That’s absurd. If it ices over, you can stamp on it. His “concern” is ridiculous and not worth validating.

But I live where I currently have a foot of snow and it is below zero. I am used to the stuff and don’t lose my mind over a few inches of white stuff like OP’s DH.

You sound exceedingly difficult. Like you're a difficult and petty person. I'd divorce your fat ass if I was unfortunate enough to be married to you.

Remember when you got married and took your vow and promised to obey your husband? This is one of those times you need to do what he directs.

bahahahahahahaabahahahshshs

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Anonymous wrote:Did DH shovel anything - driveway, walkway etc before heading to the office? Shared chores? He did the driveway - you do the deck?

He parks in the driveway. I park on the street. He shoveled the driveway and the walkway to his car.
He cleaned off his car, not mine. Which is fine, I cleaned off my own car this morning. I won't need my car until I have to drive child to school, which is closed now.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he physically disabled? That is a man's job.

No, he is strong. Much, much stronger than I am.

What kind was man asks a 16 year old girl and middle aged woman that do that. What a jerk.

Sounds like maybe a man who is at the office while his teenager and lazy wife lounge around the house.

So it's a punishment? A big FU? Here's a pointless, non sensical task because I'm mad that I had to go to the office today? That makes more sense than the idea that a few pounds per inch need to be moved off a deck that is engineered to code standards.

No, it's not a punishment. It's not a big FU. It's a perfectly reasonable request to clear snow off a surface. Presumably the deck is an emergency exit of sorts for the house? I think the compromise here is clear a path for an exit in an emergency.

That's absurd. In the very unlikely event there is an emergency, they can walk through the snow.

Not so easily if it ices over, which is what he said he concern is.

It's almost like OP is stamping her feet and demanding to be lazy. Is this request interrupting her viewing of the Price is Right or something? Does she need more bonbons? It was a perfectly reasonable request. I would absolutely task my teenager with chores on a snow day. Or maybe the teen is wasting time on the TikTok or some shit like that.

That’s absurd. If it ices over, you can stamp on it. His “concern” is ridiculous and not worth validating.

But I live where I currently have a foot of snow and it is below zero. I am used to the stuff and don’t lose my mind over a few inches of white stuff like OP’s DH.

You sound exceedingly difficult. Like you're a difficult and petty person. I'd divorce your fat ass if I was unfortunate enough to be married to you.

Remember when you got married and took your vow and promised to obey your husband? This is one of those times you need to do what he directs.

bahahahahahahaabahahahshshs

Seriously. The SAHM fundamentalist from Iowa has showed up to the wrong board.