That emotionally bless humping was filling a void apparently. Why don't women understand if you're going to deprive a male of sex he is going to fill it somewhere else? Having a sexless marriage is worse than cheating because you've decided for two people they aren't going to have sex. If you don't want to then fine, but don't decide for your husband (or wife) that they're not going to either. I knew an older couple and she hit menopause and basically dried up. She said she's not interested in sex anymore and bluntly told him she has no desire to maintain a sexual relationship. Then she was surprised when he eventually went outside the marriage to get laid. She was done having sex but he wasn't. How is that fair? |
Interesting notion. So then when a guy gets married and expect his wife to be the same person he married - then she turns into raging b$tch and denies him a very basic and important tenant of marriage he should be okay with that? Sounds like he was robbed blind to me. If there was a case for young men to see why not to get married and have kids you just came up with the entire campaign. |
Right, how is that fair? So I guess every marriage should end when the woman hits 50 and then man gets to go look for new partners. Good luck, men. |
Most schools have lunches you can buy. Problem solved. Now start burning up the covers. |
Young men who don't understand the responsibilities of marriage and family should not get married, correct. |
Look. If your wife works full time, and you are so uninvolved in your family life that you don't even know if your kids school sells lunch or not, then you shouldn't be surprised she isn't sleeping with you. |
FYI, men are seeing there's no benefit and declining the notion of marriage and neither are women http://uvamagazine.org/articles/the_marriage_crisis Women still benefit more. If I cheat on my wife, she leaves, takes have the stuff gets the children and I'm left in financial ruin. If she cheats, she leaves, takes half my stuff, gets the children and I'm left in financial ruin. Either way guys are screwed pending the exception of the woman being a wackadoo. |
If she refuses sex then shy shouldn't he? He found someone obviously as she was upset he was getting sex. |
Are you in a miserable marriage? |
Way to dodge the point. I know that our schools sell lunches. I have no idea if OP or PPs do. Regardless, "packing lunches" is only ever going to be an excuse for not having sex. Getting rid of that chore isn't going to make a difference in a couple's sex life. |
It is not a juvenile fantasy to expect a normal/regular sexlife. And if the man's contributions to household responsibilities are indeed the reason she doesn't want sex, she should be telling him exactly that. I'm not hearing this from OP. No doubt there are some men who do nothing around the house: shame on them! Alot of women however lack the ability to walk away from (or outsource) household responsibilities that SHOULD BE ABDICATED. If packing lunches uses up all available time, or exhausts you, to the point where sex is of the table, then give the kids $6 to buy their lunch. Some women will NEVER prioritize the spousal relationship, REGARDLESS of how many household responsibilities the man takes on. Her list is endless because "the household" is fundamentally more important to her than "the marriage" and, no matter what he does, she can easily invent new things that always take priority over couple time. |
You both did. I'm going to continue reading now, but unless you can own up to that yours is a hopeless case. |
Okay OP, I finished reading.
1) I think you're a troll 2) If you're not, you need to end this marriage. You're not behaving like an adult and taking your life into your own hands, your flopping about and moaning that things are different. No shit! Life happens! You are clearly not willing to do the mental work required to find a solution - if trying to understand your wife means "I have to do everything" to you, you're hopeless - so save all of your family the misery and end it now. |
You're* and whatever else, I'm on a phone. |
Well, let's try an experiment. Men: start doing 50% of the childrearing and household labor. Then we'll see if women "invent new things". (Don't forget that even if you don't pack lunch, you have to remember to sign them up online, fund the account, get the money back if it's left over, cover preschool snack day, etc etc etc). |