Egg freezing - how to support friend?
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Anonymous
| Not sure where to post this but I have a close friend who is single and about to freeze her eggs. She is very down that she feels like she has to do this since she is older and not ready to have a child on her own but still hoping to find a partner and have one later. She doesn't look at the freezing as giving her peace of mind, having to do it just makes her sad. She seems really down overall. Any ideas how to best support her- what to say or not say? |
Anonymous
| Tell her it's a fantastic decision, and will give her more choices as she gets older. Congrats to her! |
Anonymous
| curious, anyone know how much it costs? |
Anonymous
| Self Pay. With Meds and Appointments, probably about $15k. |
Anonymous
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It is fantastic!! How much recovery time? Can you be there for her?
Again curious, what is a good age to do this? |
Anonymous
| How old is she? |
Anonymous
36 and yes it is about $15k. plus about $500 per year for storage. but actually taking this step is not making her feel like she's in control or preserving choices. it is making her depressed and I don't know what to say about her sadness that she feels "forced" to do this 
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Anonymous
| Unless she has money to burn, at her age, the chances of a successful pregnancy are pretty low. With that money, I'd find a sperm donor now and have the baby ASAP. |
Anonymous
What? She is 36. Her chances are probably pretty high. |
Anonymous
Complete nonsense. |
Anonymous
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Sorry your friend feels sad. I agree with one of the precious posters. Remind her how wonderful it is that she is taking charge. That she is giving herself options. No, it's not ideal that she hasn't found a partner yet, but lots of people haven't. It also sounds to me like she's clinically depressed and should probably deal with that through talk therapy and medication, but you didn't ask about that.
How wonderful of you to ask for help to help your friend. |
Anonymous
That's a good point -- how is her overall emotional health? Is this the only think getting her down? I'm not sure approaching this logically with her is going to help. The best thing you can do is be there for her. |
Anonymous
| Also, there's a story in npr right now about egg freezing. |
Anonymous
| I encourage your friend to journal and explore why she is sad. Please share my blog about my egg freezing journey, as it was hard for me as well. http://radellannpeischler.com/2014/09/22/egg-freezing-dont-call-it-a-trend/ |