Hot take: is menopause so bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from symptom relief, HRT protects the brain, heart, bones, UTIs (which can become chronic and problematic) and decreases the risk of some cancers. I genuinely don’t see why this isn’t enough to justify using it.

Citations for all of these claims, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my, I love to stop yelling post. You’re so funny. We are still funny!

Why wouldn't you be funny?

So much drama about menopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mood changes (particularly sad, rage, and distracted)/weight gain/insomnia we hard but bottom line this is what was hard: it wasn’t talked about until recently. If it was men it would be talked about all the time (Remember that Cosby Show episode that imagined all the men pregnant? Like that.) Our mothers and grandmothers were just made fun of and given side eye. And this is what’s still hard - people like Vance still say just have the “post menopausal” women watch the children. So the not talking about it and being othered is what’s hard.

Actually men don’t like to talk about health issues at all. If men had menopause it would be a joke instead of stigmatized though. A key element of masculinity is not complaining and pushing through, for better or for worse.

Except for colds.

[Anonymous]

Men talk about health issues in my observation but maybe it depends on the group

[Anonymous]

I remember the day in the 80’s my mom and grandmother heard about the studies indicating that HRT should be avoided due to potential cancer risk. Neither of them used profanity on any regular basis but they did then.

Fast forward to current times; I wish I had started HRT around 53 when peri was transitioning to full menopause. My hot flashes were spectacular. I told some poor 20-ish kid who was freezing that he could not turn off the air on a 14+ hour international flight because I would expire. Whatever he saw in my eyes convinced him.

I managed through this until around 58–still had hot flashes and poor sleep but not as bad—and then finally had the courage to discuss HRT with my provider due to some ongoing hot flashes and osteopenia diagnosis.

I feel so much better with my estrogen patch and progesterone. I have a libido again (not even something that was forefront), no hot flashes, more energy, and just generally feel more like myself. I don’t care about my gray hair or other physical signs of aging. I just appreciate feeling healthy, sleeping, and genuinely wanting to exercise.

Peri/meno was not unmanageable to me, but I feel so much better and wish I had asked about HRT sooner. I am still happy to join others in the swamp and wear swishy black clothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my, I love to stop yelling post. You’re so funny. We are still funny!

Why wouldn't you be funny?

So much drama about menopause.

You’re truly just so mean. I wish you’d find another group to kick at and get what you deserve. If the mods didn’t delete for language, you’d get told what you are constantly.

I’ve never had a miscarriage. I’ve never been morbidly obese. I’ve never had to use a food bank. I’ve never had a kid with learning disabilities. I’ve also never gone to discussion forums and made the nastiest, most dismissive comments to people who have in fact had those experiences. Perimenopause is difficult for some women. It beggars belief that you won’t cut the shit and get so much obvious pleasure being a c to women getting symptom help, safely and via reputable doctors.