If can be difficult for some people who are shy and don't do well trying to find a group. Having a roommate can sometimes help. Of course, if you have a terrible roommate, it's awesome to have a single. But, if OP's DC didn't request a change immediately, then maybe they aren't as concerned about this as the parent. |
No one is sweating like a pig in SoCal nights, and it's illegal to build dorms without access to natural light. I bet you the dorm the kid is in is on a hill/slope. |
I'm old fashioned. Prop open your door for the first few weeks, and people will start up a conversation if the college has any friendly students in it. There's very little advantage to having a roommate. The kid got into a great college with a lot of money according to OP so they'll be fine. |
OP here and that is exactly what I was hoping for DC. A single is not what would be best at this point and time-located at end of a hallway and not central. But, all we can do is file for a change and keep fingers crossed that someone wants a single so badly they are willing to live without a healthy dose of natural light and in the basement right next door to the bathroom and everything that brings!! |
Is this San Diego or Pomona? San Diego is on the coast even during the heatwave it’s in the 70s. Now Pomona can get into the 100s. My kid is at Berkeley this summer with no AC and it isn’t a problem. It was 105 degrees less than an hour inland and 73 at Berkeley. |
but even in the summer in Pomona, the temps go down significantly at night. That's how desert temp works. |
Maybe the AC kids were just smarter. Or drank less. Or had less sex. Or had more sex. Or . . . |
Why would you hope it comes back positive? Then you know the kid is living with mold. Spoiler: There’s mold. All structures have it. It’s in your house, even. |
Snort. |
Exactly! Went to Scripps, and we weren't crying about it. The dorms also all had ceiling fans, and you can usually open your window if its stuffy (these are 100 year old buildings). |
You can’t open a basement window stupid! |
OP, have you seen the room yet? I would not get upset until you see it. “basement” might not mean no natural light. If you want your kid to have a shot at being happy, keep your
Mouth shut. Trust me, I was a complainer and finally figured out it ruins everyone’s experience. Let your kid decide if they like the room. If they don’t, let them go through the room change process. My kid had a horrible roommate situation. We encouraged her to change. She was nervous about rocking the boat. Eventually, it was bad enough that she wanted to change and figured out the process. She ended up in a single and much happier. |
Good luck, OP. It’s nerve wracking! My son just chatted on the phone with his randomly assigned roommate and… fingers crossed? They share the same major at the huge state school. That can be good or bad? Argh. It’s just so much more to worry about than I thought, or than I had with my easy going, mature daughter who did this before. I am glad he’s close though. I would be in your shoes if he were headed across the country. Good luck! Keep us posted. |
Seems like it would bring constant traffic past his door and an easy way to meet people. OP, I can't tell if you are a whiny helicopter mom, or just kinda slow and haven't though this through. |
I did as an underground. Basement just designates lowest floor. Doesn't mean it doesn't lead directly outside. |