Anyone else feel like their spouse despises them?

[Anonymous]

Chiming in here as well - OP just educated yourself on the literature and see if you detect any patters - a PP mentioned a book called Smart, Successful, and Abused; I have not read that - but I have read "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patrician Evans and it convinced me to leave a bad relationship.

Ignore the PPs who think you are a troll - your post resonates with me - what happens is the "frog in a frying pan" effect where incrementally the behavior gets worse, but normalized, and so you think it is normal when it is not. It is very confusing and can leave you feeling uncertain if you are over/under reacting.

He may well well despise that you are not the perfect version of him that he wants you to be. Becuase you are an individual.