Anyone else's 2.5yo still in a crib and not potty trained?
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Anonymous
| 2.5yo DS is still in a crib and diapers. Feeling like we're the only ones left but our kids refuses pull ups/using the toilet and would never sleep if not contained to his crib. Feeling so far behind the other daycare families. |
Anonymous
| Have you had a neuropsych evaluation? |
Anonymous
| OP, that is within the range of normal, and I guarantee you your dc isn't the only one in their daycare who is. |
Anonymous
It CAN be “normal” it can also be an early sign of other things going on. A pediatrician visit and thorough eval can’t hurt. |
Anonymous
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Fellow mom of a 2.5 yo here.
DD is still in a crib and isn’t all that interested in potty training. The crib is kinda our choice (really, keep them in a crib as long as possible…I don’t see a reason to rush it unless they’re climbing out and hurting themself). DD is fine with pull-ups and agrees to sit on the potty but doesn’t actually go while sitting there. I’d like her to get the hang of it but I’m not yet worried. My perfectly normal 5yo DS potty trained at 3+ and slept in the crib until his sister was born. These neuropsych comments are really surprising. What happened to the “keep them in a crib as long as you can!” And “they will potty train when they are ready!” |
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Totally fine. Please ignore posters suggesting an early eval. That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve seen here in a while.
Both my son and daughter were in a crib and not potty trained at that age. One kid was at home, and the other went to a daycare. Neither potty trained until the 3rd birthday. Took about a week to do. And the crib went away just before the third birthday. Our son is graduating on time from college this year, and dd is applying to an Ivy League this year. They’re totally normal, healthy, well-adjusted kids with friends. OP—your kid is perfectly fine. |
Anonymous
| Op here. Thank you. DS our second and I just don't feel any rush to move to a big bed which will open up the doors of sleeplessness. The realization that most if not all other kids in his class are potty trained and in their toddler beds was a bit of a shock to me. DS sits on his mini potty but isn't ready for the big toilet. |
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Both my kids were in daycare at the daycare was working on potty training with all the kids around 2.5. So some were a little earlier, some a little later just based on birthdays. Certainly not a situation for either kids class where they would have been behind at age 2.5.
They were both in toddler beds by then because they were climbers so it was a safety issue. |
Anonymous
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The tide is turning. Just a few years ago it was common for 3-4 yo to not be potty trained because "they weren't ready"
If there's no other indication, no need to evaluate. Age in potty training goes on trends |
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Pretty sure the neuropsych comments are tounge in cheek because probably over half of 2.5 yeat olds are still in diapers and cribs.
I like to potty train my kids closer to 2 because I think it makes my job easier but I've always been told to keep them in a crib as long as possible and to try to aim for 3-3.5 as it will give you the best chance of keeping them in their bed. In short, this is nothing to fret over. Make a plan on potty training and follow through. The holidays are a good time to knock that out. |
Anonymous
| I am PP just above and almost forgot, we use sleep sacks so they never get in the habit of even attempting to climb out of the crib. Woolino makes a sack that fits 2T-4T. |
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My kid slept in a crib until 3 and potty trained at 3.5. We actually started potty training much earlier than that but it was a battle from the jump so fir everyone’s sanity we took two breaks from it and this the delay.
My kid is now five, young fur her kindergarten class with a late birthday, and her maturity is in line with her class mates. No signs of ADHD or other at this point. Anecdotally, I don’t think your kid is an outlier. People have gotten very intense about potty training earlier, which can also lead to a push to get them out of the crib since your kid won’t be “independent” with the bathroom until they can get in and out of bed on their own. But every kid is different and what I learned is that trying to force things when they are adamantly opposed goes pretty terribly. |
Anonymous
+1, it’s only on DCUM and in certain people’s minds that most kids PT before 2.5. The other thing is that with a first child, you don’t know how to potty train. I tried following Oh Crap and it went poorly, and potty training just wound up being a long slog with my first. I made a ton of mistakes. But my kid still potty trained before preschool and it all worked out. No I have a better plan and attitude for my second, know the pitfalls, and feel more confident to start early. But I’m not too hard on myself at my first attempt. It’s okay to not be perfect at everything the first time around. |
Anonymous
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This is very normal and age-appropriate.
Check out Janet Lansbury for general child development advice. She’s off the charts. https://www.janetlansbury.com/ |
Anonymous
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My 2.5 (will be 3 in January) is still in his crib. He sleeps great and loves his crib, why would I mess with that?
He’s pee trained but poops in his underwear every. single. day. So, potty training is not going well. Pediatrician says he doesn’t even ask parents about it until 3. People who are asking about an evaluation are crazy pants. |