37 year old son unemployed

Anonymous
He was employed, burned out and quit. Twice?
He says he can't get a private sector job because he doesn't have a business degree.
He won't look for a lower paying job.

Well, isn't that special.
Team ex-wife
Anonymous
He sounds like a real winner op jobless, wife-less because he couldn't commit to having children, homeless, a drinking problem and still loving at home with you. You know why? Because you're an enabler. Nothing is ever going to change for you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You might check out AlAnon for yourself.

He is still young enough to join the military.

Please.. he couldn't hack the job he had due to long hours and little pay. He wouldn't be able to get through basic training.

What he wants is a cushy high paying job to land on his lap.

Good luck to both OP and her DS.
Anonymous
I know a number of men and women both working 2 and 3 jobs. Most are hustling until they get a higher paying job. Three of them now have the higher paying job.

One is a drug rehab supervisor, one is a Funeral Director, and one is an RN. To reach these higher paying jobs they had to work lower paying jobs.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. His wife wanted children and my son was not ready as he doesn’t have his career figured out. She’d be sad and they’d get into arguments every weekend when he’d call me to complain and vent.

To answer your earlier question, he was employed at two companies doing risk consulting and he did not enjoy it; long hours and little pay. He burned out and quit.


As a 40 year old woman who went to Georgetown and works in risk consulting and just made partner with a one year old, your son is a total loser. Not even up for debate, he sucks and you failed. He didn't like it and burned out? Twice? Weak sauce. He's a child who probably can't network and doesn't get why his wife would want a kid and instead runs to mommy to complain and vent? And has now been unemployed 3 years? This is so completely pathetic I can barely believe it's real. "Hardest worker and a good boy" he's a friggin' Norman Bates capital L loser.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He has a masters degree from Georgetown and wanted to go to one of the Fed agencies. He was not able to get in and has been trying different things. Most recently he attempted self employment and became discouraged when his work dried up. He was also in an abusive marriage where his wife was upset with him for lot being ready to have children which also brought him down I think.

He feels very depressed and doesn’t know how to obtain gainful employment and thinks he is too old now.


That does not qualify as an "abusive marriage".

What type/subject area is his master's degree ?

FWIW Lots of well educated individuals work at low level jobs (think Starbucks/Walmart/Home Depot/Lowes/tutoring students) in order to get into the workforce and earn money. Everyone has to start somewhere.


This is outdated, wrong advice. The job market is awful (yea, even for low level
jobs). These places aren’t hiring people either advanced degrees from Georgetown (who they know won’t stay). All applications are done online and AI scans them for *recent* retail experience. None? You don’t even get an interview.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Tell him starting December 1 he needs to start paying $1,000 in rent to you each month. The idea he's too old to get a job is ridiculous! Go work at Costco or Trader Joe's. He just can't get what kind of job he WANTS. He needs to get over his ego. Time for tough love.


This advice is cracking me up. Do you have ANY idea how sought after retail jobs at Costco are? He’s never, ever getting hired there.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a real winner op jobless, wife-less because he couldn't commit to having children, homeless, a drinking problem and still loving at home with you. You know why? Because you're an enabler. Nothing is ever going to change for you.


OP must be a troll. Especially with the lame Reveals of more loser examples.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You might check out AlAnon for yourself.

He is still young enough to join the military.


LOL
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I don’t appreciate your cruel response towards my son. He is a good boy with the biggest heart. He basically supported his ex wife for most of the time they were married and instead of being patient and supportive she kept pushing him. My son is the hardest worker and will figure out his life’s purpose. Not everyone is suited to office life. I don’t mind him living with me as it’s nice to have company and he is a great conversationalist. I do wish he was happier and didn’t drink so much.


Are you trolling the board, OP?

If not, I feel sorry for you and sorrier for your son that his parent is apparently incapable of guiding him to launch.

Who is paying for the alcohol he’s drinking, OP?

He needs to get off the couch and go get his behind into a volunteering role in the community somewhere. There is no excuse for not working - whether for pay or not - when one is 37 and able bodied. He’s a drain on his parent and also on society, wasting himself on the sofa and in a bottle all day.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You might check out AlAnon for yourself.

He is still young enough to join the military.


LOL


He should join ICE, they’re seeking total losers and will give them $50k sign on bonuses and a very sweet student loan repayment package if they stay long enough. The pay is over $100k for some of the immigration officers.
Anonymous
Mommy and good boy sitting in the tree! Tried to be a man 10 years ago but now just sucks the teat.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He has a masters degree from Georgetown and wanted to go to one of the Fed agencies. He was not able to get in and has been trying different things. Most recently he attempted self employment and became discouraged when his work dried up. He was also in an abusive marriage where his wife was upset with him for lot being ready to have children which also brought him down I think.

He feels very depressed and doesn’t know how to obtain gainful employment and thinks he is too old now.


That does not qualify as an "abusive marriage".

What type/subject area is his master's degree ?

FWIW Lots of well educated individuals work at low level jobs (think Starbucks/Walmart/Home Depot/Lowes/tutoring students) in order to get into the workforce and earn money. Everyone has to start somewhere.


This is outdated, wrong advice. The job market is awful (yea, even for low level
jobs). These places aren’t hiring people either advanced degrees from Georgetown (who they know won’t stay). All applications are done online and AI scans them for *recent* retail experience. None? You don’t even get an interview.

Not true. We are hiring in Georgetown without any experience. Walk in or send a resume. We need about 10 new workers and this is a small business.
My 18-year old got hired in VA right after interview and works 10-hours shifts at times.
My best friend goes back to her old customer service job as they can't find workers.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He has a masters degree from Georgetown and wanted to go to one of the Fed agencies. He was not able to get in and has been trying different things. Most recently he attempted self employment and became discouraged when his work dried up. He was also in an abusive marriage where his wife was upset with him for lot being ready to have children which also brought him down I think.

He feels very depressed and doesn’t know how to obtain gainful employment and thinks he is too old now.


That does not qualify as an "abusive marriage".

What type/subject area is his master's degree ?

FWIW Lots of well educated individuals work at low level jobs (think Starbucks/Walmart/Home Depot/Lowes/tutoring students) in order to get into the workforce and earn money. Everyone has to start somewhere.


This is outdated, wrong advice. The job market is awful (yea, even for low level
jobs). These places aren’t hiring people either advanced degrees from Georgetown (who they know won’t stay). All applications are done online and AI scans them for *recent* retail experience. None? You don’t even get an interview.

Not true. We are hiring in Georgetown without any experience. Walk in or send a resume. We need about 10 new workers and this is a small business.
My 18-year old got hired in VA right after interview and works 10-hours shifts at times.
My best friend goes back to her old customer service job as they can't find workers.


Who is we--Starbucks, Walmart or Home Depot in Georgetown?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does he really get a choice of what pays enough is he is living in your basement at 37. Cut the apron strings. I can see why his wife dumped him.


Because she was abusive and didn’t support his dreams?


Because she wanted to be married to an adult, not a 2 yo toddler

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