Do you say anything if visiting family are dressed inappropriately?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

No, it’s really not. And they’ve been to this party nearly ten years in a row. They and she knows nobody has worn such a skirt. People are dressed for the country club or church, not a Vegas nightclub.

OMG OP, have you been to a country club? Of course girls wear miniskirts and even *gasp* skimpy bikinis by the pool. You seem to have the idea that at a “country club” people wear riding tweeds and wellies like Victorian England. “Chip, chip Rodger old chap, let’s hunt some fox after lunch.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

No, it’s really not. And they’ve been to this party nearly ten years in a row. They and she knows nobody has worn such a skirt. People are dressed for the country club or church, not a Vegas nightclub.

Very short minis are what's in fashion now. My kids are still elementary, but at their holiday concert the middle school girls were all wearing dresses so short they had to keep tugging at them. I don't get the fashion or find it particularly flattering, let alone practical, but your niece wasn't wearing anything weird.

Dresses were all similar to this: https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-gathered-tulip-hem-dress?ID=14246338&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RWT-dede8dfc-79b8-4de6-90ca-7801f1e210c5%40HE8%40You%2Bmay%2Balso%2Blike%2418109%2415399981~xcm_pos~zPos3~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

They've been in fashion for more than 10 years, people! 9 years ago, when my oldest was in middle school, the girls wore butt skimming dresses for parties, and the phenomenon was nothing new.

OP is one of the most uptight people I've read on DCUM in a long time, who isn't part of a modesty-oriented minority group (hijab-wearers, Amish, fundamentalists, etc).

She pretexts that her party has had the same dress code for ever, and that's why the mini skirt was inappropriate.
But that is EXACTLY why a teen decided it was time to dress differently, for Heaven's sake. You're not very bright, OP, are you? Enforce a dowdy dress code for years (cozy business casual, really? are you a troll?)... get a mini skirt. I bet more more people are going to break the mold next time, and a good thing too. You're going to be end up becoming of those decrepit old people who can't accept that times change and life goes on. Go practice shaking your fist immediately, you're going to need it.

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Posters coming for OP with their pitchforks and burning bra-torches in the name of girls' rights to excite the pervert neighbors.

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What would you even say? From time to time I’ve caught inadvertent glimpses of people’s undergarments, but it’s never occurred to me to tell, say, a colleague “hey, Lauren, when you reached over to pick up that pen earlier your blouse gaped and I saw your BRA” or a friend “Abby, when you got out of the car at the restaurant I saw your UNDERWEAR” like don’t we all just pretend we don’t notice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
But... a mini skirt is an appropriate choice for a friends and relatives casual party.

Are you part of a particular religious community, OP, that mini skirts shock you that much?!?!

I truly don't get it. Wardrobe malfunctions should be separated from the choice of wearing normal clothes, such as mini skirts.

No, it’s really not. And they’ve been to this party nearly ten years in a row. They and she knows nobody has worn such a skirt. People are dressed for the country club or church, not a Vegas nightclub.

Minis are worn in country clubs. Do you seriously expect people to dress as if in church for your little holiday party? I'm so glad someone branched out and rebelled, OP. Your party sounds awful, with the most terribly dressed people imaginable! And you're the most awful thing in all this story. How dare you criticize a woman for wearing a mini skirt!!! Shame on you.

Is this a joke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hosted family and friends over the weekend for an annual party at our vacation home. Not a snooty affair, everyone comes dressed in cozy business casual attire. My niece was not the only 17 to 20 year old, however, she was the only one wearing essentially a mini skirt, so short that my elderly mother saw her underwear when she reached down to grab something. You could feel guests looking at her and side-eying. We didn't say anything but I sort of regret not saying anything to her parents. That said, our children are younger, so I acknowledge I don't know how difficult it is to veto clothing choices on technically adult kids when you attend an event together.

LET.IT.GO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posters coming for OP with their pitchforks and burning bra-torches in the name of girls' rights to excite the pervert neighbors.

Right? Creepy and weird. Bunch of miserable feminist shut-ins trolling over the holidays.

[Anonymous]

You are a trip, OP. I would like a store that specializes in cozy business casual.

[Anonymous]

Typically I'd wear a nice black sweater, tasteful dark skinny jeans, nice thin heeled black boots, nice bag and jewelry to an evening holiday party - would that have gotten OP's gossip mill going? Maybe it's more about not fitting in than showing skin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typically I'd wear a nice black sweater, tasteful dark skinny jeans, nice thin heeled black boots, nice bag and jewelry to an evening holiday party - would that have gotten OP's gossip mill going? Maybe it's more about not fitting in than showing skin?

Black? Not festive enough
Jeans? Too casual
Thin heeled boots? Too hard on the floor, assuming you kept them on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your guests are rude if they're side eyeing a kid's mini skirt.

Mini skirts so short that underwear shows are worn to attract attention. Therefore there is no judgment for people who notice. Don’t be ridiculous.

People used to say this about ankles. She deserved it, her ankles were out. They still say it about hair, etc.

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I’m able to just coast along through life without getting upset or out of control horny about other people’s bodies and it’s really easy. I wish other people would try it. It’s freeing!!

Omg I’m such a hypocrite because I just realized that toes on an airplane will really, really ruin my day. So maybe I need to be more understanding of the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Typically I'd wear a nice black sweater, tasteful dark skinny jeans, nice thin heeled black boots, nice bag and jewelry to an evening holiday party - would that have gotten OP's gossip mill going? Maybe it's more about not fitting in than showing skin?

Black? Not festive enough
Jeans? Too casual
Thin heeled boots? Too hard on the floor, assuming you kept them on

Appreciate this feedback! Will step up my cozy business casual game for holiday 2025.

[Anonymous]

I am a healthy body weight and wore leggings with a mid length sweater to a holiday dinner at my aunt’s house. My overweight cousins body-shamed me at the dinner table and the older one told me not to attend again because she thinks I am a bad influence on her 23 year old daughter. So I have not seen them since. I do still wear leggings when dressed casually.

[Anonymous]

In my book leggings = sweats. I would only wear that to a very casual dinner at my home with my family or a girls’ pajama night type dinner.