15 year old boy doesn't want to have a birthday party.
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Anonymous
| Birthday is coming up and I keep asking what he would like to do with his friends. He doesn't commit to anything. The other day he said he didn't want a party. My DH said he should do something for his birthday. He is a firm believer of having a birthday party every year. I didn't really grow up with parties with friends just a family celebration. DH thinks it's strange if you don't celebrate. Anyway, is your teen son having birthday parties? |
Anonymous
| My kids stopped having birthday parties at 7 - their decision. The only kids I know who have had parties after early ES are girls who tend to do sleepovers. My kids pick something special to do - water park, a class, de doing their room are a few of the things we've done. |
Anonymous
My kid feels the same way. Two weeks ago I asked him what kind of cake he wanted. He replied chocolate. Today I said I am just checking in, you still want a chocolate cake. He said no, I don't know what I want yet...ugh. And definitely, no party 
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Anonymous
| My son hasn't had a birthday party since he was 9. He likes having a small birthday dinner (him, his sibling, and we parents) and we get a cake to have at home. We have been doing experience birthday presents -- tickets to a concert, sporting event, etc. It's his preference. |
Anonymous
| Mine hated birthday parties. And I don't think any of his male friends had bday parties in high school. Some of the girls did. |
Anonymous
| My DD didn't want to do anything when she turned 13. I don't know if she felt in flux with her friends, she knew I was severely struggling financially and didn't want to place a financial burden on me, or she couldn't think of anything. I tried to ask her months later and she didn't have an answer. |
Anonymous
| That's kind of old to have a party. Just let him do something that he wants to do with some friends. |
Anonymous
| 15 is too old for birthday parties. Although I did have a party when I turned 30. |
Anonymous
OP Here: Not a birthday party just getting together with friends for a movie or some outing. |
Anonymous
| Nope. We stopped around 12 for DS who didn't want them any longer. DD is happy to keep celebrating as a teen. |
Anonymous
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My older teen has friends over to watch football or invites 1-3 friends to dinner.
My younger one refused any sort of celebration with friends. We went to dinner as a family (and a neighbor who is like family). I absolutely think you do something ... his favorite pizza, a cake, etc But he does not have to have a "party". |
Anonymous
Does he do anything with friends? |
Anonymous
| When I turned 13, my parents would tell me to invite a few close friends to dinner out (nothing fancy). We would have our own table, and my parents would sit elsewhere in the restaurant to eat and pay the bill. I did that until I turned 16 and always enjoyed it. |
Anonymous
| Starting at 14, end of 8th grade, my son wanted to do something but not a party and didn't want parents involved. Gave him money on a debit card to take his friends to a movie and sushi or starbucks or something. They walked to the movies after school -- this was totally their choice. I offered to drive them, but he didn't want mom tagging along. He did something similar for 15 as well. No "party," but he paid to take a few friends out somewhere. |
Anonymous
The only thing I find odd is the bolded:
Your DH is way too invested in how other people, even his child, should celebrate a birthday. |