Daughter 10 hairy above lips - what to do?

[Anonymous]

What to do? She is a brunette. Hair is very obvious.

[Anonymous]

Wax, threading, or shaving (if the hair is very fine) Don't wait till she gets teased for having a 'stache/

[Anonymous]

do not shave, please, why would anyone ever recommend that. cutting off the hair creates stubble.

you can also bleach the hair, or have some bleach on hand for in-between times.

I would wax at a salon the first couple of times, then buy the facial wax strips at the store and do it at home, I think I paid about $5 for a box the other day. you just warm it up in your hands then apply and rip off.

[Anonymous]

Please have her checked out by an MD. She could have impending PCOS, which they might be able to do something about at her tender age.

[Anonymous]

Just slap a little nair, the kind for sensitive skin. Even as the hair grows back it won't be like shaving stubble and she can just put some there every few days if she wants.

[Anonymous]

It's more expensive, but laser hair removal may be worth while. When I was younger my mom took me in for electrolysis (ouch!). It didn't solve the problem, but improved it dramatically. I was very grateful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:do not shave, please, why would anyone ever recommend that. cutting off the hair creates stubble.

you can also bleach the hair, or have some bleach on hand for in-between times.

I would wax at a salon the first couple of times, then buy the facial wax strips at the store and do it at home, I think I paid about $5 for a box the other day. you just warm it up in your hands then apply and rip off.

If the hair is very fine you do not get the "stubble" look. If her DD has sensitive skin bleach may not work. But the comment on bleach reminds me of some women I have seen who bleach and just end up with a blond mustache. Less obvious than a dark mustache but still a mustache.

[Anonymous]

I like that no one mentioned ASKING HER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like that no one mentioned ASKING HER.

It's obvious--mom is embarrased, not DD.

[Anonymous]

First of all laser hair removal is both expensive and painful but most of all won't be effective for long on a still growing girl. Not a good idea. Shaving and waxing will create obvious stubble and I never understand why anyone does this on their upper lip. the only thing is bleach, which you can buy at the drug store.

But of course only if she cares. otherwise, you will make her self-conscious and cause other problems.

[Anonymous]

Ifit is noticeable she will be teased, I know from experience. Be proactive and take her to be waxed sooner rather than later.

[Anonymous]

I don't bleach because I don't want my man to feel hair from my face when we kiss. Waxing is better for me until I can afford to laser.

[Anonymous]

You can have a larger conversation about grooming and beauty standards, where they come from and the fact that they're made-up bullshit and totally optional, but sometimes people work very hard to enforce them. You can talk about teasing. You can talk about her genetic heritage, other women in the family and funny stories about shaving eyebrows, etc. and the grooming you choose to do any why. And you can let her know that it's up to her, and if anything is ever bothering her, she can talk to you about it, and you will help her find a solution.

And if she doesn't mention her mustache, you're done for now.

[Anonymous]

...the grooming you choose to do and why.

[Anonymous]

Is she concerned about it? If she's not concerned then don't mention it. You'll only make her self conscious and affect her self esteem. 10 is pretty young. I was also on the hairy side as a kid but I didn't start noticing it until I was 12. I think I would have felt pretty bad if my mother has brought it up before then.