Angry adult child

[Anonymous]

How would you treat the situation?
If one of your adult children lashes out?

Do you do silent treatment?

Adult child atleast once a week has an angry outburst. Clenches her jaw, makes a loud angry noise, slams doors.

She clearly has frustrations and dilemmas but she cant take them out on us. What would you say or do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How would you treat the situation?
If one of your adult children lashes out?

Do you do silent treatment?

Adult child atleast once a week has an angry outburst. Clenches her jaw, makes a loud angry noise, slams doors.

She clearly has frustrations and dilemmas but she cant take them out on us. What would you say or do?

You sound just like my mom. She thought silent treatment for as long as it took to get me to comply was the answer. It wasn't.

1) why is the adult child living with you?
2) why can't you just tell your adult child to cut it out or move out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How would you treat the situation?
If one of your adult children lashes out?

Do you do silent treatment?

Adult child atleast once a week has an angry outburst. Clenches her jaw, makes a loud angry noise, slams doors.

She clearly has frustrations and dilemmas but she cant take them out on us. What would you say or do?

Recommend anger management classes and meditation

[Anonymous]

She didn't go to an ivy, did she?

[Anonymous]

What is her problem?

[Anonymous]

Silent treatment is a childish response. Ask yourself why you can't have a conversation with your child. Have you ever been able to have a mutually respectful conversation with them?

I would also want to know why they are angry. Have you asked them and actually listened to the response? Resolving a conflict with another adult starts with understanding what the conflict is. It is not clear that you know, or care, what the issue is.

It's always okay to set boundaries, however. If you daughter is yelling at you or being abusive, you can let her know that you will not accept that treatment. If she is living with you, it's okay to tell an adult that if they want to continue living with you, they will need to speak respectfully to you. However, your daughter is entitled to the same thing. Do you ever yell, shout, express anger non-verbal, slam doors, etc.? If so, you need to find a way to stop or you really have no right to complain about her behavior towards you. Children often mirror their parents.

[Anonymous]

https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html

It matters why they are angry. If you're the kind of person who can't wrap your head around another person's perspective, then you'll have a hard time with relationships.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by silent treatment? I think it is OK to set a boundary and say I don't want to speak until we can have a calm conversation. But not enough information here.

[Anonymous]

My older kid who is now a young adult never acted like this, but my 13 year old acts like this.
We are considering getting her into therapy, because we see that it stems from deep-seated anxiety/perfectionism. Most of the time, she is actually angry at herself, for not achieving enough, but it presents as anger at the world.

Tell your child that behaving in this way is not acceptable, but that you are happy to pay for a psychologist consultation and therapy sessions.

[Anonymous]

When my teen got angry like this, I just told him I wouldn’t engage while his is really mad. When he calmed down; I was happy to talk.

Is this new behavior? There may be a mental health issue.

[Anonymous]

NEVER use silent treatment, but do walk away and say you are giving her space.

but, it's time for her to move out.

[Anonymous]

How old is she? And is she seeing a therapist? Silent treatment is not appropriate.