Dressing a girl like a boy and then getting upset .....

[Anonymous]

Oh, that makes a bit more sense then. Sorry, I thought the mom was focused on the sexual preference of a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, that makes a bit more sense then. Sorry, I thought the mom was focused on the sexual preference of a toddler.

most of the focus is gender identity, not sexual preference. The mom is though beginning to make comments suggesting that she thinks her daughter has a "crush" on another girl in her class. I am not gay and being told the story, it sounded to me more like the typical kind of admiration girls start to have for popular girls...the beginnings of that whole competing to be popular and kids dividing into cliques that all of us so fondly remember, I know. To me it did not sound like definitive proof that the 8 year old was gay, but my friend seem to think it suggested same about her daughter and the reason: it echoed her infatuation with a female teacher at that age. Again, seems to be projection on her part.

[Anonymous]

I think the mom, and most if not all of the PPs, are confusing sexuality and sexual identity with gender identity. If the mom is dressing the girl as a boy and saying she thinks the girl wants to be a boy, she is seeing her as transgendered, not as straight or gay. She should do a little research - if this truly is projection which shapes the child's identity, she may end up with a straight son, not one "for the team".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the mom, and most if not all of the PPs, are confusing sexuality and sexual identity with gender identity. If the mom is dressing the girl as a boy and saying she thinks the girl wants to be a boy, she is seeing her as transgendered, not as straight or gay. She should do a little research - if this truly is projection which shapes the child's identity, she may end up with a straight son, not one "for the team".

OP here. My friend is a gay woman who identifies as "butch" and came out as a young adult. She has friends who have "gone to Trinidad" for sex change surgery and is an educated person. No way she is intellectually unclear on the difference between gay, transgender, gender identity and sexuality, though some on this forum ( such as the gay basher who felt compelled to post) may be very unclear on these terms, doubt many in LBTG community are unversed in them. So, the question remains for those who have some life experience in this. Thanks