Not submitting homework even when it's complete. Is it common?

[Anonymous]

My son is in level IV AAP 4th grade. He finishes his homework but forgets to submit. He is a dreamer. We have moved so the school has changed. In previous school the teacher was very supportive. She new his issues and loved him so much. we are worried about him now. .

[Anonymous]

She was supportive of what? You're son being forgetful and unfocused (or "a dreamer" as you put it)? Your son needs to learn responsibility and, quite frankly, he might need a teacher who enforces consequences for this type of behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was supportive of what? You're son being forgetful and unfocused (or "a dreamer" as you put it)? Your son needs to learn responsibility and, quite frankly, he might need a teacher who enforces consequences for this type of behavior.

Do you think your child benefits more from being held accountable or from someone who understands and excuses non-compliance with requirements? I think his current teacher is much better for children. In the real world, dreaming your way to forgetting to file taxes, registering your car, renewing your driver's license, meeting work deadlines, having your dr. checkups won't cut it either. Sorry, I don't think you'll get the sympathy you're hoping for...

[Anonymous]

my kid does this. Has suffered the consequences of losing half a grade for turning it in late.

[Anonymous]

My nephew is like this. He's has ADD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my kid does this. Has suffered the consequences of losing half a grade for turning it in late.

Do you think he should lose half his grade or do you think he should be coddled?

[Anonymous]

I just asked if it's common with AA kids ladies. Don't take out your anger on me please. There are people who forget important things sometimes. I agree we need to be more forceful about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just asked if it's common with AA kids ladies. Don't take out your anger on me please. There are people who forget important things sometimes. I agree we need to be more forceful about this.

I think the issue is your frowny face after saying you are worried about "him now". Meaning: he has always had this problem but now that he is accountable for it, that is what causes concern. When he had the problem before but it was overlooked, well, that wasn't a reason to worry. That has caused these responses.

[Anonymous]

OP, we could paper the walls of my son's bedroom with the homework he completed but was too lazy or forgetful to turn in. This sort of reached its peak in the 4th -5th grades and tapered off after that. In middle school once he could really see how it affected his grades on the bi-weekly grade reports that all the teachers send to parents, it stopped almost completely.

[Anonymous]

Thanks . now that's the answer I was looking for . I am here asking for help.
Thanks a lot

[Anonymous]

MY son did that till Grade 2. We(teacher and I) put a big note on his desk - Turn in Homework. The embaressment did it.
He also used to forget to write his name on paper - I warned him to r'mber to write your name or I'll write NONAME in the name section. He forgot and I did write NONAME on his homework a couple of times but he got a lot better in remembering things after that.

[Anonymous]

We have an assignment book that is a calendar with a checklist of HW to turn in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just asked if it's common with AA kids ladies. Don't take out your anger on me please. There are people who forget important things sometimes. I agree we need to be more forceful about this.

I don't think it's any different because he's black. Do you?

[Anonymous]

TOTALLY common, especially with smart kids,, especially with kids when they're angry at their teacher for some reason. Has nothing to do with race. Very, Very common.

No, it doesn't make any sense. No, there's nothing you can do. The kid will have to get the shit grade. Unless the teacher wants to specifically call out each kid she didn't get homework from to say "Riley, did you bring your homework today? Aiden, go look through your bookbag for your homework. Julia, is your homework in your folder?"

[Anonymous]

Just be very nice and supportive and say something like 50% of doing your homework is turning it in. Just keep repeating it. He is in 4th grade. It is a lot to think about. This is one of the main things that he is learning. It is Ok for you to be nice and remind him. The teacher is trying to support the habit. (I did get mad when the teacher was not helpful with this, but it is a good thing to learn)