S/O: So what do men find attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:gross. I looked like a 14 yr old baby at 25.

If you were ugly at 25, I hate to think of what you look like now. Sorry, ladies, it's all downhill after your peak at age 22.

Well, hello, assh0le.

I am 45 and I feel like I am peaking at this stage of my life.

So post photos of yourself at 22 and 45 and let the audience judge.

Sorry, but your attractiveness to men is not based on what you "feel like". It is based on how men perceive you.

Ask any of my male friends who knew me at 22 and at 45, and they would say the same. I have finally come into my own.

My boyfriend is 34 and he thought I was younger than him when he first met me.

LMAO. They're being nice to you, cupcake.

Post photos of you at both ages on some "hot or not" type website and you'll get a real opinion.

Believe what you want. It is true.

I am sure you have meaningful relationships with your attitude. Not.

[Anonymous]

Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand. With the same woman since college (married), and have undergrad and grad degrees from top 10 schools. Giving that context only because I think different kinds of men like different kinds of women.

I think it is interesting that 95+% of responses have revolved on looks, when the question is "what do men find attractive". For me:

- Global mindset - I would not be attracted to a woman that had no interest in traveling, experiencing other cultures, etc. I lived in NYC and found many women who have no interest in ever leaving, and think the world revolves around that city. If a woman has international experience (living or traveling), I find that attractive.

- Interested in sex - A few have mentioned this, but this is very important for me. I want someone who is going to be active in the bedroom, not a dead fish. Giving is great, but I want a woman who is emotive and communicative, and likes to receive as well. Verbally and non-verbally, it is important to me that you like to be touched, and express it.

- Education and drive - I am attracted to intelligent, driven women. There is a line, certainly, and many women cross it. But I find smart sexy.

- Fitness - I hate to say it, but I know enough people who married women and they just blew up, gaining 50-100 pounds. That would be hard on me. I don't need you to have a perfect body, but I generally like thin women. My wife is a size 0 or 2.

- Hair - I think this get underrepresented. My wife fits almost all of my criteria except hair, and unfortunately, she knows it. I love long, this, beautiful hair. Her hair is brittle, so she has to keep it relatively short. I hate to say it, but only the most beautiful of women can pull off really short cuts, and even they would look better with longer hair. This is the easiest way for a woman to drastically decrease her attractiveness, is to cut all her hair off. I completely get that it is a lot of work, but I think hair is just as important as body, maybe more so.

- Skin - Many women have beautiful skin, including my wife. I love it. I know a few attractive women that have leathery skin from sunbathing. It's a massive turnoff. Wear sunscreen.

- Kindness - If you're bitchy / unfriendly to others, especially service staff, that's a massive turnoff. On the flip side, if you smile / are friendly to everyone, that is a massive turn on.

I'm ultra-picky. A couple examples of women I know that many would consider extremely attractive, but I wouldn't want to be in a LTR with:

- My wife's sister. Beautiful face, hair, and body. Smart, hard working, kind. But not into being touched, physical affection, or sex. I know this because of both my wife and brother in law. I feel sorry for the guy. He has a supermodel who just goes through the motions to keep him happy in the bedroom.

- My wife's best friend. Again, beautiful face, hair, and a good (but not perfect) body. Very smart and driven. The kind of girl that gets hit on constantly at bars, and is a giant flirt. I used to have a bit of a crush on her, but watched her turn into an absolute witch with her ex-husband, who was a good guy. She's the type that everyone thinks is an absolute saint / angel, but has a dark side.

- Another of my wife's close friends. Beautiful face, hair, average body. Great boobs. She was a 9/10 when she was younger, and guys that like curvy girls would think she was an 11. Great personality. Has gained probably 3 pounds per year for the past 15 years straight. Just no interest in working out. Her sister has the same face, hair, and boobs, but is a size 4. Looks like a supermodel.

- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

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^ guy talks a lot. What’s your pt dude?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I need to get my DW a$$ drunk to get a bløwjøb. Fortunately abc stores are open all week!!

Mine is horrible at being sexually giving, blowhobs are rare

Really a downside of being married to her.. makes me envious of guys who have it better

I'm blessed to have an attractive wife who will play with my package many different ways. As each year goes by she gets better and better. She's a girl next door type whose bedroom skills would surprise her friends.

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Anonymous wrote:gross. I looked like a 14 yr old baby at 25.

If you were ugly at 25, I hate to think of what you look like now. Sorry, ladies, it's all downhill after your peak at age 22.

Well, hello, assh0le.

I am 45 and I feel like I am peaking at this stage of my life.

So post photos of yourself at 22 and 45 and let the audience judge.

Sorry, but your attractiveness to men is not based on what you "feel like". It is based on how men perceive you.

Ask any of my male friends who knew me at 22 and at 45, and they would say the same. I have finally come into my own.

My boyfriend is 34 and he thought I was younger than him when he first met me.

LMAO. They're being nice to you, cupcake.

Post photos of you at both ages on some "hot or not" type website and you'll get a real opinion.

Believe what you want. It is true.

I am sure you have meaningful relationships with your attitude. Not.

The misogynist post reveals your age and your immaturity. Most women in the early nineties were influenced by grunge. They wore oversized men’s shirts, baggy jeans, and never styled their hair or wore make up. Then versus now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand......
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- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

Top 20 global brand, top 10 school, top 5 douche.
Get over yourself dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand. With the same woman since college (married), and have undergrad and grad degrees from top 10 schools. Giving that context only because I think different kinds of men like different kinds of women.

I think it is interesting that 95+% of responses have revolved on looks, when the question is "what do men find attractive". For me:

- Global mindset - I would not be attracted to a woman that had no interest in traveling, experiencing other cultures, etc. I lived in NYC and found many women who have no interest in ever leaving, and think the world revolves around that city. If a woman has international experience (living or traveling), I find that attractive.

- Interested in sex - A few have mentioned this, but this is very important for me. I want someone who is going to be active in the bedroom, not a dead fish. Giving is great, but I want a woman who is emotive and communicative, and likes to receive as well. Verbally and non-verbally, it is important to me that you like to be touched, and express it.

- Education and drive - I am attracted to intelligent, driven women. There is a line, certainly, and many women cross it. But I find smart sexy.

- Fitness - I hate to say it, but I know enough people who married women and they just blew up, gaining 50-100 pounds. That would be hard on me. I don't need you to have a perfect body, but I generally like thin women. My wife is a size 0 or 2.

- Hair - I think this get underrepresented. My wife fits almost all of my criteria except hair, and unfortunately, she knows it. I love long, this, beautiful hair. Her hair is brittle, so she has to keep it relatively short. I hate to say it, but only the most beautiful of women can pull off really short cuts, and even they would look better with longer hair. This is the easiest way for a woman to drastically decrease her attractiveness, is to cut all her hair off. I completely get that it is a lot of work, but I think hair is just as important as body, maybe more so.

- Skin - Many women have beautiful skin, including my wife. I love it. I know a few attractive women that have leathery skin from sunbathing. It's a massive turnoff. Wear sunscreen.

- Kindness - If you're bitchy / unfriendly to others, especially service staff, that's a massive turnoff. On the flip side, if you smile / are friendly to everyone, that is a massive turn on.

I'm ultra-picky. A couple examples of women I know that many would consider extremely attractive, but I wouldn't want to be in a LTR with:

- My wife's sister. Beautiful face, hair, and body. Smart, hard working, kind. But not into being touched, physical affection, or sex. I know this because of both my wife and brother in law. I feel sorry for the guy. He has a supermodel who just goes through the motions to keep him happy in the bedroom.

- My wife's best friend. Again, beautiful face, hair, and a good (but not perfect) body. Very smart and driven. The kind of girl that gets hit on constantly at bars, and is a giant flirt. I used to have a bit of a crush on her, but watched her turn into an absolute witch with her ex-husband, who was a good guy. She's the type that everyone thinks is an absolute saint / angel, but has a dark side.

- Another of my wife's close friends. Beautiful face, hair, average body. Great boobs. She was a 9/10 when she was younger, and guys that like curvy girls would think she was an 11. Great personality. Has gained probably 3 pounds per year for the past 15 years straight. Just no interest in working out. Her sister has the same face, hair, and boobs, but is a size 4. Looks like a supermodel.

- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

You sound like a douche. I feel sorry for your wife!

[Anonymous]

A tight, firm butt

[Anonymous]

I find that many American women have terrible skin, even in their twenties. You can tell who lives in a tanning salon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand. With the same woman since college (married), and have undergrad and grad degrees from top 10 schools. Giving that context only because I think different kinds of men like different kinds of women.

I think it is interesting that 95+% of responses have revolved on looks, when the question is "what do men find attractive". For me:

- Global mindset - I would not be attracted to a woman that had no interest in traveling, experiencing other cultures, etc. I lived in NYC and found many women who have no interest in ever leaving, and think the world revolves around that city. If a woman has international experience (living or traveling), I find that attractive.

- Interested in sex - A few have mentioned this, but this is very important for me. I want someone who is going to be active in the bedroom, not a dead fish. Giving is great, but I want a woman who is emotive and communicative, and likes to receive as well. Verbally and non-verbally, it is important to me that you like to be touched, and express it.

- Education and drive - I am attracted to intelligent, driven women. There is a line, certainly, and many women cross it. But I find smart sexy.

- Fitness - I hate to say it, but I know enough people who married women and they just blew up, gaining 50-100 pounds. That would be hard on me. I don't need you to have a perfect body, but I generally like thin women. My wife is a size 0 or 2.

- Hair - I think this get underrepresented. My wife fits almost all of my criteria except hair, and unfortunately, she knows it. I love long, this, beautiful hair. Her hair is brittle, so she has to keep it relatively short. I hate to say it, but only the most beautiful of women can pull off really short cuts, and even they would look better with longer hair. This is the easiest way for a woman to drastically decrease her attractiveness, is to cut all her hair off. I completely get that it is a lot of work, but I think hair is just as important as body, maybe more so.

- Skin - Many women have beautiful skin, including my wife. I love it. I know a few attractive women that have leathery skin from sunbathing. It's a massive turnoff. Wear sunscreen.

- Kindness - If you're bitchy / unfriendly to others, especially service staff, that's a massive turnoff. On the flip side, if you smile / are friendly to everyone, that is a massive turn on.

I'm ultra-picky. A couple examples of women I know that many would consider extremely attractive, but I wouldn't want to be in a LTR with:

- My wife's sister. Beautiful face, hair, and body. Smart, hard working, kind. But not into being touched, physical affection, or sex. I know this because of both my wife and brother in law. I feel sorry for the guy. He has a supermodel who just goes through the motions to keep him happy in the bedroom.

- My wife's best friend. Again, beautiful face, hair, and a good (but not perfect) body. Very smart and driven. The kind of girl that gets hit on constantly at bars, and is a giant flirt. I used to have a bit of a crush on her, but watched her turn into an absolute witch with her ex-husband, who was a good guy. She's the type that everyone thinks is an absolute saint / angel, but has a dark side.

- Another of my wife's close friends. Beautiful face, hair, average body. Great boobs. She was a 9/10 when she was younger, and guys that like curvy girls would think she was an 11. Great personality. Has gained probably 3 pounds per year for the past 15 years straight. Just no interest in working out. Her sister has the same face, hair, and boobs, but is a size 4. Looks like a supermodel.

- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

You sound like a douche. I feel sorry for your wife!

In PP's defense, he did mention some non-aesthetic based attributes like kindness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand......
.........
- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

Top 20 global brand, top 10 school, top 5 douche.
Get over yourself dude.

Lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand......
.........
- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

Top 20 global brand, top 10 school, top 5 douche.
Get over yourself dude.

PP here. You’re obviously free to think me stating my background is douchey. I think it is relevant.

A majority of answers have either been “I’m attracted to any woman who isn’t fat and will sleep with me. Or “ I want a woman with double Ds”. A lot of guys I went to HS with would give that answer.

But the guys I went to school with and in my professional life are different. Just like George Clooney chose Amal instead of Megan Fox, MDs at Banks and VPs at tech companies want more than just hourglass figures.

I would take a smart, pleasant woman with smallish boobs and a runner’s body that could tell stories about backpacking across Southeast Asia over a cosmetologist that looked like Sofia Vergara any day of the week.

[Anonymous]

I think 28 is the correct age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:gross. I looked like a 14 yr old baby at 25.

If you were ugly at 25, I hate to think of what you look like now. Sorry, ladies, it's all downhill after your peak at age 22.

Well, hello, assh0le.

I am 45 and I feel like I am peaking at this stage of my life.

So post photos of yourself at 22 and 45 and let the audience judge.

Sorry, but your attractiveness to men is not based on what you "feel like". It is based on how men perceive you.

Humans peak physically at around 30. Confidence is attractive as part of the total package.
https://www.glamour.com/story/is-there-a-peak-beauty-age-one

LOL at a women's magazine saying women peak at 30.

Nope. Women peak at 20-22. Deal with it.



PS men do not give a damn about "confidence" no matter how much Glamour magazine wants it to be true.

PP here. You clearly didn't read the article to which I linked. It wasn't Glamour wanting it, it was Glamour discussing a study. And I don't have to deal with it, dimwit, me being a guy and all. Its guys like you that make me thank God I'm a heterosexual.

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Anonymous wrote:Late 30's caucasian male here, senior executive at a top 20 global brand......
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- Former coworker. Great body (D1 track athlete), pretty face, hyper-intelligent and successful ($500k+ annual income by herself), great personality. Keeps cutting her hair, and it's now probably as short as mine. Never wears makeup, or particularly attractive clothing. If she put in a bit of effort, she'd be a 9/10.

Top 20 global brand, top 10 school, top 5 douche.
Get over yourself dude.

PP here. You’re obviously free to think me stating my background is douchey. I think it is relevant.

A majority of answers have either been “I’m attracted to any woman who isn’t fat and will sleep with me. Or “ I want a woman with double Ds”. A lot of guys I went to HS with would give that answer.

But the guys I went to school with and in my professional life are different. Just like George Clooney chose Amal instead of Megan Fox, MDs at Banks and VPs at tech companies want more than just hourglass figures.

I would take a smart, pleasant woman with smallish boobs and a runner’s body that could tell stories about backpacking across Southeast Asia over a cosmetologist that looked like Sofia Vergara any day of the week.

I am an attractive, fit woman with a PhD, and I appreciate your post.