Does your mother comment on everyone's looks?

[Anonymous]

My whole life my mother has been very into keeping up appearances and has always commented on the looks of my friends. I realize as an adult this is sort of creepy. Now I will mention an old friend and she will say "Ah yes, I recall she was a great beauty" or "That one was such a mess." She will sometimes go into great deal about the beauty of people she knows almost like an author describing it. She doesn't do this with men, just women, usually women the age of her kids. She also would comment "she had such a cute figure!" or "she's built like a shit brickhouse." I have asked her not to comment on people's looks and it is so ingrained she just snaps back at me. Wondering if this is common for that generation. She is in her late 70s.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

No. Not common. Thankfully. It’s things people might think, but not actually say. And most probably wouldn’t even think it in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Yes. My whole life. Also late 70s.

[Anonymous]

No. My mom never did this. She’ll be 79 next April.

[Anonymous]

LOL because my mother does this all the time. "Doesn't she look like the Girl from Ipanema" about my sister at the beach. "She is a tall drink of water" about another mom at the playground. "She looks like Steve Buscemi in drag" about a different mom at the same playground. What bothers me the most is she never says anything about my appearance!! I think our generation as a rule doesn't like to go into such detail about other people's looks, it feels somehow intrusive.

[Anonymous]

It’s “brick shithouse”.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she is such an ageist always commenting on how much certain celebrities have aged, ‘those housewives have to all be in their late 50s &60s”, and always makes rude comments to my sister, “pull your skin back let me see how that would look.
I think it is sad, as she truly was a beauty in her younger days and really can’t look at her own reflection accurately.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but only about women her age. Very critical.

[Anonymous]

Yes. She is in her early 80s. I grew up in a world where a female’s first value was her looks, including her weight. Everything else is a side issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL because my mother does this all the time. "Doesn't she look like the Girl from Ipanema" about my sister at the beach. "She is a tall drink of water" about another mom at the playground. "She looks like Steve Buscemi in drag" about a different mom at the same playground. What bothers me the most is she never says anything about my appearance!! I think our generation as a rule doesn't like to go into such detail about other people's looks, it feels somehow intrusive.

I’m glad my mom didn’t do this but Steve buscemi in drag made me lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s “brick shithouse”.

LOL Oops!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. She is in her early 80s. I grew up in a world where a female’s first value was her looks, including her weight. Everything else is a side issue.

+1 So sad.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I hear about every pound she thinks a person gained or lost (which is especially sad to me as she and all of her kids struggle mightily with weight and she is quite plus-sized). I also hear if someone’s shoes are scruffy, had a wrinkle in their clothes, a hair out of place, etc. she also goes on and on about what babies and small children she finds ugly. It’s sad.

[Anonymous]

DH’s mother does. She looks like a dead hairdresser though.