Does your husband get annoyed or angry when you buy things for the house?

[Anonymous]

I love decorating. I can't help it. Our home has been pretty bare since it was our first single family home and our condo decor barely put a dent on it so it has been slowly warming up. I've been good about only buying things on sale or clearance from Target, TJ Maxx and the like. But even then, it causes tension between my husband and I. Our finances are fine but he thinks it's all a waste and he'd be perfectly fine if all it had was a bed, a couch and a TV. I feel guilty for trying to make it "homey" with art and rugs etc. Just wondering if it's only us? Do you just go about decorating anyway?

[Anonymous]

never angry, but maybe slightly annoyed. surprisingly, he has an opinion about decor items... so i try to run things by him but ultimately i make most of the decisions (unless he absolutely hates something).

[Anonymous]

He doesn't care at all...but, then again, he doesn't care at all what I buy...I could literally plop a $4000 purple faux poodle rug down in the kitchen and he would say "new rug, cool."

[Anonymous]

My DH cares. A lot. He happens to care a lot about aesthetics and has strong opinions about decorating and doing things "the right way." He can also be a tad tight fisted with money. He's come a long way over the years, though. Only took 25 years of marriage!

[Anonymous]

I wouldnt marry a guy who gets that way. sorry!

[Anonymous]

If my husband even notices he'll say oh neat!

[Anonymous]

My husband cares but not because he is tight with money. It's actually the opposite. It's because he loves having more expensive, sturdy, nice looking things whereas I don't mind decorating our whole house from ikea.

[Anonymous]

Agree to a monthly budget. Save up your $xx per month. Show him the receipt and that you spent your last three months allowance.

Curious, do you work? I guess the dynamic might be different if he feels like it's "his" money.

[Anonymous]

No. We act like adults.

[Anonymous]

No. He likes living in a nice looking place too and enjoys the improvements/changes.

[Anonymous]

No we always picked everything out together. I usually get the last say, but a lot of times I'm the one who can't make up my mind and he ends up deciding.

[Anonymous]

As a guy, I think we all initially get annoyed with it. Most of us do not care one bit about decor and are completely fine living in a spartan house. But over time I think we learn to just accept it and not fight that battle and also come to appreciate the decor.

Also, this is not limited to just decor. It's not rocket science that on the whole, men and women choose to spend their money in different places. Women might spend more on clothes, decor, experiences, but men will make up for it with much more expensive items like power tools, electronics, boats, ATVs, etc. So it all balances out. And both men and women in time learn to just let their frustrations go. Everyone spends money.

But I admit it is frustrating to see the woman come home day after day with Target bags full of stuff. It's just the psychological thing of seeing that stuff continually enter the house. So many of my guy friends complain about their wives' Target runs.

[Anonymous]

We have fought over it. Budget, taste, how fast to get it done. It took a lot of work to learn to work together in this area.

[Anonymous]

He has not. But, he would get annoyed if I started buying lots of crap. He doesn't like the over decorated look (neither do I so that works) but if I came home one day with 10 accent pillows for the couch, he'd be silently annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Target is crap and will fill your home with junk. At least bring your own bags if you must go there.