What personal battle are you currently fighting?

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Anonymous wrote:I love my kids so so much and they're so adorable and such sweet ages. But I am overwhelmed most of the time that I'm with them. Just cooking dinner, getting them to sit for dinner, brushing teeth, etc is all a major struggle. I look over and they're rolling on the floor either fighting or tickling each other. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

Maybe you can hire one of the pp who need extra $$ to help you.

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Anonymous wrote:Unwanted separation/divorce while pregnant with 4th baby. So deeply sad feeling like life doesn’t make sense anymore. First holiday in 15 years without spouse.

Start some new fun traditions to make it a special holiday and to lessen the absence a little.

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Sister--unmedicated bipolar

The rage, mania and nastiness and grandiosity is really hard to deal with.

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Miscarriage after years of trying. Still no children.

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Anonymous wrote:Admitted I was an alcoholic started going to AA and I've been sober for two weeks. Terrified of relapsing.

Take it one day at a time. One hour at a time, if necessary. You can do it.
And if you relapse, you can get back on the wagon and try again.

One minute at a time. Get a sponsor.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my kids so so much and they're so adorable and such sweet ages. But I am overwhelmed most of the time that I'm with them. Just cooking dinner, getting them to sit for dinner, brushing teeth, etc is all a major struggle. I look over and they're rolling on the floor either fighting or tickling each other. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

Maybe you can hire one of the pp who need extra $$ to help you.

This is not a thread to give advice, pp.

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Anonymous wrote:PP again. Wanted to add that this situation is surfacing a ton of grief over my mom, who died when I was 8. I find myself for the first time, in my 30s, specifically and desperately wishing I could talk to her about it and ask what she would do. I don’t feel like I have anyone to talk to about it.

We are here for you; talk to us!

I'm sorry you lost your Mom so young. I miss my mom terribly as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m afraid.

We all are.

I exhaled just reading that. While my misery really does not love company, thank you for helping me to feel less alone with my fears. There are so many awful things going on in the world right now.

You are definitely not alone. I'm scared so much of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Suffering from some sort of yet to be ID'd autoimmune disorder that is now impacting my cardiac health. Last month I was unable to place any weight on my knee and was on 20mg of Prednisone 3 times a day for 3 weeks which destroyed my ability to sleep and has left my face unrecognizable.

Sending you healing thoughts. I hate Prednisone.

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Cancer threat

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Aging

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Retirement savings

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Anonymous wrote:Feel free to unload whatever you are carrying here. Let’s send each other love and strength.

Need to pass a test that I'm studying furiously over but have a hard time focusing, need more $$ finances need to be better, I feel headaches all the time and wonder if I have a brain tumor?? I'm just angry in general and try to cope. I wish my old friends would reach out to me but they don't.

Good luck; you can pass this test.

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Anonymous wrote:Had miracle identical twins after 3 losses and was so, so happy. I felt like I was living my dream. Then the delays started to manifest and they just stopped progressing in their development, and they were diagnosed w profound autism. I am crushed.

This post really made me sad. I can't imagine how you must feel.

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Anonymous wrote:Single, early turning into mid 40s, obviously never going to have a spouse/kid by this point, pretty much given up on dating. Lived/worked overseas for a long time and moved back just before COVID, and never really managed to make friends outside work. Father has Parkinsons and is declining, mother is also aging. I spend much of my free time helping them out, which means I have no real life outside work and my parents. Which in turn means once they are no longer around, there's not really going to be anyone important in my life save a nephew as my sibling and I do not and have never gotten along.

Career is going extremely well. Otherwise future is going to be a comfortable but likely very quiet life with no real friends and the occasional visit from nephew. But I don't have the personality that thinks in terms of fighting personal battles. I just get on with it. Then eventually I'll die and will be forgotten.

To you, and 21:05, assuming you are both women: I am a recently divorced guy 10-11-12 years older than you, with launched kids in their 30’s and grandchildren. I met a woman who fits your (similar) life paths to a T, and we really clicked. I’m very comfortably retired, constantly enjoying the outdoors with my dogs or hiking/biking, helping a lot with an aged parent, but bored and having a huge antipathy to the apps. Due to being married, I haven’t dated in many decades.

But I get a sense that neither I nor the woman I met would want put up with another person’s chronic intrusion into our “places of one’s own,” particularly not wanting our sleep disturbed, bathrooms entered, kitchens disrupted, etc.

Can either of you relate to this, wanting a honey/sweetheart/lover/partner, but wishing it could happen with a lot of intensity while somehow not taking over our space/s?

And how do you feel about being involved with someone who has no children to raise, but who has a bunch of family that you would have the “privilege” of getting to know very well?

Also, would it bug you to be a hard-working woman involved with a retired man?

All my questions are reflective of the personal “battle” I’m currently fighting.

I'm 21:05 and this is pretty much what I'm looking for. I don't have children, but would love step-grandchildren. I don't work that hard though, and would love to travel with my retired man while I freelance or work part time. I don't think I'd like to be doing the 9-5 grind while my partner was retired.
I do know of some long term committed mature couples who maintain their own homes but are married or have some legal arrangement where they can rely on each other.

Hi 21:05 (which I will call you if we ever meet ): It’s great that you look forward to phasing out of the 9-5 grind, because there’s lots to do that is more fun with a companion. This is the PP who comes pre-loaded with step-grandchildren. Travel for me is mostly between three homes I need to justify with my presence — dogs in tow — but I’ll bet we share some bucket-list destinations. Thanks for more affirmation that committed couples don’t necessarily want to/have to submerge themselves in constant togetherness.