Are yoga pants ok?

[Anonymous]

What are some other signs of controlling behavior to look out for when dating a guy? I ask because after 25 years of marriage it turns out we should split because of his controlling behavior that I didn’t notice early on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is upset because I wore yoga pants around him. We went to a bookstore and to grab a cup of coffee. He says yoga pants are for doing yoga, and that if he puts in real clothes to see me I should do the same.

He doesn't like that other men are ogling your ass.

Do you like that other men ogle your ass?

Serious question.

So you want to control what women wear because other men are pigs?
You want to punish your female partner for her choice of clothing because you ogle other womens asses?

We aren't talking about what I want. I was explaining to her why he is behaving the way he is.

Are you dumb or something? Serious question.

You might be. What is the point of controlling a womans outfit based on what other men might think or do? Why is that OPs problem? She isnt allowed to look good while out and about? Do you think all women should wear hideous sack dresses so as to not provoke a mans eyes?

Again -- and I realize you're exceedingly dim but do please try to keep up -- this is not about what *I* think. I'm merely explaining one possibility for the OP's boyfriend's attitude. Your bizarre need to make this about what *I* think just suggests that you're a 'tard or something.

Using this "insult" really says a lot about you. You seem like a really sad and insecure individual. Hope 2024 gets better for you.

I'm great, toots. I appear to be a lot healthier mentally than you.

I'm sorry you're so slow. These interweb chats must be difficult for you. Keep trying, though. Maybe someday you'll be able to interact confidently with smarter people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do I care if other dudes ogle my gf's ass? She's with me, and that's not going to change because other guys look at what they're not getting.

Not all men have that level of self-assurance. Some men, likely including OP's boyfriend, are possessive and insecure and that sort of thing bothers or even enrages them. Surely you know this. It's not a new idea.

That isnt OPs problem.

It is a sign that he will be insecure and controlling in other things, especially if one outfit "enrages them". Good cue to drop this loser and find someone with pps confidence.

I don't disagree. I was merely pointing out one possibility for the behavior and the attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is upset because I wore yoga pants around him. We went to a bookstore and to grab a cup of coffee. He says yoga pants are for doing yoga, and that if he puts in real clothes to see me I should do the same.

He doesn't like that other men are ogling your ass.

Do you like that other men ogle your ass?

Serious question.

So you want to control what women wear because other men are pigs?
You want to punish your female partner for her choice of clothing because you ogle other womens asses?

We aren't talking about what I want. I was explaining to her why he is behaving the way he is.

Are you dumb or something? Serious question.

You might be. What is the point of controlling a womans outfit based on what other men might think or do? Why is that OPs problem? She isnt allowed to look good while out and about? Do you think all women should wear hideous sack dresses so as to not provoke a mans eyes?

Again -- and I realize you're exceedingly dim but do please try to keep up -- this is not about what *I* think. I'm merely explaining one possibility for the OP's boyfriend's attitude. Your bizarre need to make this about what *I* think just suggests that you're a 'tard or something.

Using this "insult" really says a lot about you. You seem like a really sad and insecure individual. Hope 2024 gets better for you.

I'm great, toots. I appear to be a lot healthier mentally than you.

I'm sorry you're so slow. These interweb chats must be difficult for you. Keep trying, though. Maybe someday you'll be able to interact confidently with smarter people.

Smart people dont use "retard" as an insult, but keep thinking youre gods gift to women. I'm sure someone on that red pill forum agrees with you, even if its your sock puppet account <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What man doesn’t enjoy seeing his girlfriend/wife in yoga pants?

My husband would love it if I wore them more often! 😄

Guessing OP is a fatty and this is her boyfriends way of telling her that kindly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest answer: If you've got a great body with nice legs and ass, yes you can wear yoga pants out. But, keep in mind at this point yoga pants is similar to sweatpants so it comes off as lazy.

I have realized, through dating, then men have strong lazy detector. They’ll tell you to go it face.

A good strong man is normally result driven. Goals are the way to behave in life. So, if he sees a woman who is lazy it's very unattractive. If two people are dating and he comes to the date (even coffee) in slacks, shirt, etc and the girl walks in with yoga pants and a t-shirt it may come off as "lazy". But, (and this is how the world works) if she's hot as hell and has a 10/10 body he's not going to care.

Interesting. I have a great body. Lots of exercise and effort. I am still dressing up.

Why? I was married for a long time. I am not anymore. In the past, I would have shuttered at these comments. Now I am more willing to accept these small judgments as a way of life(I’m the same person who said men have lazy-detectors). Hey, I know I am not lazy. Lots of evidence to the contrary. But, it turns out, I need to show it too.

I am being judged. My ex didn’t judge me bc of marriage - some of it good (he knew me) and some of it bad (emotional atrophy) that comes over time.

Basically I am a feminist who is dressing to kill it. And wearing make up to get an extra long glance. It turns out it works. So shoot me?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest answer: If you've got a great body with nice legs and ass, yes you can wear yoga pants out. But, keep in mind at this point yoga pants is similar to sweatpants so it comes off as lazy.

I have realized, through dating, then men have strong lazy detector. They’ll tell you to go it face.

A good strong man is normally result driven. Goals are the way to behave in life. So, if he sees a woman who is lazy it's very unattractive. If two people are dating and he comes to the date (even coffee) in slacks, shirt, etc and the girl walks in with yoga pants and a t-shirt it may come off as "lazy". But, (and this is how the world works) if she's hot as hell and has a 10/10 body he's not going to care.

Interesting. I have a great body. Lots of exercise and effort. I am still dressing up.

Why? I was married for a long time. I am not anymore. In the past, I would have shuttered at these comments. Now I am more willing to accept these small judgments as a way of life(I’m the same person who said men have lazy-detectors). Hey, I know I am not lazy. Lots of evidence to the contrary. But, it turns out, I need to show it too.

I am being judged. My ex didn’t judge me bc of marriage - some of it good (he knew me) and some of it bad (emotional atrophy) that comes over time.

Basically I am a feminist who is dressing to kill it. And wearing make up to get an extra long glance. It turns out it works. So shoot me?!

Men love women who take care of themselves and dress well. Even when married, etc. Good for you for taking care of yourself and always being well presented. Yes, people judge as do husbands. Men will always want a women who looks after herself. And it's the same for a women/wife. They would rather have a nice looking husband who dresses well and presents himself well versus a lazy fat guy who dresses like a slob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest answer: If you've got a great body with nice legs and ass, yes you can wear yoga pants out. But, keep in mind at this point yoga pants is similar to sweatpants so it comes off as lazy.

I have realized, through dating, then men have strong lazy detector. They’ll tell you to go it face.

A good strong man is normally result driven. Goals are the way to behave in life. So, if he sees a woman who is lazy it's very unattractive. If two people are dating and he comes to the date (even coffee) in slacks, shirt, etc and the girl walks in with yoga pants and a t-shirt it may come off as "lazy". But, (and this is how the world works) if she's hot as hell and has a 10/10 body he's not going to care.

Interesting. I have a great body. Lots of exercise and effort. I am still dressing up.

Why? I was married for a long time. I am not anymore. In the past, I would have shuttered at these comments. Now I am more willing to accept these small judgments as a way of life(I’m the same person who said men have lazy-detectors). Hey, I know I am not lazy. Lots of evidence to the contrary. But, it turns out, I need to show it too.

I am being judged. My ex didn’t judge me bc of marriage - some of it good (he knew me) and some of it bad (emotional atrophy) that comes over time.

Basically I am a feminist who is dressing to kill it. And wearing make up to get an extra long glance. It turns out it works. So shoot me?!

Men love women who take care of themselves and dress well. Even when married, etc. Good for you for taking care of yourself and always being well presented. Yes, people judge as do husbands. Men will always want a women who looks after herself. And it's the same for a women/wife. They would rather have a nice looking husband who dresses well and presents himself well versus a lazy fat guy who dresses like a slob.

Many men also love a smokin hot woman in yoga pants. Taking care of yourself is so much more than the pants you wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest answer: If you've got a great body with nice legs and ass, yes you can wear yoga pants out. But, keep in mind at this point yoga pants is similar to sweatpants so it comes off as lazy.

I have realized, through dating, then men have strong lazy detector. They’ll tell you to go it face.

A good strong man is normally result driven. Goals are the way to behave in life. So, if he sees a woman who is lazy it's very unattractive. If two people are dating and he comes to the date (even coffee) in slacks, shirt, etc and the girl walks in with yoga pants and a t-shirt it may come off as "lazy". But, (and this is how the world works) if she's hot as hell and has a 10/10 body he's not going to care.

Interesting. I have a great body. Lots of exercise and effort. I am still dressing up.

Why? I was married for a long time. I am not anymore. In the past, I would have shuttered at these comments. Now I am more willing to accept these small judgments as a way of life(I’m the same person who said men have lazy-detectors). Hey, I know I am not lazy. Lots of evidence to the contrary. But, it turns out, I need to show it too.

I am being judged. My ex didn’t judge me bc of marriage - some of it good (he knew me) and some of it bad (emotional atrophy) that comes over time.

Basically I am a feminist who is dressing to kill it. And wearing make up to get an extra long glance. It turns out it works. So shoot me?!

Men love women who take care of themselves and dress well. Even when married, etc. Good for you for taking care of yourself and always being well presented. Yes, people judge as do husbands. Men will always want a women who looks after herself. And it's the same for a women/wife. They would rather have a nice looking husband who dresses well and presents himself well versus a lazy fat guy who dresses like a slob.

Many men also love a smokin hot woman in yoga pants. Taking care of yourself is so much more than the pants you wear.

Problem is, most women in yoga pants are *not* smoking hot.

[Anonymous]

The BIG problem is that women in yoga pants don’t get the same view that men do. If they did many wouldn’t wear them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The BIG problem is that women in yoga pants don’t get the same view that men do. If they did many wouldn’t wear them.

Possibly, but I think they enjoy the male attention. Dressing for the male gaze and all that. If these women looked at themselves in yoga pants in a three way mirror with adequate lighting, no way would they wear them outside of yoga class...if they even attend.

[Anonymous]

OP,
You probably do not look as hot in yoga pants as you think.

Trust me, if you are looking hot, your BF will not care. But, also, if he is dressing up for a date and you are in yoga pants, it is super disrespectful.

You looked like a slob and your BF was embarrassed to be seen with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What man doesn’t enjoy seeing his girlfriend/wife in yoga pants?

My husband would love it if I wore them more often! 😄

My now-ex husband said this to me about a year into our relationship. Huge red flag which I ignored. Many years of controlling narcissist abuse later and I’m finally out.

I'm confused here. Your ex said he enjoyed seeing you in yoga pants and would love it if you wore them more often....and that was a red flag? I feel like there's some context missing.

Oops. I’m the one who posted this. I meant to say that my ex told me he DID NOT like me wearing yoga pants or sweats ….not that he liked me in them. (And I am not fat) Sorry. I quoted the wrong thing !! I was relating to OP’s situation and aging my ex said the same to me as her boyfriend is saying to her

[Anonymous]

Its not every woman's life's goal to look hot for others 24/7/365.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not every woman's life's goal to look hot for others 24/7/365.

Just every man's expectation. Including random women who are minding their own businesses grocery shopping or browsing a book store.