I want my thread removed after your write up

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait to read the summary of this thread in the next Today’s Most Active Threads write-up!

Yes, the meta and potential for recursion is fabulous!

Then somebody makes a new thread about the summary of this thread about the summary of another thread. Infinite loops. Caucasian boy with blue eyes lives on forever.

Literally, we just need about 10 more pages, and then this thread would be one of the top-trafficked for the day, and it would need to be written up. This is the equivalent of those t-shirt gags where two celebs keep taking photos of the other the t-shirt which has the previous photo printed on it...The OP called down fire from the heavens on this one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait to read the summary of this thread in the next Today’s Most Active Threads write-up!

Yes, the meta and potential for recursion is fabulous!

Then somebody makes a new thread about the summary of this thread about the summary of another thread. Infinite loops. Caucasian boy with blue eyes lives on forever.

CBWBE will join lightly fried tuna and Bobcat girl and the Chipotle and burgundy washcloth ladies!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

+1 I've also been hurt by some of his summaries, particularly when he was dismissive of a post I put a great deal of thought into. If you post on a topic he has little patience for or strong beliefs about and your views don't match his, you might wind up feeling anywhere between ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even if Jeff decides to delete the OP’s post, wouldn’t the wayback machine already have archived the post?

the internet is forever

Yup. It is saved forever...

https://web.archive.org/web/20230215191348/https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I’d like to know OP’s thoughts on this. OP, did you know that your post exists forever whether Jeff deletes it or not?

She'll need to have that thread and this thread deleted in order to completely wipe it from DCUM....

This just isn't going to end well for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

+1 I've also been hurt by some of his summaries, particularly when he was dismissive of a post I put a great deal of thought into. If you post on a topic he has little patience for or strong beliefs about and your views don't match his, you might wind up feeling anywhere between ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked.

Yeah. And this is especially bad when DCUM already tends towards pile-ons anyway. I'm not sure why Jeff would want to take the role of being part of the pile-ons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

+1 I've also been hurt by some of his summaries, particularly when he was dismissive of a post I put a great deal of thought into. If you post on a topic he has little patience for or strong beliefs about and your views don't match his, you might wind up feeling anywhere between ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked.

link to said post and corresponding transgression or it didn't happen and you're just making things up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

+1 I've also been hurt by some of his summaries, particularly when he was dismissive of a post I put a great deal of thought into. If you post on a topic he has little patience for or strong beliefs about and your views don't match his, you might wind up feeling anywhere between ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked.

Yeah. And this is especially bad when DCUM already tends towards pile-ons anyway. I'm not sure why Jeff would want to take the role of being part of the pile-ons.

^^ ironically piles on, lol

[Anonymous]

I think there are two kinds of DCUM readers. The ones that gleefully refer to it as the mommy fight site and are “here for the drama” and the ones that want it to be a kinder, gentler version of the anonymous web forum (some of whom maybe remember Jeff’s stated intent in creating the listserve, which was to provide a community for parents in the DC area, many of which were transplants who didn’t have local family or friends that they could turn to with these questions). The former seem to enjoy the summaries more, often with a degree of schadenfreude.

[Anonymous]

No wonder the Caucasian blue eyed son hasn’t introduced his girlfriend to his mom yet. Crazy pants.

His girlfriend’s smart and he doesn’t want her run.

[Anonymous]

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

You’re going to make a great MIL!

Come on! Jeff was not mocking the OP, but you all are. Yes, she is nervous because she thinks she can be identified IRL and judged. She mentioned that she does not have many Indian friends, but the truth is that this kind of pairing is not uncommon in Indian-American community. And this is a common question that all parents ask, even Indian American parents. This is not a race thing. This is a culture thing.

OP, Unlike a marriage between a Black and White person where the most difference is in color of skin and history …. But mostly food, religion, language, cultural and family values are same…Indian and White marriages are different because every kind of differences - race, culture, immigration status, religion, family values, history, cinema, music, dance, cllothes everything is different. So these kinds of questions are not seen as racist. It is ok to acknowledge the differences because that way you can have a road map to move forward.

To be fair, in this thread we're mocking OP for flouncing in, demanding that her thread be deleted, misrepresenting Jeff's writeup and not knowing the correct definitions of "doxxing" and "gaslighting." We were mocking her racism in the other thread.

Don't forget the really transparent sock-puppeting (No, Jeff, we didn't need you to tell us).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait to read the summary of this thread in the next Today’s Most Active Threads write-up!

Yes, the meta and potential for recursion is fabulous!

Then somebody makes a new thread about the summary of this thread about the summary of another thread. Infinite loops. Caucasian boy with blue eyes lives on forever.

CBWBE will join lightly fried tuna and Bobcat girl and the Chipotle and burgundy washcloth ladies!

And Larla, never forget Larla.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

+1 I've also been hurt by some of his summaries, particularly when he was dismissive of a post I put a great deal of thought into. If you post on a topic he has little patience for or strong beliefs about and your views don't match his, you might wind up feeling anywhere between ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked.

Now I feel bad. But, I can't deny that feeling ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked would be potential outcomes of some of the posts. I'm just giving my honest opinions. I intentionally write very quickly just on my gut reaction without overthinking things. It is just my reaction and opinion which are worth no more than anybody else's. Feel free to leave a comment calling me a jerk or whatever. Call me out when I get things wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even if Jeff decides to delete the OP’s post, wouldn’t the wayback machine already have archived the post?

the internet is forever

Yup. It is saved forever...

https://web.archive.org/web/20230215191348/https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I’d like to know OP’s thoughts on this. OP, did you know that your post exists forever whether Jeff deletes it or not?

She'll need to have that thread and this thread deleted in order to completely wipe it from DCUM....

This just isn't going to end well for her.

https://web.archive.org/web/20230215230512/https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113249.page

[Anonymous]

I support you OP. Most of us believe you were sincerely asking for advice on how to approach the cultural differences as delicately as possible. I agree that it’s precedent to delete a thread at OPs request. Not sure why mod is pushing back on your request. It’s an ego thing at this point. I did not read your OP until seeing this website feedback post. Unfortunately, now there are more views than before, but he locked it. I haven’t read his summary. Figured I’d show you solidarity here before it’s locked. Don’t let the troublemakers bother you. They show up in every thread for kicks. Lots of fan girls feel the need to defend the moderator, and rightfully so most of the time. It’s his website. Your son and his gf seem lovely. I’m sure you’ll be overjoyed when/if they get engaged. There’s nothing wrong or distasteful about crowdsourcing to gain knowledge. Be well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I support you OP. Most of us believe you were sincerely asking for advice on how to approach the cultural differences as delicately as possible. I agree that it’s precedent to delete a thread at OPs request. Not sure why mod is pushing back on your request. It’s an ego thing at this point. I did not read your OP until seeing this website feedback post. Unfortunately, now there are more views than before, but he locked it. I haven’t read his summary. Figured I’d show you solidarity here before it’s locked. Don’t let the troublemakers bother you. They show up in every thread for kicks. Lots of fan girls feel the need to defend the moderator, and rightfully so most of the time. It’s his website. Your son and his gf seem lovely. I’m sure you’ll be overjoyed when/if they get engaged. There’s nothing wrong or distasteful about crowdsourcing to gain knowledge. Be well!

OP found someone to post on their behalf. OK.