Offer/Tryouts Etiquette

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Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

Don't forget to not complain when the bench gets worse every year as players move to teams where they can play. Not to mention the terrible team dynamics when you have a bunch of 11 year olds whose families are expected to drive an hour to watch them not play

Well, I'm sure there are case by case reasons why some may hug the bench more than others
Especially the ones who don't come to practice and arrive at game late etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

Don't forget to not complain when the bench gets worse every year as players move to teams where they can play. Not to mention the terrible team dynamics when you have a bunch of 11 year olds whose families are expected to drive an hour to watch them not play

Well, I'm sure there are case by case reasons why some may hug the bench more than others
Especially the ones who don't come to practice and arrive at game late etc

That works well unless its the best players coming late of skipping practice. I've seen a coach lose a team by enforcing playing time rules with the worst player will still starting stars who skip practice

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

No no, he is fine with YOUR kid not playing any minutes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise

I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.

My kid has been a bubble player every time that they've joined a new team. They are very competitive and tend to play up to the level of player they train with. They start out not getting playing time, but usually work themselves into a starting position. I would much rather my kid start off as the last person picked for a good team than be the star of a bad team.

Exactly. While it's an ego and confidence boost to be the best player on a team, that doesn't always mean it's the best for the kid. If the goal is to develop and become better they need to be on a team with a coach (and players) who challenge them. My DD was the same and now that DD is on stronger team she's more focused and really works hard on her technical skills and other aspects of soccer whereas before it was just like "Meh, does it matter if I pass better when no one on the team has decent first touch to even get the ball?"

Also parent to bubble player. Played for a few years on a team that the coach constantly put them in the bottom third (but generally got 50% game time). Moved to a new team with new coach and one of better players on team. Confidence soared and became leader on that team and improved immensely as a result. It all shows the right team and the right coach can do wonders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

THE POINT is Training is much more important than games
Games are more important for parents

Yes, they should play however

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

never been an issue for either of my players we've always had them join appropriate level clubs/teams for their skillset.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

No no, he is fine with YOUR kid not playing any minutes.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

No no, he is fine with YOUR kid not playing any minutes.

Sorry, not sorry. I'm not spending thousands of dollars per year and travelling across the US for equal playing time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

Don't forget to not complain when the bench gets worse every year as players move to teams where they can play. Not to mention the terrible team dynamics when you have a bunch of 11 year olds whose families are expected to drive an hour to watch them not play

Well, I'm sure there are case by case reasons why some may hug the bench more than others
Especially the ones who don't come to practice and arrive at game late etc

That works well unless its the best players coming late of skipping practice. I've seen a coach lose a team by enforcing playing time rules with the worst player will still starting stars who skip practice

It pays to be king 🤴

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

No no, he is fine with YOUR kid not playing any minutes.

Sorry, not sorry. I'm not spending thousands of dollars per year and travelling across the US for equal playing time

You're mistaken what you think you're paying for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

Don't forget to not complain when the bench gets worse every year as players move to teams where they can play. Not to mention the terrible team dynamics when you have a bunch of 11 year olds whose families are expected to drive an hour to watch them not play

Well, I'm sure there are case by case reasons why some may hug the bench more than others
Especially the ones who don't come to practice and arrive at game late etc

That works well unless its the best players coming late of skipping practice. I've seen a coach lose a team by enforcing playing time rules with the worst player will still starting stars who skip practice

It pays to be king 🤴

Not if you have to forfeit your spring tournament because most of the kids left and quit when they got new offers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

Don't forget to not complain when the bench gets worse every year as players move to teams where they can play. Not to mention the terrible team dynamics when you have a bunch of 11 year olds whose families are expected to drive an hour to watch them not play

Well, I'm sure there are case by case reasons why some may hug the bench more than others
Especially the ones who don't come to practice and arrive at game late etc

That works well unless its the best players coming late of skipping practice. I've seen a coach lose a team by enforcing playing time rules with the worst player will still starting stars who skip practice

It pays to be king 🤴

Not if you have to forfeit your spring tournament because most of the kids left and quit when they got new offers

I think the king is the star player

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.

if you want equal playing time play rec. news flash not all players are as equally skilled, the best players should get more game minutes

At young ages, playing time should be as equal as possible
If it's about development over winning as it should be, then everyone should play.

Or don't complain that the bench players are no good when they come in occasionally

development doesn't occur in games...a player may touch the ball 5~6 times in a half...they get 5~6 touches in the first 2 mins of practice. Everyone should play in rec, not travel

So you’d be fine having your player not play any minutes since it’s only 5-6 touches?

No no, he is fine with YOUR kid not playing any minutes.

Sorry, not sorry. I'm not spending thousands of dollars per year and travelling across the US for equal playing time

You're mistaken what you think you're paying for

please tell me what i think i'm paying for then, because i have receipts for airplane tickets, hotels, rental cars, food while traveling for 2 or 3 people. If i wanted my DC to be on a team with equal playing time, i wouldn't pay to travel across the US for tournaments, i'd have them join a rec team and i wouldn't have any travel costs.

[Anonymous]

Those games that you traveled to are more meaningful? Don't understand your point. Isn't soccer, soccer until like u15?