Getting kicked out of AAP
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Anonymous
| I have an anxious 4th grader in AAP who can not seem to shake the worry that she's going to do something wrong and get kicked out of AAP. Any ideas for how I can reassure her that she's in AAP unless we (her parents) decide to remove her? |
Anonymous
I don't think it ever happens. Sometimes kids and their parents may decide to drop out - but they aren't going to kick you out. Of course you may have some difficulty convincing her of that. After the first semester she will feel differently though. |
Anonymous
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Does the program stress her out?
Does she prefer to not be in it? That just seems like such a strange worry for a kid to have out of the blue. Maybe that is her way of telling you she didn't really enjoy third grade? |
Anonymous
| OP here: She's completed 4th grade, so two years in and, overall, a very successful student. She has pretty severe anxiety for which we see a therapist. We try to distinguish when her anxiety is a reasonable response versus her hyper-worrying. I was thinking it might help if (when she is calm) if I show her documentation that she won't be kicked out. She also has similar worries when she gets advanced in dance class, so it's not just school. |
Anonymous
my son has the same irrational fear of being held back since 2nd grade. not in AAP/FCPS. |
Anonymous
Therapy. This is not about AAP, it's about self-worth. |
Anonymous
+100000 This post needs to be in a different forum, seriously. |
Anonymous
Can you show her some info from the website: Once you are in AAP, you are in for the duration -- even if you drop out or go to a lower level for any or all of the duration. Some kids have trouble in the Math section and just drop down to an easier math, for example. It is really no big deal (even if people on DCUM think it is) people are not as judgmental IRL. But I agree, the anxiety is the problem, not the program. GL. |
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Anonymous
| I remember in 6th a mom coming up to the teacher and saying "we're all stressed" referring to her daughter about the Iowa algebra exam. Looking at the mom you could see why the daughter was all stressed. |
Anonymous
| Have her teacher tell her? I was in a similar situation, and the principal informed me that once you are in AAP, you are in. You CANNOT be kicked out or dropped down, regardless of grades. Children who leave the program do so because of their parents. Maybe she will believe it if she hears it from her teacher. I realize the year just ended, so maybe you could send the teacher an email, asking her to confirm this, and then read the email to your daughter. |
Anonymous
| That isn't true though. We've known two families who've been counseled out of the program. |
Anonymous
| You need to explain the process to your child. She's old enough to understand. Just explain that once you "get in" it's entirely up to the parent what to do. The parent can decide to not sent the child at all, wait a year, let the child do one year, drop out and then go back. Tell her that a child can never be moved without the parent's consent. I think once she gets this, she will then start being anxious about the teacher or other kids not thinking she's smart enough to be there. Kids with anxiety tend to find something to fixate on. I think this is an issue with helping her to get her anxiety under control, which is a hard task. |
Anonymous
Very rare,, and the parents could have refused. |
Anonymous
Nobody gets kicked out, although some should. Once you're in there, you're in there until high school if you want to be. |