Need ideas: Video chatting with DD on phone, want to watch videos on youtube together

[Anonymous]

DD (7) and I have video chats on her cell phone when she's at her dad's. He lets her watch youtube all. day. long. She is often stuck talking to me while she wants to watch youtube. I'd like to watch videos with her to deepen our connection (not just try to find the video she's watching, I want to watch in real time). She has an android phone and operates out of video calls in gchat/hangouts. And she has a gmail/youtube account. I have the login information for all of her gmail (unless he created one I don't know about).

Any suggestions/solutions? I haven't looked into this at all, but I have to help a 7 year old do it, because XH will refuse to help, even though he forced our interactions/calls to this place.

[Anonymous]

This just doesn’t sound right. Seems a little off somehow.

[Anonymous]

This is messed up. she's 7. Tell her to pay attention to talking to you for a few minutes during your calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is messed up. she's 7. Tell her to pay attention to talking to you for a few minutes during your calls.

To the other PP, damn straight it's off. The court order states she can talk to me as long as she wants to. And he does everything he can to makes sure she doesn't want to talk to me. We had a great time today laughing our butts off to videos for a bit, and I realized that we could laugh our butts off to videos on the phone, too. She spends some time trying to explain to me what is happening in a video and then asks to hang up. I can't ask her to pay attention to me, and he's 100% monitoring every phone call. He's telling her all this nasty stuff, like I don't care about her, I don't love her, I don't want to see her. Like not to eat the food I bring.

I can see her youtube history, I know what videos she's watched. That's not what I'm looking for. I just want a few more laughs with my daughter before he ruins that, too.

[Anonymous]

OP here, OMG, he makes the court-ordered phone calls her fault if she doesn't have her phone when I call. He says "Oh, she left her phone at school or in the car." SHE'S SEVEN.

[Anonymous]

How often are you calling her? And how long are you talking? You said she doesn't want to talk to you, and she's "stuck talking to you" when she'd rather be doing something else, but she's at her dad's house so I'm not sure why you're talking to her if she doesn't want to talk to you there? I can understand maybe a 60 second call to say good night every night at that age before she heads to bed, but not talking for longer than she's interested.

It's nice that you want to do something she wants to do though. I think the only way to do that is screen sharing on a real computer not phone. I guess I can't figure out why you don't do that on your days with her though.

[Anonymous]

I can't think of any way to do that.

And I'm also confused as to why you would use your time with her on the phone watching videos. Do you not have regular physical custodial time during which you could do that activity? When she's with each parent, interruption from the other should be minimal.