Could you forgive?

[Anonymous]

DH of 30 years, til now faithful, last year or so EA ++ with work colleague.
In other words, not actual sex but romance, kissing (ED also involved).
Says knows it has to end, says wants our life, but wants to let EAP down gently. As a result, still lying about time spent with EAP.
WWYD?

[Anonymous]

What does that acronyms all mean? I am so confused. ED? He has erectile dysfunction? EA?

[Anonymous]

So he hasn’t ended it?

[Anonymous]

You need to accept that she’s the other woman or divorce him. He’s not changing for you, that should tell you something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does that acronyms all mean? I am so confused. ED? He has erectile dysfunction? EA?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does that acronyms all mean? I am so confused. ED? He has erectile dysfunction? EA?

He’s having an emotional affair, likely not physical due to erectile dysfunction.

[Anonymous]

Yes sorry about the acronyms - OP
EA = emotional affair, so I decided EAP could exist as well to define the partner.
And yes, ED needs viagra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he hasn’t ended it?

Only in a half-assed way that still seems to assume that more talking it out, breaking it gently and smoochies are OK…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he hasn’t ended it?

Only in a half-assed way that still seems to assume that more talking it out, breaking it gently and smoochies are OK…

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Yeah no, accept it or move on, don’t let him limp d1ck you around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes sorry about the acronyms - OP
EA = emotional affair, so I decided EAP could exist as well to define the partner.
And yes, ED needs viagra.

If he takes viagra, I'm not understanding the reference to ED at all. What does it matter? He can still have a physical affair even with ED. I'm confused.

[Anonymous]

If you found out about it and he’s still more concerned about her feelings and his own desires than your feelings and wellbeing…there’s no coming back from that. Either you accept that you’re in an open marriage or you separate. Even if you accept an open marriage, he might still leave. Regardless, your relationship with him will never be the same as it was before you found out. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does that acronyms all mean? I am so confused. ED? He has erectile dysfunction? EA?

He’s having an emotional affair, likely not physical due to erectile dysfunction.

What if he can get it up for her? She has to go

[Anonymous]

Well, precisely this is my concern. Very hard to evaluate, with all the apologies and protestations that he loves me, just needs a little more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does that acronyms all mean? I am so confused. ED? He has erectile dysfunction? EA?

He’s having an emotional affair, likely not physical due to erectile dysfunction.

What if he can get it up for her? She has to go

Indeed, she does. While I can’t say 100%, I’ve been paying close attention, let’s say aided by the marvels of modern technology. I don’t think it’s happening (she’s married, young kids). But probably would, with or without aid, in due course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes sorry about the acronyms - OP
EA = emotional affair, so I decided EAP could exist as well to define the partner.
And yes, ED needs viagra.

If he takes viagra, I'm not understanding the reference to ED at all. What does it matter? He can still have a physical affair even with ED. I'm confused.

Has only recently gotten Viagra prescription, ostensibly for home use.