Need a 101 class: what is an asexual androgyne?

[Anonymous]

What is an asexual androgyne? My child (age 13) states to be one in online posts, and wants to be referred to as them or they.

What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Asexual is someone who has no sexual desire. Does not necessarily mean no romantic attraction, though it can.

Someone who is androgynous typically doesn't present as clearly male or female. That could be either just in their appearance or in their feelings related to their own gender (i.e. Not one gender or another.)

That might be their identity their whole life or it may continue to change, just like any teen. The best thing you can do is be supportive as the feelings they have are not easy and are likely to socially isolate them. Be there for them, and let them sort out their identity. (But that said, an LGBT adolescent counselor would be a good idea - not to change them, but to help them be confident in who they are.)

[Anonymous]

Thank you, 17:04!

[Anonymous]

Asexual means your child doesn't feel sexual attraction. Not sexually attracted to either gender, not sexually attracted to a particular person, nada.

Androgyne is someone who identifies as neither male nor female or both male and female. Whereas transgender would be identifying as the opposite gender and cisgender is identifying as the gender you were born with.

So basically your child is saying he or she identifies as both or neither male&female and doesn't feel sexually attracted to anyone.

Im impressed that your child is so self aware and educated on the subject. You should look into it too. Then talk to your child. Be open minded.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, 17:08!

I am impressed with my child, too, and would welcome them also turning in their math homework and not being hyperfocused on their self-awareness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you, 17:08!

I am impressed with my child, too, and would welcome them also turning in their math homework and not being hyperfocused on their self-awareness.

Can't fault you there, OP, but rest assured most young teens are focused more on themselves than their schoolwork or anything else, regardless of their identity.