AITA: summer edition

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a little surprised by the responses. Summer off is like the singular benefit of being a teacher! Between the stress, pay, extra workload, dealing with other peoples nasty kids, it's a rough job. Getting some time off over summer is literally the only upside!

I think with the extra info of having to dip into your savings is important. But I dont think its fair that people are talking about someone sitting on their a$$ all summer and not contributing. No one says that about SAHMs and dont necessarily expect them to pick up jobs when things get tight.

You can look at reducing expenses, and I like the idea of him spending some extra time with the kids instead of sending them to daycare for a few weeks. Can he take them to visit his mom? You deserve a break, but it's not healthy to begrudge your spouse for wanting to enjoy the only nice thing about their job.

SAHM's watch their kids. This guy is sending his to daycare during his summer off.

Technically OP is sending her kids to daycare and doesnt want to pull them out... So... ball in her court.

Oh stop, they can’t stop paying for daycare without messing up their childcare for the other 9 months of the year.

Do you really think her DH is going to say sure, I’ll watch the kids all day while you work despite the fact we have to keep paying for daycare? I really doubt a man who won’t pick up a few hours per week tutoring to help the family is going to voluntarily watch his young kids all day.

The ball is not in her court.

Summer break is 2 months long. Schools are in session for 10 months, not 9. Just thought you might like to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tbh the money issue sounds like a red herring. You're jealous.

But really - who is jealous of what we all say is a underpaid overworked profession? The "light" for him is prob the benefit of summer break - and you want to take that from him because you're resentful that like most ppl who are breadwinners have to go in the office every day.

And for those who want to somehow "punish him" by throwing the kids at him full time for weeks during this much needed break (again do we all agree that teaching is a thankless tasks and they are heroes or not?!) I'm sure he can pull the kids for a week or two if he doesn't already but don't try to load his summer up with tasks just because you don't have the gift of one.
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Agree with this. The time off is part of his compensation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:seems like typical school teacher behavior. familiar narrative about teachers doing sooo much and being sooo tired and spending all of their time off during the summers pouring their heart and soul into the children and stocking their classrooms with their own money! All nonsense of course, the majority are like this guy. What a catch!

The majority? So you know this, how? Show us the study saying this, based on a reputable source. We'll wait.

Oh, this is just your jaundiced opinion!

Hope you feel this way when your kid's school is understaffed because teachers are leaving due to unsupportive, demanding parents like you. -- Not a teacher but actually know some, which I doubt you do.

Yes I know lots of teachers like this. And they post on social media about how they so badly need a vacation 5 minutes into the school year, after collecting all their gift cards from parents.

[Anonymous]

Ugh…wouldn’t be able to sit around and do nothing.

I’d do an outdoor job and hold a tan and some skills like construction or something. May do some gig work, something.

I have a family member who is a teacher and they pick up extra shifts as a fitness instructor for the summer. They do it during the year too but less. This way they get excess money and free use if the gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little surprised by the responses. Summer off is like the singular benefit of being a teacher! Between the stress, pay, extra workload, dealing with other peoples nasty kids, it's a rough job. Getting some time off over summer is literally the only upside!

I think with the extra info of having to dip into your savings is important. But I dont think its fair that people are talking about someone sitting on their a$$ all summer and not contributing. No one says that about SAHMs and dont necessarily expect them to pick up jobs when things get tight.

You can look at reducing expenses, and I like the idea of him spending some extra time with the kids instead of sending them to daycare for a few weeks. Can he take them to visit his mom? You deserve a break, but it's not healthy to begrudge your spouse for wanting to enjoy the only nice thing about their job.

People would criticize a SAHM for dumping kids in daycare.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you all were rolling in it, I would say YTA. But it doesn't sound like that is the case. Is it possible that the subject just came up at a bad time? If your family needs the money, he should step up and find something part time/limited.