Did I Overreact? -- DC was wet for about an hour.

[Anonymous]

My son's potty training at day care, and he ran out of clean stuff last Friday. This morning I brought in four pairs of underwear and four pairs of shorts -- or so I thought. Turns out I forgot them. I called my husband and asked him to drop them off, which he did at 9am. He gave them to a director, so that his entry (and fast exit) into my son's classroom wouldn't upset my son. The director took the backpack in and told staff, and hung the backpack under the cubby.

When I got there to pick him up this afternoon, his pants were wet. He apparently sat in something wet outside and they hadn't changed him, because they didn't realize the backpack under his cubby had his changes of clothing. He was in wet pants for about an hour.

I'm really annoyed, but I don't want to be. The floater teacher they had working when I picked him up is as sweet as can be. I mentioned the situation to the director.

Even if there was a huge miscommunication about the backpack, I wish they would have just removed the wet pants and let him hang out in a pull up.

Am I overreacting? I'm usually really laid back. But this is really bothering me.

[Anonymous]

you may be overreacting to a simple frustration. It happens. If only you'd remembered the clean stuff on drop off, but you didn't. I used to DD extra spare clothes in her backpack so I wouldn't forget, but then she'd come home wet with the explanation she didn't have any dry clothes. I think the teachers sometimes have so much going on, they don't think out of the box. I realized if I wanted dd in dry clothes, they had to go where the dry clothes were stored, which was not her backpack or cubby.

You son will survive being wet for a little while. If all is right with the world, he won't like it, and will keep himself dry.

I am sorry it's upset you though. I might not be the last time something like this will happen.

[Anonymous]

It's a small mistake. I would've been unhappy he wasn't changed but would've understood that it's not that big of a deal.

[Anonymous]

How long would they have left him wet? That would bother me but perhaps I am not reasonable.

My daycare has in the past let my daughter use another child's spare leggings (we had extra underwear but did not realize there were no pants in the box) when she had an accident. This was in the preschool room where accidents are not the norm. We, of course, washed them and brought them back the next day. I do not know whether they ever used our spare stuff but I know I would not have minded if they did. I think they also just have some spare things at the center just in case. I cannot imagine them letting a child sit in wet clothing for an hour.

[Anonymous]

They usually do have a spare pair of shorts or two.

I'm not sure what happened. Two different day care teachers in the room new my husband was bringing the new underwear and shorts in.

Maybe I just had a bad day today. They've been super for 2 years, and this is the first thing that ever really annoyed me. I wouldn't want to be wearing wet sweat pants for an hour or so myself, but honestly DC didn't seem to mind as far as I could tell. It was just me.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? What harm do you think would come to a child having wet pants for an hour?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you had a bad day. I'd move on.

[Anonymous]

I'd move on, too. Kids don't get bothered about that sort of thing like we do.

[Anonymous]

Totally disagree - I'd be pissed and I don't think not having spare pants should have anything to do with it. Let him use another child's pull-up, jeez. Especially if he's potty training, it's important for him to think of soiled pants as a bad thing.

I might be more forgiving if they hadn't realized he was wet, but the fact that they knew and did nothing about it is NOT cool.

[Anonymous]

I think the point here is, that if this is the only minor infraction that has ever occured, consider yourself incredibly lucky. Just let the teachers know in the nicest way possible that if it happens again, what your wishes are for the future.

[Anonymous]

I think what everyone is missing here is that the posters son sat in something wet; he did not wet his pants. I think in this situation there is no harm in him hangong put in wet pants. I am sure he has hung out in a wet bathing suit before...no difference

[Anonymous]

I think OP is overreacting. He sat in something, not like he wet his pants. It has been warm out, and believe me kids are resilient. Now if it was cool or cold out I would be a little more worried. Kids are meant to get dirty and wet. It happens, and as a provider myself, I resent the fact that there are parents who dont think providers think out of the box. I keep changes of clothes here and am anal about making sure my kids are kept clean but to be honest there are times they have gone home with a pair of dirty shorts on because we have been outside when mom comes and I am told dont worry about it. To me, it shows they are having fun and playing outside, etc. I have also had parents come in the middle of our water play, and taken their child home wet!! (not my fault if they show up unexpectedly hours before they are due)

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PPs who say that there is a bit of a difference between peeing on himself and just sitting in something wet.

I'd just let it go also.