Gift for friend TTC
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Anonymous
| I have a very dear friend who has been TTC for some time now and will be beginning IVF soon. I’d love to get her a small gift to support her but am stumped. She is spiritual, but not really religious. Any suggestions? She is the type to send small gifts to friends whenever they are struggling. |
Anonymous
| The best gift I got was a friend who’d also been through IVF tell me: you’ll get the baby you are meant to have. IVF sucks iui sucks. Not being able to have a baby sucks. |
Anonymous
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This is nice of you! I did a lot of my IVF out of town (NYC) and I had friends or family send me: a gift certificate to a bookstore, a gift package of Jeni’s ice cream, a care package from a place that does great bagels, and flowers. All of the gifts were sweet and thoughtful. If she likes tea, Harney and Sons has nice gifts (you can also get decaf if she’s trying to cut down on caffeine going into her cycle). Also just being willing to be a listening ear is really helpful. Infertility can feel sad and lonely, so I found it helpful to talk about just to dispel the secrecy around it.
IVF is no fun but I found it a whole lot less terrible than just trying and failing to get pregnant every month. Good luck to your friend! |
Anonymous
| Nice fruit basket (organic). Maybe include prenatals and some pre-seed lube. Flowers. Restaurant GC. |
Anonymous
Astroglide Natural (green bottle cap) is way better than Preseed. Preseed has so many chemicals. Both my kids were conceived with Astroglide Natural (not regular!). |
Anonymous
This is interesting! Will check it out & try. TIA ! |
Anonymous
I think you have to be careful with this because not everyone gets a baby. I find it to be true for me but I'm not sure I'd say it to someone facing unknowns. |
Anonymous
Ok, I can see that. I’m not PP. but the OP was asking for suggestions; and it’s just a suggestion. Probably not the best for someone whose chances are probably really slim. |
Anonymous
Is this appropriate for someone who is in the IVF process? |
Anonymous
I wouldn’t think there is any reason not to, especially with something as harmless as Astroglide (natural). IVF does not mean you can’t keep trying naturally or have to, just not have sex at all. |
Anonymous
I wouldn’t give this— it smacks too much of advice about how to get pregnant which no one going thru IVF needs from their friends |
Anonymous
+1 I wouldn't give anything baby-related, just cozy and soothing. Maybe some nice tea and a lovely fluffy blanket. |
Anonymous
I don’t understand why anyone would include a product like this in a gift for someone undergoing IVF after a long period of TTC the old fashioned way. You know that intercourse hasn’t led to pregnancy and they’re now TTC via embryology lab. This is so tone deaf. |
Anonymous
But only tone-deaf for IVF. Otherwise, pre-seed or even Astroglide (natural) is perfectly appropriate. If you are tracking, everybody knows there’s a small but critical window and you have to hit that window. You both have to hit it just right, even if you are not in the mood. I remember TTC with our second, and having to rush home a few times during lunch hour just to do the deed. Switching gears that fast from work, to sex, was new and not easy. Another time we hit the windo over the holidays with his parents family. We did it in the guest room bathroom. But pre-seed really helped the process along under those circumstances (if you know what I mean). |
Anonymous
+100 - please don’t give something like this. It’s totally tone deaf. And to the poster who was talking about how short the window is — while that’s true, for people who have been TTC for years, the problem is very likely something other than “missing the window.” Tea and cozy blanket sounds perfectly lovely. |