All boys school...why?

[Anonymous]

We have three boys who attend a K-8 private and are approaching HS admissions, for one starting next year. My husband is a product of a strong public school system in NJ and I went to a DC all girl private. DH is interested in some of the all boys options. Having grown up in the area, I know lots of perfectly nice men who went to these schools, but I would never want my sons to act in the ways I saw boys from these schools act when I was in HS. Am I wrong to think standards for behavior are different at coed schools? Especially with no sisters my feeling is its crucial for them to interact with women outside of dating (or whatever it is kids do now :/). My DH was very academic and is pretty out of the loop on 'bro culture'.

[Anonymous]

You are generalizing, and that is never a good place to start with a school search. How your boys behave will have a lot more to do with how you raised them than where they go to school.

[Anonymous]

Same reasons parents send their kids to all-girls schools.

All-boys schools tend to understand boys better. That they need a lot of physical activity, and that them being antsy after a long day isn’t “aggression” or “ADHD.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same reasons parents send their kids to all-girls schools.

All-boys schools tend to understand boys better. That they need a lot of physical activity, and that them being antsy after a long day isn’t “aggression” or “ADHD.”

OP here. Ok, that is totally fair--the need to move is part of the reason our boys are in the coed K-8.

[Anonymous]

My boys went coed through 8th, all boys for high school, and co ed for college. Why do you think those 4 years, where the girls are far more mature than the boys, are a crucial, or even good time, for them to be interacting in the classroom? My boys had friends who were girls while in high school. They were in coed activities outside of school. Going to a boys' school was no handicap to interacting with women outside of dating. Actually, not a lot of dating goes on in high school these days anyway.

I actually think it gave them the time and space to grow up and become themselves without worrying all day long about how girls' viewed them, and if they liked them, or dealing with (lets face it) mean girl dynamics targeted at boys, etc. I liked that they could leave all that aside when in the high school classroom and focus on the class. Maturity evens out by college, so the coed environment there is far more important to how they will interact with women in the working world. There is nothing "real world" about the high school years.

[Anonymous]

I honestly can’t believe people think this type of behavior exists only in all-boy schools.

[Anonymous]

All boys schools doesnt mean no interaction with girls and doesn’t mean bad behavior. Lot of stereotypes here, OP. Stop generalizing.

[Anonymous]

My 3 boys went to a k-8 where a popular high school placement is an all boys high school. I was skeptical, to say the least. I went to the Open House knowing I’d be turned off by the toxic masculinity. Boys was I wrong and now I’m a huge convert. First, an all boys school exposes them to more male teachers and male role models, something I didn’t realize would be so important. Second, they have so many more opportunities to make friends. Something a lot of boys of struggling with these days. Third, I’m sure the toxic masculinity exists, but it’s avoidable. My boys have lifelong friends and will go to college with confidence. I’m so glad we made this decision. DD is in 6th grade and it’s an all girls
School that worries me now!

[Anonymous]

I think now that we are raising boys in a 'man hating' culture, particularly white men, it is more important than ever to put them in all boys schools to help with their confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are generalizing, and that is never a good place to start with a school search. How your boys behave will have a lot more to do with how you raised them than where they go to school.

Jeff should lock the thread after this response. It was perfect and there is really nothing else to say.

[Anonymous]

You are correct. Nobody wants to hear it but you are correct.

If you can mitigate the negative go gif it but ignoring the negative is asinine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are generalizing, and that is never a good place to start with a school search. How your boys behave will have a lot more to do with how you raised them than where they go to school.

Jeff should lock the thread after this response. It was perfect and there is really nothing else to say.

Perfectly stupid you mean.

[Anonymous]

For not gif

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are generalizing, and that is never a good place to start with a school search. How your boys behave will have a lot more to do with how you raised them than where they go to school.

Your choosing their friends though and your parenting can’t control that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are generalizing, and that is never a good place to start with a school search. How your boys behave will have a lot more to do with how you raised them than where they go to school.

Jeff should lock the thread after this response. It was perfect and there is really nothing else to say.

Perfectly stupid you mean.

And you are the shining example of what sort of education?