Does anyone hate how competitive the world has become?

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Anonymous wrote:I went to an Ivy League college and I used to interview for the school, but I stopped wasting my time when no one I interviewed ever got in. At least from that, I knew since my kids’ births that elite college admissions was a total crapshoot.

Sports - my oldest is doing great in HS in no cut activities - marching band and crew. I think the important thing is to be a joiner and get involved in literally anything you can enjoy.

College - maybe we are thinking VT or Penn State is more likely than UVA. I think grad school is the new college. I think my kids will likely go to grad school and that will help.

Work - I am honestly not that impressed with the younger people at work these days. I still think there is still a place for people to succeed who are dependable, responsive, and who take initiative to do the hard work.

I have good older role models. My grandmother lived in the same small un-updated ranch house from 1960-2023. You do NOT need a McMansion to be happy. You need to use something like YNAB / Ramit Sethi and take responsibility for your own finances and live within your means.

I don't really understand this mentality. There are tons of underemployed grad school graduates with really massive student loan debt. There are plenty of VT graduates doing well as engineers or other STEM fields, or working for Accenture, etc. Same for Penn State.

I’ve said this to someone else on here before - but my engineer dad has a masters. My spouse is a teacher and gets paid more with a masters. Most of my peers are employed and have graduate degrees. It’s not imperative but I think can be helpful in most fields if you do it right. But you don’t have to agree with me!

If I am not mistaken, a teacher gets an automatic pay bump for having a graduate degree...so, if you become a teacher you would of course go do that. There are similar government jobs that work this way as well.

However, even your examples are a far cry from "grad school is the new college", and you just have anecdotes. To this day, most CEOs (over 50%) have nothing more than a BA/BS.

Some people value education. Others don’t. It is fine if you don’t. I personally think it is the easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six figure income. I earned 200k+ out of grad school at age 27 and that 20 years ago.

That's a silly argument...law school isn't "education", it's vocational training...getting an MBA isn't "education", it's again vocational training and networking.

You even don't seem to value education as you described it as the "easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six-figure income".

Well my husband couldn’t be a surgeon without his MD. Almost every person he went to college with is either a doctor or phd in science. My friends mostly have mbas or law degrees. I don’t really care which path my kids choose.

We actually now have a seven figure HHI.

So everyone you know took the same three paths? Most having the MBAs and law degrees, the two degrees used by people who can’t think of anything else to do. Must have some real exciting parties.

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Anonymous wrote:Everything is so damn competitive now, and I don't know how people survive this world. It starts when someone is young with how competitive youth sports has become. It is extremely difficult to even make the JV team now. College admissions are more competitive and cutthroat than ever, and you have to be insanely lucky to get into a school like UVA, UMich, or UNC right now.

Even if you make it into a good college, the competition doesn't stop there. Most engineering, premed, and business clubs require applications and interviews to join. Greek life rejects most people who try to join. Getting research experience is extremely hard too.

And it is impossible to find a job now once you graduate.

How are kids supposed to survive now?

Greek life? Nobody in the real world cares about that.

Except the fraternity/sorority brothers/sisters that may hook you up with a sweet job. I think that's what OP is alluding.

Your sorority connection will get you more gig work.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just the dc area. Move to the south or Midwest

THIS - or mountains. East Coast metro is the worst for rat race competitiveness.

If you’re speaking about sports, the DC area isn’t exactly known as a sports hub. It’s also not an area where a lot of pro athletes come from. The travel sports are similar to cheerleaders traveling to compete. It can be a fun activity for the whole family to involved in. But there might be a handful that can play in college, maybe 1-2%. Same with grades, 1% of students will get SATs greater than 1500.

So is it really competitive? You can’t give your child the genetics necessary to be a super athlete. He can only be the best he can be with what he has to work with. Same with academics. So students aren’t really competing against other students, they are just working on being the best that they can be. Parents need to be happy with that.

There are enough pro athletes and Olympians from this area to create a pretty intense culture around it but not enough to create an infrastructure that really creates a pipeline. An interesting thing to me is that despite this area having a decent number of pro athletes and Olympians you don't see any of them really helping raise up another generation of athletes. Sure some of them work with youth in this area sometimes but you don't see the same outreach you see other places.

It's also expensive to participate in sports in this area and the cost of other things (especially housing) makes it harder for families to afford to raise seriously competitive athletes. We have friends who live in suburbs of cities with much lower cost of living and they can afford travel sports and private coaching and pricy club sports more easily because if you can get a mortgage on a 4-5 bedroom house in a good school district for less than $1500 a month (totally feasible in places like St Louis and Cleveland and Indianapolis) then just your average college educated professional can afford a lot more spending on sports.

In DC you have to be truly wealthy to do that. Also people we know in lower COL cities are way more likely to have either a sahm or local family who can help with the logistics side of athletics whereas both COL and the culture in the DC area pushes a lot more people to be dual income and many people here are transplants with no local family support.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just the dc area. Move to the south or Midwest

THIS - or mountains. East Coast metro is the worst for rat race competitiveness.

If you’re speaking about sports, the DC area isn’t exactly known as a sports hub. It’s also not an area where a lot of pro athletes come from. The travel sports are similar to cheerleaders traveling to compete. It can be a fun activity for the whole family to involved in. But there might be a handful that can play in college, maybe 1-2%. Same with grades, 1% of students will get SATs greater than 1500.

So is it really competitive? You can’t give your child the genetics necessary to be a super athlete. He can only be the best he can be with what he has to work with. Same with academics. So students aren’t really competing against other students, they are just working on being the best that they can be. Parents need to be happy with that.

It is competitive enough where you need specialized training from a young age to make it to the high school level. It isn't like in the Midwest where anyone can sign up for any sport they want.

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Anonymous wrote:People who lament about this are usually competitive themselves and mad that their kids aren’t top of the pile.

That may be true for some but I also think mostly the people talking about this are okay with their kids not being the very best. The fear is that increased competition for resources like education and jobs will mean that being simply okay (as opposed to exceptional) will mean a hard and difficult life.

Given the cost of higher education and the cost of housing these fears may not be unfounded. Look at the conversation on this thread that "grad school is the new college degree." The argument is that it doesn't matter where you go to college because grad school is what matters. That's fine for upper middle class and wealthy families who can support kids through grad school and help them avoid loans or pay them off quickly. It's terrible news for middle class kids who are already struggling to pay for undergrad and now face pressure to get graduate degrees. And the whole proposition is risky because if you borrow money for grad school on the premise that you will get a better paying job what happens if that job doesn't materialize.

I think this anxiety is especially pronounced in places like the DC area where it is genuinely hard to be middle class -- cost of living is very high and resources like quality schools and good extra-curricular opportunities for kids are also expensive. There are programs to help people afford housing and opportunities for kids but they are mostly not available to middle class families -- you need to have an HHI of 80k or less to get access to most of those programs unless you have a lot of kids.

This really is generally not about sour grapes from privileged parents who are mad their kids aren't winning all the accolades. There may be some of that but I think this is mostly just class anxiety and that it is pretty valid.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just the dc area. Move to the south or Midwest

THIS - or mountains. East Coast metro is the worst for rat race competitiveness.

If you’re speaking about sports, the DC area isn’t exactly known as a sports hub. It’s also not an area where a lot of pro athletes come from. The travel sports are similar to cheerleaders traveling to compete. It can be a fun activity for the whole family to involved in. But there might be a handful that can play in college, maybe 1-2%. Same with grades, 1% of students will get SATs greater than 1500.

So is it really competitive? You can’t give your child the genetics necessary to be a super athlete. He can only be the best he can be with what he has to work with. Same with academics. So students aren’t really competing against other students, they are just working on being the best that they can be. Parents need to be happy with that.

No one really cares about sports. Not really. Most want their kids to be “good” for the sake of being good, but at the end of the day, the goal for most parents is to set you child up with a pathway to making a lot of money and a good living. For most, that won’t be through sports. Sports are just a box to check for accomplishments

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Anonymous wrote:My wish for my son with a number of learning disabilities is to teach sailing in Costa Rica or something. Have a little place, make a few friends and be happy. Whether he goes to a top college or even college, he's well educated being such a book worm anyway. He has a bit of money he'll inherit from a Trust Fund in his 20s so it'll be enough for him to survive. He has always loved to sail and teach - he's great with kids.

I don't need him to work in an office and become a VP or CEO. I don't need him to be an attorney or neurosurgeon or engineer to be "productive." I don't need him to make X amount of money and live in a "great" neighborhood. I just want him to be happy, healthy, feel good about what he does for work. He needs very little to be happy and academically, it's an uphill climb and I'm adamant that he doesn't have to climb that mountain unless he chooses to. He can live a "small" life and if that's enough for him, that's enough for me. In no way does this make him less of a person, man, son to me. I know his worth and I know how intelligent and knowledgeable he is without society judging him. His sanity and happiness is what I care about most of all.

I think this is a good outlook, but you're coming from a privileged viewpoint. I have a DD with learning disabilities. She works very hard in school and I suspect she will graduate HS with a decent but not stellar GPA. I don't need her to live a "big" life, but she isn't going to have a trust fund and I want her to be able to afford to raise children if she decides she wants to do that. I worry a lot about how hard it is going to be for her to scrape together a living. I am more than willing to keep working so I can help some along the way, but that won't be good for her self esteem and it's not the answer long term.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to an Ivy League college and I used to interview for the school, but I stopped wasting my time when no one I interviewed ever got in. At least from that, I knew since my kids’ births that elite college admissions was a total crapshoot.

Sports - my oldest is doing great in HS in no cut activities - marching band and crew. I think the important thing is to be a joiner and get involved in literally anything you can enjoy.

College - maybe we are thinking VT or Penn State is more likely than UVA. I think grad school is the new college. I think my kids will likely go to grad school and that will help.

Work - I am honestly not that impressed with the younger people at work these days. I still think there is still a place for people to succeed who are dependable, responsive, and who take initiative to do the hard work.

I have good older role models. My grandmother lived in the same small un-updated ranch house from 1960-2023. You do NOT need a McMansion to be happy. You need to use something like YNAB / Ramit Sethi and take responsibility for your own finances and live within your means.

I don't really understand this mentality. There are tons of underemployed grad school graduates with really massive student loan debt. There are plenty of VT graduates doing well as engineers or other STEM fields, or working for Accenture, etc. Same for Penn State.

I’ve said this to someone else on here before - but my engineer dad has a masters. My spouse is a teacher and gets paid more with a masters. Most of my peers are employed and have graduate degrees. It’s not imperative but I think can be helpful in most fields if you do it right. But you don’t have to agree with me!

If I am not mistaken, a teacher gets an automatic pay bump for having a graduate degree...so, if you become a teacher you would of course go do that. There are similar government jobs that work this way as well.

However, even your examples are a far cry from "grad school is the new college", and you just have anecdotes. To this day, most CEOs (over 50%) have nothing more than a BA/BS.

Some people value education. Others don’t. It is fine if you don’t. I personally think it is the easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six figure income. I earned 200k+ out of grad school at age 27 and that 20 years ago.

That's a silly argument...law school isn't "education", it's vocational training...getting an MBA isn't "education", it's again vocational training and networking.

You even don't seem to value education as you described it as the "easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six-figure income".

You sound dumb. I’m sure we don’t travel in the same circles.

You sound downright moronic. We probably don't because my circle includes CEOs, P/E principals, investment bank co-founders...just my little circle of successful folks without graduate degrees.

Right back at you. The investment bankers, PE, VC people we know mostly all have ivy mbas. I dont know what kind of crap IB cofounders you know.

The rich ones? You know you can’t win this game right, when the actual richest people in the country (vs your fictional friends) don’t have graduate degrees…and many don’t even have college degrees.

I don’t even know why I am wasting time with some random person on the internet. I’m very proud of my ivy degrees. DH had to work hard for his Ivy MD education. That is fine if you don’t value these but we do. My dad was a professor and has 4 degrees.

We are getting older and I don’t really care much about anything anymore. I don’t put pressure on our kids. I really don’t care about your rich friends or mine. My kids are smart and can compete in a highly competitive environment. Most people we socialize with went to grad school and my kids want to attend top colleges. It is fine if you didn’t or don’t want your kids to go to a top college and grad school.

NP. But why are you making these weird flexes? I promise you, there are a lot of doctors making equal or more than your DH that never went to Ivy schools. In fact, most Ivy degree doctors work in academia/research and don’t make very much at all.

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Success is not about which college you attend, it is about what you do when you are there. If you have high EQ, and you attend Ivies, you are very likely going to be successful. Attending Ivies without a high EQ is not going to do much for you. On the other hand, if you have high EQ and attend UVA for example, you are likely to be successful as well, even though it might be a bit longer. I like to think of a Porsche 911 and a Toyota Camry. Under a professional driver with the same skill set, a Porsche will go much faster than a Camry. Now if you put an 80-year-old driver (low EQ) in the Porsche vs. Camry, it will not make any difference.

There are so many things that colleges just do not teach you, EQ is one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just the dc area. Move to the south or Midwest

THIS - or mountains. East Coast metro is the worst for rat race competitiveness.

If you’re speaking about sports, the DC area isn’t exactly known as a sports hub. It’s also not an area where a lot of pro athletes come from. The travel sports are similar to cheerleaders traveling to compete. It can be a fun activity for the whole family to involved in. But there might be a handful that can play in college, maybe 1-2%. Same with grades, 1% of students will get SATs greater than 1500.

So is it really competitive? You can’t give your child the genetics necessary to be a super athlete. He can only be the best he can be with what he has to work with. Same with academics. So students aren’t really competing against other students, they are just working on being the best that they can be. Parents need to be happy with that.

I guess you don’t know basketball. The DMV has a crazy number of NBA players.

Also, this past season the DMV had 4 high schools in the top 20 in the country…PVI, Sidwell, Jackson-Reed, and Gonzaga…with Dematha and SJC in the top 30.

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We are middle class with a too-high mortgage, but still doing sports. In a “lesser” FCPS HS, it is still possible for kids to get into varsity sports even if the parents are not loaded with disposable income. And even if the kids don’t make it to Nationals or whatever, they are getting the benefits from playing the sport.

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So it appears that people living in ‘great’ school districts are facing more competition and pressure because everyone has money and wants the same colleges and sports etc. If you go further away or to an ‘okay’ school district there will be less competition and less pressure.. big fish little pond..
So why do people keep moving to better/best school districts? Are they seeking competition? Or do they think that by being in a better school district will help them in some way? But clearly its harder for those kids who compete with others like them.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to an Ivy League college and I used to interview for the school, but I stopped wasting my time when no one I interviewed ever got in. At least from that, I knew since my kids’ births that elite college admissions was a total crapshoot.

Sports - my oldest is doing great in HS in no cut activities - marching band and crew. I think the important thing is to be a joiner and get involved in literally anything you can enjoy.

College - maybe we are thinking VT or Penn State is more likely than UVA. I think grad school is the new college. I think my kids will likely go to grad school and that will help.

Work - I am honestly not that impressed with the younger people at work these days. I still think there is still a place for people to succeed who are dependable, responsive, and who take initiative to do the hard work.

I have good older role models. My grandmother lived in the same small un-updated ranch house from 1960-2023. You do NOT need a McMansion to be happy. You need to use something like YNAB / Ramit Sethi and take responsibility for your own finances and live within your means.

I don't really understand this mentality. There are tons of underemployed grad school graduates with really massive student loan debt. There are plenty of VT graduates doing well as engineers or other STEM fields, or working for Accenture, etc. Same for Penn State.

I’ve said this to someone else on here before - but my engineer dad has a masters. My spouse is a teacher and gets paid more with a masters. Most of my peers are employed and have graduate degrees. It’s not imperative but I think can be helpful in most fields if you do it right. But you don’t have to agree with me!

If I am not mistaken, a teacher gets an automatic pay bump for having a graduate degree...so, if you become a teacher you would of course go do that. There are similar government jobs that work this way as well.

However, even your examples are a far cry from "grad school is the new college", and you just have anecdotes. To this day, most CEOs (over 50%) have nothing more than a BA/BS.

Some people value education. Others don’t. It is fine if you don’t. I personally think it is the easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six figure income. I earned 200k+ out of grad school at age 27 and that 20 years ago.

That's a silly argument...law school isn't "education", it's vocational training...getting an MBA isn't "education", it's again vocational training and networking.

You even don't seem to value education as you described it as the "easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six-figure income".

You sound dumb. I’m sure we don’t travel in the same circles.

You sound downright moronic. We probably don't because my circle includes CEOs, P/E principals, investment bank co-founders...just my little circle of successful folks without graduate degrees.

Right back at you. The investment bankers, PE, VC people we know mostly all have ivy mbas. I dont know what kind of crap IB cofounders you know.

The rich ones? You know you can’t win this game right, when the actual richest people in the country (vs your fictional friends) don’t have graduate degrees…and many don’t even have college degrees.

I don’t even know why I am wasting time with some random person on the internet. I’m very proud of my ivy degrees. DH had to work hard for his Ivy MD education. That is fine if you don’t value these but we do. My dad was a professor and has 4 degrees.

We are getting older and I don’t really care much about anything anymore. I don’t put pressure on our kids. I really don’t care about your rich friends or mine. My kids are smart and can compete in a highly competitive environment. Most people we socialize with went to grad school and my kids want to attend top colleges. It is fine if you didn’t or don’t want your kids to go to a top college and grad school.

NP. But why are you making these weird flexes? I promise you, there are a lot of doctors making equal or more than your DH that never went to Ivy schools. In fact, most Ivy degree doctors work in academia/research and don’t make very much at all.

This thread is about competition from a young age. Competition includes education. Many people would choose the better college or grad school given the opportunity. If a kid can go to Yale law vs GW, s/he would choose Yale. I’m not sure why people often knock down elite schools. I see the same for private schools like STA, NCS, Sidwell, etc. If is fine if you don’t want this for your children or simply can’t afford it. You don’t have to put others down for it though.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to an Ivy League college and I used to interview for the school, but I stopped wasting my time when no one I interviewed ever got in. At least from that, I knew since my kids’ births that elite college admissions was a total crapshoot.

Sports - my oldest is doing great in HS in no cut activities - marching band and crew. I think the important thing is to be a joiner and get involved in literally anything you can enjoy.

College - maybe we are thinking VT or Penn State is more likely than UVA. I think grad school is the new college. I think my kids will likely go to grad school and that will help.

Work - I am honestly not that impressed with the younger people at work these days. I still think there is still a place for people to succeed who are dependable, responsive, and who take initiative to do the hard work.

I have good older role models. My grandmother lived in the same small un-updated ranch house from 1960-2023. You do NOT need a McMansion to be happy. You need to use something like YNAB / Ramit Sethi and take responsibility for your own finances and live within your means.

I don't really understand this mentality. There are tons of underemployed grad school graduates with really massive student loan debt. There are plenty of VT graduates doing well as engineers or other STEM fields, or working for Accenture, etc. Same for Penn State.

I’ve said this to someone else on here before - but my engineer dad has a masters. My spouse is a teacher and gets paid more with a masters. Most of my peers are employed and have graduate degrees. It’s not imperative but I think can be helpful in most fields if you do it right. But you don’t have to agree with me!

If I am not mistaken, a teacher gets an automatic pay bump for having a graduate degree...so, if you become a teacher you would of course go do that. There are similar government jobs that work this way as well.

However, even your examples are a far cry from "grad school is the new college", and you just have anecdotes. To this day, most CEOs (over 50%) have nothing more than a BA/BS.

Some people value education. Others don’t. It is fine if you don’t. I personally think it is the easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six figure income. I earned 200k+ out of grad school at age 27 and that 20 years ago.

That's a silly argument...law school isn't "education", it's vocational training...getting an MBA isn't "education", it's again vocational training and networking.

You even don't seem to value education as you described it as the "easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six-figure income".

You sound dumb. I’m sure we don’t travel in the same circles.

You sound downright moronic. We probably don't because my circle includes CEOs, P/E principals, investment bank co-founders...just my little circle of successful folks without graduate degrees.

Right back at you. The investment bankers, PE, VC people we know mostly all have ivy mbas. I dont know what kind of crap IB cofounders you know.

The rich ones? You know you can’t win this game right, when the actual richest people in the country (vs your fictional friends) don’t have graduate degrees…and many don’t even have college degrees.

I don’t even know why I am wasting time with some random person on the internet. I’m very proud of my ivy degrees. DH had to work hard for his Ivy MD education. That is fine if you don’t value these but we do. My dad was a professor and has 4 degrees.

We are getting older and I don’t really care much about anything anymore. I don’t put pressure on our kids. I really don’t care about your rich friends or mine. My kids are smart and can compete in a highly competitive environment. Most people we socialize with went to grad school and my kids want to attend top colleges. It is fine if you didn’t or don’t want your kids to go to a top college and grad school.

NP. But why are you making these weird flexes? I promise you, there are a lot of doctors making equal or more than your DH that never went to Ivy schools. In fact, most Ivy degree doctors work in academia/research and don’t make very much at all.

This thread is about competition from a young age. Competition includes education. Many people would choose the better college or grad school given the opportunity. If a kid can go to Yale law vs GW, s/he would choose Yale. I’m not sure why people often knock down elite schools. I see the same for private schools like STA, NCS, Sidwell, etc. If is fine if you don’t want this for your children or simply can’t afford it. You don’t have to put others down for it though.

But elite school does not equal higher paying job, not even close. I know many Ivy grads making middle class wages for DC area. I know many no name state university grads making 7 figures.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to an Ivy League college and I used to interview for the school, but I stopped wasting my time when no one I interviewed ever got in. At least from that, I knew since my kids’ births that elite college admissions was a total crapshoot.

Sports - my oldest is doing great in HS in no cut activities - marching band and crew. I think the important thing is to be a joiner and get involved in literally anything you can enjoy.

College - maybe we are thinking VT or Penn State is more likely than UVA. I think grad school is the new college. I think my kids will likely go to grad school and that will help.

Work - I am honestly not that impressed with the younger people at work these days. I still think there is still a place for people to succeed who are dependable, responsive, and who take initiative to do the hard work.

I have good older role models. My grandmother lived in the same small un-updated ranch house from 1960-2023. You do NOT need a McMansion to be happy. You need to use something like YNAB / Ramit Sethi and take responsibility for your own finances and live within your means.

I don't really understand this mentality. There are tons of underemployed grad school graduates with really massive student loan debt. There are plenty of VT graduates doing well as engineers or other STEM fields, or working for Accenture, etc. Same for Penn State.

I’ve said this to someone else on here before - but my engineer dad has a masters. My spouse is a teacher and gets paid more with a masters. Most of my peers are employed and have graduate degrees. It’s not imperative but I think can be helpful in most fields if you do it right. But you don’t have to agree with me!

If I am not mistaken, a teacher gets an automatic pay bump for having a graduate degree...so, if you become a teacher you would of course go do that. There are similar government jobs that work this way as well.

However, even your examples are a far cry from "grad school is the new college", and you just have anecdotes. To this day, most CEOs (over 50%) have nothing more than a BA/BS.

Some people value education. Others don’t. It is fine if you don’t. I personally think it is the easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six figure income. I earned 200k+ out of grad school at age 27 and that 20 years ago.

That's a silly argument...law school isn't "education", it's vocational training...getting an MBA isn't "education", it's again vocational training and networking.

You even don't seem to value education as you described it as the "easiest and fastest way to guarantee yourself a six-figure income".

You sound dumb. I’m sure we don’t travel in the same circles.

You sound downright moronic. We probably don't because my circle includes CEOs, P/E principals, investment bank co-founders...just my little circle of successful folks without graduate degrees.

Right back at you. The investment bankers, PE, VC people we know mostly all have ivy mbas. I dont know what kind of crap IB cofounders you know.

The rich ones? You know you can’t win this game right, when the actual richest people in the country (vs your fictional friends) don’t have graduate degrees…and many don’t even have college degrees.

I don’t even know why I am wasting time with some random person on the internet. I’m very proud of my ivy degrees. DH had to work hard for his Ivy MD education. That is fine if you don’t value these but we do. My dad was a professor and has 4 degrees.

We are getting older and I don’t really care much about anything anymore. I don’t put pressure on our kids. I really don’t care about your rich friends or mine. My kids are smart and can compete in a highly competitive environment. Most people we socialize with went to grad school and my kids want to attend top colleges. It is fine if you didn’t or don’t want your kids to go to a top college and grad school.

NP. But why are you making these weird flexes? I promise you, there are a lot of doctors making equal or more than your DH that never went to Ivy schools. In fact, most Ivy degree doctors work in academia/research and don’t make very much at all.

This thread is about competition from a young age. Competition includes education. Many people would choose the better college or grad school given the opportunity. If a kid can go to Yale law vs GW, s/he would choose Yale. I’m not sure why people often knock down elite schools. I see the same for private schools like STA, NCS, Sidwell, etc. If is fine if you don’t want this for your children or simply can’t afford it. You don’t have to put others down for it though.

But elite school does not equal higher paying job, not even close. I know many Ivy grads making middle class wages for DC area. I know many no name state university grads making 7 figures.

On average, an ivy grad is much wealthier. They started rich though. Top 1% is much more likely to get accepted into an ivy, more likely being at top .1%.