college student sleeping arrangement when home

[Anonymous]

My DD is a sophomore in college. Says she's bi and is in her first relationship with a woman. They go to different colleges and live two hours apart when they are each home. When girl comes to visit this summer same room or separate?

[Anonymous]

She's probably not going to pregnant, but otherwise they bi/homosexual part isn't so important at the question.

That's a reasonable age for young adults to do whatever they do discretely on the twin bed.

[Anonymous]

If you have a guest room, offer it so your guest has their own space. Then let them decide where to spend their time.

[Anonymous]

The bi/ homosexual part has nothing to do with this question. This is not the appproriate sub forum for this post.

In retrospect do you see that or is there a different question that you want to ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bi/ homosexual part has nothing to do with this question. This is not the appproriate sub forum for this post.

In retrospect do you see that or is there a different question that you want to ask?

Idk,.. I understand why OP would ask here. I would wonder what queer adults had wished their parents had done. And this is distinctly different than a girl bringing home a girl who is only a friend; the sexual aspect makes a parent wonder whether to separate. I understand that. No need to scold OP.

I think the advice to offer two rooms and let them settle as they choose is nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bi/ homosexual part has nothing to do with this question. This is not the appproriate sub forum for this post.

In retrospect do you see that or is there a different question that you want to ask?

OP here-i guess I should have added she came last summer to visit but I didn't know relationship was romantic so they were in same room as a regular sleep over. being 60 years old, had she Brough home a guy she was dating I would have set him up in a separate room and left them to their own devices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bi/ homosexual part has nothing to do with this question. This is not the appproriate sub forum for this post.

In retrospect do you see that or is there a different question that you want to ask?

OP here-i guess I should have added she came last summer to visit but I didn't know relationship was romantic so they were in same room as a regular sleep over. being 60 years old, had she Brough home a guy she was dating I would have set him up in a separate room and left them to their own devices.

This is a very material fact to have left out. Personally, I’d let them sleep in the same room again, given that you already did. Although, 100% you were tricked into it. But, this isn’t a fight I would have, given the history.

PS/ I think it is reasonable to have her gf sleep in a different room.

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to control them? Let make their own choice. They are adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bi/ homosexual part has nothing to do with this question. This is not the appproriate sub forum for this post.

In retrospect do you see that or is there a different question that you want to ask?

OP here-i guess I should have added she came last summer to visit but I didn't know relationship was romantic so they were in same room as a regular sleep over. being 60 years old, had she Brough home a guy she was dating I would have set him up in a separate room and left them to their own devices.

This is a very material fact to have left out. Personally, I’d let them sleep in the same room again, given that you already did. Although, 100% you were tricked into it. But, this isn’t a fight I would have, given the history.

PS/ I think it is reasonable to have her gf sleep in a different room.

Give up and follow past precedent. Were there 2 beds in there before? If not, it was the wrong choice. If so, you're providing 2 beds still.

[Anonymous]

I'm fine with pre-marital sex between consenting adults, so all my college-age kids and their SOs can sleep wherever they want in my house when they visit. Regardless of sexual orientation, which has nothing to do with it (my kids are straight, bi, and gay).

[Anonymous]

The rules would be no different for gay or lesbian children. All prospective partners/spouses get the guest room. Only till there's a wedding ring on the finger or in absence of that, some kind of very clear "we are in a committed relationship but we're not the marrying sort" will they get to share a room.

Standards need to be maintained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm fine with pre-marital sex between consenting adults, so all my college-age kids and their SOs can sleep wherever they want in my house when they visit. Regardless of sexual orientation, which has nothing to do with it (my kids are straight, bi, and gay).

So, hypothetically, there could be an orgy among consenting adult college kids in your house and you would be ok with that?