Friend Group Dinners At Restaurants You'd Never Go

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?

OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.

I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.

BFD. You should have asked before eating mystery dip if you have allergies.

+100. This is not someone who is going to go into anaphalactic shock if she is in a room with shrimp. She's looking for drama.

There is cross contamination

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?

OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.

I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.

Ok then you are way too high maintenance buh bye

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?

OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.

I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.

BFD. You should have asked before eating mystery dip if you have allergies.

+100. This is not someone who is going to go into anaphalactic shock if she is in a room with shrimp. She's looking for drama.

There is cross contamination

Which you could have at any of the other restaurants suggested that also likely serve seafood that are apparently not a problem. OP doesn't say she won't eat at restaurants and reached in once to a strange dip and had to pop an OTC benadryl. BFD.

[Anonymous]

Poor baby . Nobody gives a f about you boo

[Anonymous]

This OP is one selfish idiot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?

For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.

Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?

Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?

I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.

I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?

For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.

Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?

Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?

I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.

I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.

Oh, so you never go to restaurants that serve shrimp? Right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?

For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.

Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?

Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?

I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.

I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.

OK but OP could have and should have reminded them during the selection discussion!
But she didn't, too devastated that people didn't remember her allergy.
That's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?

For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.

Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?

Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?

I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.

I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.

Do you eat in the kitchen at restaurants?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?

For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.

Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?

Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?

I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.

I am allergic to crustaceans and had a severe reaction
smelling airborne proteins from cooking shellfish. Allergies should be taken into consideration when selecting the restaurant.

Taking Benadryl isn’t the same as anaphylactic shock and while it’s always important to be mindful of allergies you are an adult and can take precautions on your own. Your allergies should not dictate what everyone else can and cannot do as a group. Maybe everyone else likes this restaurant and wants to go and are leaving it up to you to choose what works for you, go or don’t your choice. The alternative is not inviting you how would that make you feel?

[Anonymous]

You said a bunch of restaurants get suggested including a seafood one- so, no one insisted on that place or booked a reservation without input from the group? That’s your chance to chime in and say “I’d rather avoid Fish Place because of my allergy, but the Italian Place or Coffee Shop sound good to me!”

[Anonymous]

Even if people know you have an allergy they rarely think about specifics like cross contamination or invisible ingredients - they are assuming you can eat non shell fish or a salad without worry.

I’m always surprised when people don’t understand, for example, what ingredients are actual dairy and what is not. If you’ve never lived with a food restriction it’s just not what most people think about. Give some grace and advocate for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you reply that you don't eat at seafood restaurants due to your allergy?

OP here. I didn't reply at all because I don't want to make this about me. But Sarah knows my allergy and has seen me have an allergic reaction to a crab dip (thought it was artichoke dip) at a wedding a few years ago. I had to take a benadryl and go home.

I just would never suggest a place that I knew wouldn't work for someone. It seems deliberate.

Are you serious? I have a shellfish allergy and twice I've had my throat swell shut and was transported by ambulance and hospitalized and almost died. My legs were a scary shade of purple it was terrifying. Needing to take a Benadryl and go home? Are you serious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a friend in a group of friends suggests a meet up at a restaurant they know you don't like, do you just not go?

For instance, Sarah texts our group of 7 women suggesting a friend dinner. Everyone agrees on 7pm on December 5th. Then a bunch of restaurants get suggested, including a seafood restaurant. You are allergic to shellfish and don't care for fish.

Do you just decline the get together or do you eat a huge lunch and then just get drinks or a small salad?

Are you right to be put off by this when everyone knows your allergy?

I'm trying real hard to not be offended here.

What's worse is when you get one drink and small salad and someone ordering an expensive entree, multiple drinks, apps, and dessert suggests that the bill be split evenly for simplicity's sake...then you look like the cheap jerk if you protest.

[Anonymous]

Name the restaurant. Name the seafood restaurant that has no other options other than a salad. I will wait.

My brother is allergic to fish and to shellfish and routinely goes out to corporate lunches and dinners at Oceanaire and all the DC and Annapolis seafood places.

Name the restaurant. I mean, you won’t, but if you do we can point out recommendations for you.