Can I ask for payment?

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Anonymous wrote:How did you not discuss this ahead of time? You were wrong not to, and the other kids’ parents were wrong not to offer. If you need the money, ask, if not chalk it up to a life experience. How many rooms were there? It’s a little dodgier if they weren’t all in your room or the room the other kid paid for.

15 - 17 year olds. The two kids who didn’t pay shared a room. My plan was that my kid would stay in my room, but the kid who paid offered him the other bed in his room.

If the kids were of different sex, then I can see the two additional rooms. But if they were all boys/girls, at least the other three kids could have shared one room.

OP - I see a lot of lessons learned here, I’m sure that the parents of the one kid that paid were surprised that he was charged full price for a room and that you were going to have their 16yo kid stay in a room alone -.

I’m curious, if the other kids had offered to pay for their own rooms, would you have gotten them each their own?

The decision to book three rooms was made before I had any idea the kid was paying. This was a sports ID camp, with college coaches who the kids were trying to impress. In my opinion, sleep is critical to playing well, so I wasn't going to ask my kid to sleep on the floor or share a bed. I assumed that others felt the same way, and based on that, I booked a bed for each kid, plus one for myself which meant 3 rooms total. When I texted the parents to confirm the plan, I said "We're booked at X hotel. I can add extra rooms."

The kid who paid for the room did so at check in. He just handed over a card and asked that one of the rooms be charged to him. He then asked my kid if he wanted to share. My kid said something to him about paying for half the room and he said no, his mom had told him to pay for it. He did something similar one of the times we stopped for gas, and when we stopped for fast food on the way up and the way back. When I paid for dinner for the group, he apple paid me the appropriate amount without me asking. It seemed clear that his mom had done some coaching about how to make sure he was paying for himself. I don't imagine they were surprised.

His mom is well bred, the other two are trashy. I can't imagine sending my kids out with other families and not telling them to pay for themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you blew it by not stating the cost and getting payment ahead of time. Now it just seems petty. Eat the cost and handle it differently if there is ever a next time.

Not OP's fault, the other families should have offered. They are either rude or cheap.

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Anonymous wrote:How much are we talking about?

Does it matter? Either if it is only $200, the other two families are rude.

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Anonymous wrote:The longer you wait the more petty it seems

Petty?

Yes, petty is a good word. And makes OP looks cheap and poor.

- dp

You are entitled and trashy, like trailer trash, just want to mooch off.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you blew it by not stating the cost and getting payment ahead of time. Now it just seems petty. Eat the cost and handle it differently if there is ever a next time.

Not OP's fault, the other families should have offered. They are either rude or cheap.

Op needs to set the expectations up front. Most would not expect three rooms.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

Even if she could have gotten two rooms, which I generally agree that she could have, you still have two boys who took a free room from her. That's not right.

Correct. Each of those kids' parents needs to cover the cost of 1/2 the hotel room.

One parent covered one room. So, the difference is the half room op child shared.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

They are cheapskates. You know so because one of the families make their kids pay,

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Anonymous wrote:No, you agree in advanced. Everyone could have stayed in one room. Kids paid for food. You are being absurd.

Why? The other families are so poor that they can't even pay their kid a bed for one night? Then they should not be doing travel sports.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

No one paid her for the third hotel room.

Even if she didn't take the kids, she still would have gotten two rooms, one for her, and one for her child.

No she said she got beds for everyone, which required 3 rooms for 5 people. She already said her son would have slept in the room with her if he hadn't been invited by the other boy who refused payment.

Completely unnecessary. They are teen boys. Two rooms would have been plenty. Two boys could share or get a rollaway or an air mattress.

She made an assumption about the third room, yes, but the parents and boys who slept there also made assumptions. No way OP is more wrong than they are. And I make my kids sleep on the floor in hotel rooms with me sometimes, but there's no way I'd expect or think anyone would expect 3 boys to stay with a mom they don't even know....

Op child stay with her. Other kids share the paid for room.

Sure, that would have been fine, but those boys took the third room instead of saying we were expecting to stay three in a room.

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who think OP shouldn't even ask, can you expand on your reasoning? Is it just because she didn't ask beforehand? I don't see how that leads to a conclusion it's rude to ask now. Or is it just DCUM assuming all OPs are always in the wrong?

One child paid for a hotel room. Kids paid for their own food. What more is owed?

My god, MAGA white people are really free loaders.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you not discuss this ahead of time? You were wrong not to, and the other kids’ parents were wrong not to offer. If you need the money, ask, if not chalk it up to a life experience. How many rooms were there? It’s a little dodgier if they weren’t all in your room or the room the other kid paid for.

15 - 17 year olds. The two kids who didn’t pay shared a room. My plan was that my kid would stay in my room, but the kid who paid offered him the other bed in his room.

If the kids were of different sex, then I can see the two additional rooms. But if they were all boys/girls, at least the other three kids could have shared one room.

OP - I see a lot of lessons learned here, I’m sure that the parents of the one kid that paid were surprised that he was charged full price for a room and that you were going to have their 16yo kid stay in a room alone -.

I’m curious, if the other kids had offered to pay for their own rooms, would you have gotten them each their own?

The decision to book three rooms was made before I had any idea the kid was paying. This was a sports ID camp, with college coaches who the kids were trying to impress. In my opinion, sleep is critical to playing well, so I wasn't going to ask my kid to sleep on the floor or share a bed. I assumed that others felt the same way, and based on that, I booked a bed for each kid, plus one for myself which meant 3 rooms total. When I texted the parents to confirm the plan, I said "We're booked at X hotel. I can add extra rooms."

The kid who paid for the room did so at check in. He just handed over a card and asked that one of the rooms be charged to him. He then asked my kid if he wanted to share. My kid said something to him about paying for half the room and he said no, his mom had told him to pay for it. He did something similar one of the times we stopped for gas, and when we stopped for fast food on the way up and the way back. When I paid for dinner for the group, he apple paid me the appropriate amount without me asking. It seemed clear that his mom had done some coaching about how to make sure he was paying for himself. I don't imagine they were surprised.

Kids don't need their own hotel rooms. YOU wanted your own hotel room and that's differnt. If you can afford these sports, and travel, stop being petty. Its really strange someone this comfortable is petty. You would have gotten two hotel rooms anyway. Let the kids pay directly for their own food. Whats with the reinbursement non-sense?

What? She would have gotten only one hotel room with two beds for her and her son.

And, another child paid for the second hotel room and all the other boys could have stayed in there. She wanted her own room and a room for her son so she choose to pay for two rooms. She should have been upfront with the plan. She wouldn't have shared with her son. She was clear in her post of that.

Just pay for your own share already, before OP has to ask. You are so cheap and trashy.

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My DS did a travel sport, tons of ID camps and now is playing for his college as a recruited athlete. All this to show that I have had a significant amount of similar road and plane trips involving his playing his sport.

This thread is yet another example of why I learned pretty quickly to just focus on my own child throughout all those pre-college sport years. When early on I helped two other families by taking their kids as well as my own, I was taken for granted and burned financially. Did not even get a verbal "thank you" from one family. From then on, I politely declined any requests to take other children and just focused on my own. The "village" I have found is often not fair to those who do the actual work. Even when an event came along where another child would not be able to attend without my help (read: driving, chaperoning and paying) I declined. As it often does, the poor behavior of some can ruin future opportunities for others. It is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you ask these things before you go.

She does not have to ask, the other families should have offered, and thanks her. Are you raised by savages?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you blew it by not stating the cost and getting payment ahead of time. Now it just seems petty. Eat the cost and handle it differently if there is ever a next time.

Not OP's fault, the other families should have offered. They are either rude or cheap.

Op needs to set the expectations up front. Most would not expect three rooms.

Well, too bad. You send your kids to OP, so time to pay.