Can't wait to change my surname, but notice many women keeping theirs, is there a reason for this trend?

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Anonymous wrote:Please also do not-the name. It is very irritating. You have to fit this giant name with the dash that often doesn't work for email and other logins and everything and most forms don't accept that long of a name. And what happens. If your children another – another – is just out of control, just please stop it. It's ridiculous. Just use the husband's last name and be over with it

What an odd thing to get all worked up over. Are you sure you’re okay?

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Anonymous wrote:My name is who I am, OP. Why would I change myself? My husband never wanted me to change my name either. Our children have a hyphenated name, to reflect both our families: my husband and I each have a different national and cultural background, so it was important to us. Which means there are three last names in our nuclear family. It doesn't bother us, and it doesn't bother any medical, border control, or government administration of any country in which we hold passports or residency permits.

You seem to have lived under a rock all these years. Women have been keeping their own names and identities for generations. Any man who thinks their wife should change their name is strange and weird, unless he'd be fine changing his name to his wife's if that was her preference.

Out of curiosity, when your hyphenated children marry other hyphenated children, do they mega hyphenate the names?

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It just seemed like an outdated practice to me and I like my last name and know myself that way. My kids have my husband’s name and it hasn’t created any problems.

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I hate hyphenated last names! Seems so nineties.

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Anonymous wrote:People may think you are a divorcee or a difficult person if you haven't taken the last name. I said the silent part out loud, it does matter

Wut? No.

[Anonymous]

My ex wife kept my last name and I am getting remarried. She didn't change it because it is so much paperwork. She said my new wife will be #2 and she will always be #1 even though we are no longer married lol. She is delusional.

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I think a lot of modern and well educated women question why they would change their name to their husband’s. You, obviously feel differently , which is fine.

Please don’t decide based upon other people or DCUM posts. If you and your husband are excited about this tradition, then go for it.

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Anonymous wrote:What problems could it possibly cause “down the road”? I’m genuinely asking you.

I didn’t change my name, partly because I have an established professional license and publications in my maiden name, partly because I didn’t want to give up part of my identity while he kept his. Seems an unfair way to start things out. I suggested that both of us change our names (to his mom’s maiden name) and he didn’t want to do that. He also didn’t pressure me to change to his name. I might have changed it at least for personal use if his surname was an easy one, but it’s not (neither is my maiden name). Oh well.

PS - 15 years in, three kids with his surname, and no problems because of it.

No one cares about your profession maiden name, Hillary Clinton took the last name and she's as lib and professional as they get.

You should read her autobiography to see why. She's also 35 yrs older than me (another generation) and most of us are married to the President.

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I have 5 daughters. I told them they should ask their husbands to change their names to theirs instead lol.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, you either take a man’s name (your husband) or keep a man’s name (your father’s or grandfather’s).

You have no name before your father’s so that is your name as much as it is his.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My name is who I am, OP. Why would I change myself? My husband never wanted me to change my name either. Our children have a hyphenated name, to reflect both our families: my husband and I each have a different national and cultural background, so it was important to us. Which means there are three last names in our nuclear family. It doesn't bother us, and it doesn't bother any medical, border control, or government administration of any country in which we hold passports or residency permits.

You seem to have lived under a rock all these years. Women have been keeping their own names and identities for generations. Any man who thinks their wife should change their name is strange and weird, unless he'd be fine changing his name to his wife's if that was her preference.

Out of curiosity, when your hyphenated children marry other hyphenated children, do they mega hyphenate the names?

My name is not hyphenated, but I have two last names, which in the standard practice in most Spanish speaking countries. We don't change our names when we get married and when we have kids, the kids generally get the first surname from each parent. Those hyphenating their surname can do the same. I don't understand why this seems to be such a big issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People may think you are a divorcee or a difficult person if you haven't taken the last name. I said the silent part out loud, it does matter

Difficult, as in uppity?

Count me in!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol weakest trolling attempt I’ve seen in awhile

Yes, especially the “fancy careers” part.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol weakest trolling attempt I’ve seen in awhile

Yes, especially the “fancy careers” part.

Yes, this is an obvious troll or AI bot.

Women who “can’t wait” to change their last names DGAF about whether/why some women keep their names.

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Don't take dcum advise which appears to say all women keep their name as surveys show only 15% do. Scum is a weird liberal bubble