work from home is messing up my marriage

[Anonymous]

Same op same. We are on top of each other no personal space, no time alone it sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt like you are OP.

Am sorry to hear that you are facing this. 😕

I think your husband should at the very least have lunch w/you + your child every day.

It seems like he is not prioritizing his family here.
At all.

Aside from talking to him about how neglected you are feeling -> I really do not think of much else you can ask of him.

He needs to take the necessary steps to include his family into his workday somehow.

No exceptions.

No one does this. They are working! They don’t take breaks at home for lunch with family. When you work from home you are not home—you are working. This expectation is ridiculous.

Second, he is working. This is not “he is not prioritizing his family.” He has a job and is supporting them. He make like work a lot. OP should get a job. Maybe he could work less but guess what? If both working, they would see each other even less. She needs a life and to stop relying on her spouse for entertainment.

Speak for yourself. Lunch breaks are typical for white-collar jobs. At what point is OP's husband not considered obsessed with work? There has to be a limit.

[Anonymous]

OP, you must be new here. This forum is full of self-important workaholics. DC people are known not to have personality. Their job title is their personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt like you are OP.

Am sorry to hear that you are facing this. 😕

I think your husband should at the very least have lunch w/you + your child every day.

It seems like he is not prioritizing his family here.
At all.

Aside from talking to him about how neglected you are feeling -> I really do not think of much else you can ask of him.

He needs to take the necessary steps to include his family into his workday somehow.

No exceptions.

No one does this. They are working! They don’t take breaks at home for lunch with family. When you work from home you are not home—you are working. This expectation is ridiculous.

Second, he is working. This is not “he is not prioritizing his family.” He has a job and is supporting them. He make like work a lot. OP should get a job. Maybe he could work less but guess what? If both working, they would see each other even less. She needs a life and to stop relying on her spouse for entertainment.

Speak for yourself. Lunch breaks are typical for white-collar jobs. At what point is OP's husband not considered obsessed with work? There has to be a limit.

I have a white-collar job. I don't take lunch most days. I do sometimes when I am in the office. When I am home, I--and everyone I know--works through lunch when they are working at home. I have been in the workforce 25 years. OP should not be demanding time from him when he is working from home during the workday. I often have to log back on for 2 hours at night sometimes. This is really not abnormal for a lot of people. Also, she is not workign full time and probably feels pressure to work a lot. Maybe he is not a fast worker and need the extra time. Either way, they are not compatable. Asking a spouse to take a break between 8-5 or 6 when they are working to see family is not at all appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt like you are OP.

Am sorry to hear that you are facing this. 😕

I think your husband should at the very least have lunch w/you + your child every day.

It seems like he is not prioritizing his family here.
At all.

Aside from talking to him about how neglected you are feeling -> I really do not think of much else you can ask of him.

He needs to take the necessary steps to include his family into his workday somehow.

No exceptions.

No one does this. They are working! They don’t take breaks at home for lunch with family. When you work from home you are not home—you are working. This expectation is ridiculous.

Second, he is working. This is not “he is not prioritizing his family.” He has a job and is supporting them. He make like work a lot. OP should get a job. Maybe he could work less but guess what? If both working, they would see each other even less. She needs a life and to stop relying on her spouse for entertainment.

Speak for yourself. Lunch breaks are typical for white-collar jobs. At what point is OP's husband not considered obsessed with work? There has to be a limit.

I have a white-collar job. I don't take lunch most days. I do sometimes when I am in the office. When I am home, I--and everyone I know--works through lunch when they are working at home. I have been in the workforce 25 years. OP should not be demanding time from him when he is working from home during the workday. I often have to log back on for 2 hours at night sometimes. This is really not abnormal for a lot of people. Also, she is not workign full time and probably feels pressure to work a lot. Maybe he is not a fast worker and need the extra time. Either way, they are not compatable. Asking a spouse to take a break between 8-5 or 6 when they are working to see family is not at all appropriate.

You're nuts. Plenty of people take lunch breaks. Get hack on your hamster wheel.

[Anonymous]

Idk why we’re still debating this when op can’t keep a story straight. Clearly a troll. Between work hours changing when she didn’t get the response she wanted to kids age changing. Stop wasting your time on trolls folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt like you are OP.

Am sorry to hear that you are facing this. 😕

I think your husband should at the very least have lunch w/you + your child every day.

It seems like he is not prioritizing his family here.
At all.

Aside from talking to him about how neglected you are feeling -> I really do not think of much else you can ask of him.

He needs to take the necessary steps to include his family into his workday somehow.

No exceptions.

No one does this. They are working! They don’t take breaks at home for lunch with family. When you work from home you are not home—you are working. This expectation is ridiculous.

Second, he is working. This is not “he is not prioritizing his family.” He has a job and is supporting them. He make like work a lot. OP should get a job. Maybe he could work less but guess what? If both working, they would see each other even less. She needs a life and to stop relying on her spouse for entertainment.

Speak for yourself. Lunch breaks are typical for white-collar jobs. At what point is OP's husband not considered obsessed with work? There has to be a limit.

I have a white-collar job. I don't take lunch most days. I do sometimes when I am in the office. When I am home, I--and everyone I know--works through lunch when they are working at home. I have been in the workforce 25 years. OP should not be demanding time from him when he is working from home during the workday. I often have to log back on for 2 hours at night sometimes. This is really not abnormal for a lot of people. Also, she is not workign full time and probably feels pressure to work a lot. Maybe he is not a fast worker and need the extra time. Either way, they are not compatable. Asking a spouse to take a break between 8-5 or 6 when they are working to see family is not at all appropriate.

You're nuts. Plenty of people take lunch breaks. Get hack on your hamster wheel.

If you have been working for 25 years and can't figure out how to take a lunch the break the problem is you not the company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt like you are OP.

Am sorry to hear that you are facing this. 😕

I think your husband should at the very least have lunch w/you + your child every day.

It seems like he is not prioritizing his family here.
At all.

Aside from talking to him about how neglected you are feeling -> I really do not think of much else you can ask of him.

He needs to take the necessary steps to include his family into his workday somehow.

No exceptions.

No one does this. They are working! They don’t take breaks at home for lunch with family. When you work from home you are not home—you are working. This expectation is ridiculous.

Second, he is working. This is not “he is not prioritizing his family.” He has a job and is supporting them. He make like work a lot. OP should get a job. Maybe he could work less but guess what? If both working, they would see each other even less. She needs a life and to stop relying on her spouse for entertainment.

Speak for yourself. Lunch breaks are typical for white-collar jobs. At what point is OP's husband not considered obsessed with work? There has to be a limit.

I have a white-collar job. I don't take lunch most days. I do sometimes when I am in the office. When I am home, I--and everyone I know--works through lunch when they are working at home. I have been in the workforce 25 years. OP should not be demanding time from him when he is working from home during the workday. I often have to log back on for 2 hours at night sometimes. This is really not abnormal for a lot of people. Also, she is not workign full time and probably feels pressure to work a lot. Maybe he is not a fast worker and need the extra time. Either way, they are not compatable. Asking a spouse to take a break between 8-5 or 6 when they are working to see family is not at all appropriate.

You're nuts. Plenty of people take lunch breaks. Get hack on your hamster wheel.

If you have been working for 25 years and can't figure out how to take a lunch the break the problem is you not the company.

I have had several employers/ I have been remote half of my career. People do not take lunch breaks at home. It is completely distracting. I have a job with constant deadlines. Some people don’t have deadline driven jobs—I do. Nevertheless, no one should expect attention from a spouse at during the workday. Consider them to be at the office: not available.

[Anonymous]

Everyone needs to go back to work! People need personal space, it is a HUMAN NEED! My marriage the ONE good thing in my life is ruined. I have zero personal space. Why do people think WFH is normal? Work is work, home is home.

[Anonymous]

Assume he isn't there. Be nice he pops out but don't expect him to do babysitting or date lunches. That being said, some people have opposite problem, spouse is popping out of the office at every opportunity and meddling in their routine all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a you issue.

Leaving him alone while he's working isnt that big of an ask. Would you rather he lose his job and you can both be freeloaders at home?

OP has a toddler, she is a 24/7 childcare worker on top of taking care of cooking and chores. Try getting someone to do it all for free for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone needs to go back to work! People need personal space, it is a HUMAN NEED! My marriage the ONE good thing in my life is ruined. I have zero personal space. Why do people think WFH is normal? Work is work, home is home.

Try third spaces. Work from livrary or cafe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt like you are OP.

Am sorry to hear that you are facing this. 😕

I think your husband should at the very least have lunch w/you + your child every day.

It seems like he is not prioritizing his family here.
At all.

Aside from talking to him about how neglected you are feeling -> I really do not think of much else you can ask of him.

He needs to take the necessary steps to include his family into his workday somehow.

No exceptions.

No one does this. They are working! They don’t take breaks at home for lunch with family. When you work from home you are not home—you are working. This expectation is ridiculous.

Second, he is working. This is not “he is not prioritizing his family.” He has a job and is supporting them. He make like work a lot. OP should get a job. Maybe he could work less but guess what? If both working, they would see each other even less. She needs a life and to stop relying on her spouse for entertainment.

Speak for yourself. Lunch breaks are typical for white-collar jobs. At what point is OP's husband not considered obsessed with work? There has to be a limit.

I have a white-collar job. I don't take lunch most days. I do sometimes when I am in the office. When I am home, I--and everyone I know--works through lunch when they are working at home. I have been in the workforce 25 years. OP should not be demanding time from him when he is working from home during the workday. I often have to log back on for 2 hours at night sometimes. This is really not abnormal for a lot of people. Also, she is not workign full time and probably feels pressure to work a lot. Maybe he is not a fast worker and need the extra time. Either way, they are not compatable. Asking a spouse to take a break between 8-5 or 6 when they are working to see family is not at all appropriate.

You're nuts. Plenty of people take lunch breaks. Get hack on your hamster wheel.

I mean, plenty of people don’t, though? Lunch “break” implies something set in stone legally or contractually. When I worked a blue collar job before becoming a white collar professional, sure, “I’m on my lunch break” was a thing. But now, in the corporate world? My lunch “break” is the time it takes to go to the microwave with my meal. I bring it back to my desk, and keep working while I eat, whether at home or at the office. I want to get as much of my work done during the work day as possible.

[Anonymous]

I wfh and don’t take a lunch break. I just eat in front of the computer. I would be livid if my spouse couldn’t respect my work boundaries. And these hours sound like nothing for a lawyer or that kind of job.

[Anonymous]

Just have an heart to heart and ask him to go back to the office. I’m sure it’s still there and an option. I’d hate trying to care for a kid while tiptoeing around a working spouse. It’s a lose lose.