Feeling guilty about being “too” sad

[Anonymous]

My husband and I started dating in 2011 and he was very close to his grandmother who sadly recently passed away at the age of 90.

His dad lived with his grandmother as well (his dad’s mother) because of some medical issues he had due to a very tragic accident he was in so that’s why my husband saw his grandma so much since his dad lived there. Sadly about 5-6 years ago his father passed away.

In turn over the years I because super close to his grandma as well from spending time there over the years with my husband. We don’t live in that area anymore but both my husband’s family does and my family does so even when I go home to visit my family solo because my husband can’t get off of work I will still spend a night at his grandma’s house and take her out for the day. She was always such a lovely woman to me and we just loved and adored each other. She accepted me right away and she had a heart of gold.

All that being said I am absolutely devastated at the loss of my husband’s grandma. She has 3 grandchildren in total my husband and his 2 brothers. His grandma only had once child (their father) so she has no other grandchildren.

I feel almost weird for being so devastated because she isn’t my grandma and I’m afraid when we attend the funeral I am just going to bawl my eyes out and that will look extremely insensitive to her 3 grandchildren since I can’t even imagine if I’m this devastated how they must be feeling. I almost feel guilty for feeling so sad when she wasn’t even my grandma.

But I don’t wanna not cry at all and then have them be offended by that.

I don’t even know what the purpose of this post is. Has anyone been in a similar position where they feel almost guilty for being super sad about someone passing away?

[Anonymous]

You’re overthinking this. You are absolutely allowed to be super sad at her death. She doesn’t need to be your blood grandma to miss her dearly. Allow yourself to be sad and don’t let your worry about what others thinking contribute to your already sensitive state.

[Anonymous]

Cry your eyes out. She was lucky to have you and you her.

[Anonymous]

I look at it this way. Grandma was a lovely person, treated you like family and you loved her. You didn’t have to love her, but she made it easy. Do not be embarrassed to shed some tears at her funeral. I am a cryer too OP, bring lots of tissues. I am sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Thank you both. I consider myself super lucky and blessed that she was such a huge and special part of my life. Truly anyone that got to know her and be a part of her life was very lucky. She will definitely be very much missed.

I feel like I lost another grandma.

[Anonymous]

What a nice lady she must have been.

At my grandma's funeral, the family was absolutely shocked at how many people attended and were genuinely grieved that she was gone. We feel that this was her legacy she left behind in her memory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a nice lady she must have been.

At my grandma's funeral, the family was absolutely shocked at how many people attended and were genuinely grieved that she was gone. We feel that this was her legacy she left behind in her memory.

She was an absolute gem! Seriously I can’t think of one bad thing to say about the lady. I’m so sorry for the loss of your grandma as well. She sounded like such a lovely lady. May her legacy live on in memory of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a nice lady she must have been.

At my grandma's funeral, the family was absolutely shocked at how many people attended and were genuinely grieved that she was gone. We feel that this was her legacy she left behind in her memory.

She was an absolute gem! Seriously I can’t think of one bad thing to say about the lady. I’m so sorry for the loss of your grandma as well. She sounded like such a lovely lady. May her legacy live on in memory of her.

Thank you!

I hope you find some comfort being with others who also loved your grandma. I know we did.

[jsteele]

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