HATE OUR BIG 3 too late to leave?

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Anonymous wrote:At least name the school, if you're going to avoid the specific issues.

You know the school. Just look up her previous posts

How do you look at an anonymous poster's previous posts?

I don’t know. How do you do an anonymous petition? Ask the OP.

Let me ask this: OP have you ever “signed” an anonymous school petition?

PP - I think you have a problem and may want to take a time-out to reflect on who you are. Honestly.

I do. I have a big problem with anonymous petitions. And with treating the teachers and staff as employees providing service for cash. So do many and it still stings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - it is not unreasonable to feel the way you do and I don't know why others are reading this as an indictment of the Big 3 - do you guys really believe that there is no possible universe where NO parent or child could have any experience that made them unhappy at the school?

We didn't love our school by the time our last child went through our school due to some incidents with our older kids, but our child was happy, had friends there, and end of the day we decided to let them stay the course. Just dialed back on engaging with the things I found irritating, focused on the things I did like, and counted down the days. It is hard if you no longer drink the coolaid since so many others define themselves as xyz parents - but doable and you need to try to just minimize the issues and not dwell on it or you will just get more irritated cutting the checks

I think she’s unhappy. But I think it’s fair to say: it’s about a dispute with a teacher, an athletic placement, unequal treatment, grade deflation. Not leave a huge big cloud over 3 top schools (well, 1 really).

[Anonymous]

I’m someone who thinks she recognizes OPs repeated DCUM posts, but for the record I also don’t care that she posted an inflammatory title in DCUM. For heaven’s sakes, these schools can deal with a grumpy parent posting on DCUM. It really doesn’t hurt anyone that an anonymous parent does not like her school. No need to be weirdly defensive.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - it is not unreasonable to feel the way you do and I don't know why others are reading this as an indictment of the Big 3 - do you guys really believe that there is no possible universe where NO parent or child could have any experience that made them unhappy at the school?

We didn't love our school by the time our last child went through our school due to some incidents with our older kids, but our child was happy, had friends there, and end of the day we decided to let them stay the course. Just dialed back on engaging with the things I found irritating, focused on the things I did like, and counted down the days. It is hard if you no longer drink the coolaid since so many others define themselves as xyz parents - but doable and you need to try to just minimize the issues and not dwell on it or you will just get more irritated cutting the checks

I think she’s unhappy. But I think it’s fair to say: it’s about a dispute with a teacher, an athletic placement, unequal treatment, grade deflation. Not leave a huge big cloud over 3 top schools (well, 1 really).

Which one?

[Anonymous]

I’m the PP who thinks that too but I do feel it’s manipulative, because I think it’s also repetitive and unfair.

When I saw the title I expected a concrete issue or something like anxiety, being misgendered, being ostracized and I really wanted to be of help. But the more I read the more it felt manipulative and unfair not just to the three schools but the two children

I have friends who moved states to get away from bullying in a top school. These are life-changing decisions. So I expect some respect to be paid to the fall out. Not just bleurgh? You don’t like my bleurgh? I’m out, suckers!

[Anonymous]

By the way, why do I care? There’s a small group of parents who overly focus on things like the learning gap and inadequate communication and placement and never acknowledge the privilege. They actually did start an anonymous petition which children countered in defense of their teachers with their own under their full names. To me, that said everything — there’s a consumer in one corner and there’s an emotionally engaged child in the other for whom this is the biggest time spend in their formative years. Anyone who thinks there isn’t an ideological battle in American schools since the pandemic in naive. I tend to think that using loaded words and not backing these claims up with facts takes something away not from these schools but from the these children. I equally would rally to support any parent whose child was treated unfairly. Just like I trust women I trust the children first, so this is not coming from being enamored with the school or having low expectations. It’s coming from the place of being fair to the children.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. OP Here- sorry I sound "dramatic." I get it: it's annoying I vented and said I hate the school and won't give the juicy details. But isn't it the point? This is an anonymous place to vent?
Obviously if we felt happy and comfortable with the school and administration we would be talking about it with them.
1. Its not about college list
2. Its not about other parents or social drama
3. It is about a bigger issue with our child that any of you would be upset about.

That's it. I'm out, but I thank those of you who were helpful and who reminded me that yes it's about the kids and as long as they are ok we need to suck it up and pay for a few more years bc leaving may create bigger problems for our kid.

It’s not annoying that you won’t give the juicy details (which are probably not juicy at all). I think people care that you’re time-wasting and lashing out. It feels manipulative. I have something to tell you oh but I can’t tell you is a toxic person trait and attention seeking behavior. There are many ways to say it without identifying your child. None of my business but I suggest a professional therapist, it sounds like the family could use help (not being facetious).

Yep, because the assumption and value proposition of the website is that someone seeking help in all caps needs it and is not being a manipulative maligner

Is Op forcing you to read and respond and waste your time(!)? Really?

So you aren’t being held down and forced to read DCUM? That’s a relief.

No, I’m venting too. Can’t you tell?

[Anonymous]

Do you all have jobs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - it is not unreasonable to feel the way you do and I don't know why others are reading this as an indictment of the Big 3 - do you guys really believe that there is no possible universe where NO parent or child could have any experience that made them unhappy at the school?

We didn't love our school by the time our last child went through our school due to some incidents with our older kids, but our child was happy, had friends there, and end of the day we decided to let them stay the course. Just dialed back on engaging with the things I found irritating, focused on the things I did like, and counted down the days. It is hard if you no longer drink the coolaid since so many others define themselves as xyz parents - but doable and you need to try to just minimize the issues and not dwell on it or you will just get more irritated cutting the checks

There’s a bunch of crap I don’t like about Harvard. But it’s the best thing going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you all have jobs?

Yep. But we don’t eat.

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It’s the lunch hour. Then the gym hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you all have jobs?

I don’t think the OP does.

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OP I just want to say sorry about all these posters. I'm sorry for what your family is going through. I know people who have been in your situation and it's horrible.

I think it may be one defensive poster who has been attacking you for the past few hours. I don't know why they don't have a life

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It’s not, and there wasn’t an attack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I just want to say sorry about all these posters. I'm sorry for what your family is going through. I know people who have been in your situation and it's horrible.

I think it may be one defensive poster who has been attacking you for the past few hours. I don't know why they don't have a life

OP from a different IP