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Help! I don't have a passion!
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I know this seems silly or trivial, but I don't have a passion in life and it's been bothering me (since I started thinking about it this morning) . My husband loves music and everything about it- listening to it, the history of it, creating it, etc.
I have a friend works in graphic design and is obsessed with typography. My cousin is a computer programmer who totally loves her job, likes to write code for fun, and will talk your ear off about C++ (or whatever it is) if you let her. I have no passion in life! I have a few hobbies, if they even count as hobbies (reading, eating, browsing the internet) but no passion! I feel like I should be painting, or writing a book, or doing something but I don't know what! Also, I'm really young, but I still can't shake the feeling that if I were to have a passion, I would have already discovered it. Help! 
(And yes, I know this post sounds a little crazy.) |
Anonymous
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Grandma Moses didn't discover her passion--painting--until her 70s.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grandma_Moses Don't fret prematurely... |
zumbamama
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| It's never to late too find your passion. Maybe you have an interest that you just haven't explored yet. What did you enjoy doing when you were a kid? Or what is your idea of fun? When you read, what do you like to read about? |
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| I meant too late. |
Anonymous
| I found mine about a year ago when I became a Lapidary Artist. I had no idea my life would take me in this direction or that it would be something that I was good at. |
Anonymous
| It's not too late, of course, but I think you probably do already have passions that you just haven't recognized yet. What do you LOVE to do the most? What really, really excites you? What used to really, really excite you when you were young? My passions have mostly been the same since I was a child. |
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My problem is that I'll be interested in something for a few months and then move on. Past hobbies include language learning, web design, knitting, sewing, jewelry making, painting (things, not pictures), and so on. The good thing is that when I'm interested in something, I'm consumed by it and will do everything I can to learn about it. The bad thing is nothing seems to interest me for more than a few months. |
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Maybe you've been focused on hobbies that are a bit isolating - even though I know you can knit, sew, paint with others.
Is there anything that you "light up" about when having a conversation? I never realized how much I love working with a specific group of special needs kids until my mother got me to listen to myself as I excitedly rambled on and on about articles I'd been reading. I took that passion and started a support group, help with a website, volunteer at a school that isn't my child's school and constantly learn about the new findings on these great kids. I don't have a special needs kid so I think the energy I have left over at the end of the day really supports the parents with these children who are exhausted. If you love flowers, volunteer to take over a patch of land near a shelter or church. Design the landscape, buy the flowers, plant them, enlist a friend or child and watch your passion grow - literally. HTH |
Anonymous
| It's ok--we need the worker bees too! |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thanks for the suggestions so far, everyone.
Other things I really used to enjoy are writing skits and acting. I think I'll take different kinds of classes and volunteer in the upcoming year to see if there's anything that speaks to me. |
Anonymous
| No suggestions, OP, but I know what you mean--you're not alone! |
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A passion isn't something you discover. You aren't born with one and then run into it. You go out and try things, and if one thing seems interesting you put real effort into it, and for some time. You do this with a number of different things over the years, with most of them not working out. But over time, you begin to realize that things are clicking in one area, and eventually you begin to really put your heart and soul into it. And it becomes your passion.
You make your passion. So get started. |
Anonymous
| I'm with you OP. I am not really into anything either. Just a few little hobbies or interests. I did get into piano a few years ago, since I didn't get to learn as a child. I got to a certain level and then quit, because I sort of plateaued and saw no improvement. I've noticed that people with a passion for something are passionate people in many other areas of life, too. I'm thinking it's a personality thing, and it's hard to develop it, if you haven't lived with that attitude. |
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I think some people are just more passionate/obsessive/intense/focused on things in general than some other people. It's a personality thing - some folks are more chill in general. I think the world is a better place because of that. I'm obsessive about music, which means that it bothers me a lot when I'm stuck in a place where the music sucks. I know that's stupid, but it still bugs me. I sometimes envy people who don't notice what song is playing. I also envy people who don't get annoying songs stuck in their heads all day like I do.
You may just like a lot of different things, but no one thing so much you want to devote a lot of attention to it. That's ok. Also, if you're young, you may not know yourself that well yet, especially if you haven't spent much time as a single person without boyfriends. When you're single for the majority of your life like I have been, you have a lot more time/energy/space to pursue things you want to do that don't have anything to do with someone else. You may have (purposely or unconsciously) been kind of doing whatever your boyfriend/husband does all these years, without finding your own interests. A lot of women do that. |
Anonymous
| Btw, READING IS a passion...find a non-annoying book club and see if it fits. |