Can’t stop eating

[Anonymous]

Please no flames. I can’t stop eating. I will be on a good diet until around 2pm and then I eat candy. It’s pathetic and I know this. Then I get depressed about my lack of will power and eat more of it. I’m tearful as I write this so please be gentle. What can I do???

The candy is leftover from Easter/ when it’s not in the house then I eat the Oreos that are for the kids lunches. Whatever is sweet, I will get. I’m so disgusted.

[Anonymous]

Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

[Anonymous]

And yes I usually don’t keep it in the house (the candy) but I need to keep a few treats for the kids and I’ve even asked my husband to hide them from me but that makes me feel so ashamed and angry.

[Anonymous]

I won't judge you, I've struggled with the same on and off for much of my adult life.

Obviously you aren't physically hungry, you aren't fueling your body because candy doesn't do that - you are feeding a hungry heart.

I would suggest looking into OA, or CBT with a therapist who understands disordered eating. There are also many books on the topic of disordered eating, Geneen Roth's Feeding the Hungry Heart is one of the best.

You definitely should purge sugar from your house. Your kids don't need junk food either, nor your husband or wife if you have one.

Read Dr. Robert Lustig's books or watch his YouTube video about sugar to understand just how horrible the substance is for your body and mind. Some of us cannot eat refined sugar in anything like moderation - it isn't just your guilt over eating it that makes you eat more, it is a real physiological response to the presence of sugar in your body.

Quit sugar, full stop (don't forget added sugars, they are ubiquitous now so this means ditching most UPFs). Expect a week of misery, gradually improving as more time passes. Stock your fridge and counter with fruits. Be amazed by how incredibly sweet an apple or orange tastes once your palate has adjusted because you no longer consume sugar.

[Anonymous]

Intermittent fasting has really helped me. I just can’t eat at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

PB&J and a piece of fruit is an appropriate school lunch, minus the Oreos.

Normalizing daily consumption of UPFs in the form of sugar laden treats isn't a gift to your kids. Their bodies might be able to tolerate it in youth, but as they age it will be more and more of an issue. Instead of them struggling years from now to overcome a years long addiction to refined sugar laden treats, help them to establish clean eating habits now. Put two pieces of different fruits in the lunchbox - an apple and a mandarin orange, for instance. Lots of fiber attached to fructose which operates entirely differently in the body that the Oreo ingredients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

PB&J and a piece of fruit is an appropriate school lunch, minus the Oreos.

Normalizing daily consumption of UPFs in the form of sugar laden treats isn't a gift to your kids. Their bodies might be able to tolerate it in youth, but as they age it will be more and more of an issue. Instead of them struggling years from now to overcome a years long addiction to refined sugar laden treats, help them to establish clean eating habits now. Put two pieces of different fruits in the lunchbox - an apple and a mandarin orange, for instance. Lots of fiber attached to fructose which operates entirely differently in the body that the Oreo ingredients.

I am a mom, and I agree with the above OP. How is giving your very young kids two Oreos a day as part of their lunch a normal kid thing? You are not only normalizing it, but you are already teaching them to become addicted to sugar.

I also agree with another poster about seeing a therapist about your eating behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I won't judge you, I've struggled with the same on and off for much of my adult life.

Obviously you aren't physically hungry, you aren't fueling your body because candy doesn't do that - you are feeding a hungry heart.

I would suggest looking into OA, or CBT with a therapist who understands disordered eating. There are also many books on the topic of disordered eating, Geneen Roth's Feeding the Hungry Heart is one of the best.

You definitely should purge sugar from your house. Your kids don't need junk food either, nor your husband or wife if you have one.

Read Dr. Robert Lustig's books or watch his YouTube video about sugar to understand just how horrible the substance is for your body and mind. Some of us cannot eat refined sugar in anything like moderation - it isn't just your guilt over eating it that makes you eat more, it is a real physiological response to the presence of sugar in your body.

Quit sugar, full stop (don't forget added sugars, they are ubiquitous now so this means ditching most UPFs). Expect a week of misery, gradually improving as more time passes. Stock your fridge and counter with fruits. Be amazed by how incredibly sweet an apple or orange tastes once your palate has adjusted because you no longer consume sugar.

Thank you. You know, I did whole30 a few years ago and it was an absolutely miserable first week but I did lose 10lb that month. I just can’t get myself to start this time. I’ll do fine until mid afternoon and then I cheat, it’s so embarrassing, and the amount of money I’ve wasted in wbole30 approved things like avocado mayo makes me even more ashamed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

PB&J and a piece of fruit is an appropriate school lunch, minus the Oreos.

Normalizing daily consumption of UPFs in the form of sugar laden treats isn't a gift to your kids. Their bodies might be able to tolerate it in youth, but as they age it will be more and more of an issue. Instead of them struggling years from now to overcome a years long addiction to refined sugar laden treats, help them to establish clean eating habits now. Put two pieces of different fruits in the lunchbox - an apple and a mandarin orange, for instance. Lots of fiber attached to fructose which operates entirely differently in the body that the Oreo ingredients.

You may be right. The mindframe I’m coming from is, my own mother severely restricted treats growing up- she allowed 2 dessert items per week (so like, 2 Oreos for the week) and it made me insane for them. I’d eat sweets like crazy when I went to a friends house or at a party. The severe restriction of them made me think about them so much. I was always a thin child and a thin young adult so it wasn’t to help me lose weight it was just my own mothers strategy to teach healtny eating but it backfired

[Anonymous]

Can you swap out a fairlife protein shake for the afternoon snack at 2. Just try that one change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

PB&J and a piece of fruit is an appropriate school lunch, minus the Oreos.

Normalizing daily consumption of UPFs in the form of sugar laden treats isn't a gift to your kids. Their bodies might be able to tolerate it in youth, but as they age it will be more and more of an issue. Instead of them struggling years from now to overcome a years long addiction to refined sugar laden treats, help them to establish clean eating habits now. Put two pieces of different fruits in the lunchbox - an apple and a mandarin orange, for instance. Lots of fiber attached to fructose which operates entirely differently in the body that the Oreo ingredients.

I am a mom, and I agree with the above OP. How is giving your very young kids two Oreos a day as part of their lunch a normal kid thing? You are not only normalizing it, but you are already teaching them to become addicted to sugar.

I also agree with another poster about seeing a therapist about your eating behavior.

I don’t want my kids to do what I did; which is see their friends with cookies in their lunches and beg to have one since they are never allowed them at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you swap out a fairlife protein shake for the afternoon snack at 2. Just try that one change.

I could try that. It’s definitely the after lunch period where I realize I’m starving and grumpy and it’s not even close to dinner time. Ugh.

Also on days I work it’s worse because work has tons of candy and baked goods around all the time that patients families drop off (I’m a nurse)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

Good luck OP. This is the clean eating nazi mom group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have it in the house. Why do your kids need Oreos for their lunches?

I mean they are in K and 3rd, they take PBJ and a piece of fruit and 2 Oreos for lunch each day. I don’t want to deprive them of a normal age appropriate school lunch because their mother can’t control herself.

I never let my kids eat oreos. They only eat them when they visit Grandma *eyeroll*