inappropriate touching in 2nd grade

[Anonymous]

This is so common in small privates and it sucks because the only way to solve the problem is to move your child. It's not like a larger school where they can keep them separated. Sorry OP.

I don't know why people send their child to small privates - so many horrific stories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. I don't want to go into too many details in case others can figure it out. I will say more than a slap on the butt. It involved following my child to where my child would be alone.

I don't plan on keeping my child there. Are there actions I can take against school? It's a private

File a police report.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

I mean the teachers should have a feel for the classroom. As adults, they should be able to grasp who is problematic and who is likely to be bullied. They should monitor the situation and not let any of the kids in second grade out of their sight, especially not the problematic ones and especially not in a smaller, private school setting.

The set up was that instead of doing their jobs, the teachers allowed one kid to follow another kid where they would be alone to engage in some sort of inappropriate touching. The school now wants to turn this into a teachable moment about “consent and healthy boundaries.”

It’s a set up because the teachers aren’t helping the children deal with their issues in age appropriate and responsible ways, within the classroom and on the playground, etc. Instead, they’re letting the sh-t hit the fan and then trying to act like it’s a good lesson in the long run.

If it weren’t most likely going to be expensive and fruitless, I would encourage the OP to sue the school, so that it could be a teachable moment about fiduciary duty and responsibility.

[Anonymous]

You could report the school here. https://schoolsafety.maryland.gov/Pages/Tipline.aspx

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. I don't want to go into too many details in case others can figure it out. I will say more than a slap on the butt. It involved following my child to where my child would be alone.

I don't plan on keeping my child there. Are there actions I can take against school? It's a private

File a police report.

On a 7 year old? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

I mean the teachers should have a feel for the classroom. As adults, they should be able to grasp who is problematic and who is likely to be bullied. They should monitor the situation and not let any of the kids in second grade out of their sight, especially not the problematic ones and especially not in a smaller, private school setting.

The set up was that instead of doing their jobs, the teachers allowed one kid to follow another kid where they would be alone to engage in some sort of inappropriate touching. The school now wants to turn this into a teachable moment about “consent and healthy boundaries.”

It’s a set up because the teachers aren’t helping the children deal with their issues in age appropriate and responsible ways, within the classroom and on the playground, etc. Instead, they’re letting the sh-t hit the fan and then trying to act like it’s a good lesson in the long run.

If it weren’t most likely going to be expensive and fruitless, I would encourage the OP to sue the school, so that it could be a teachable moment about fiduciary duty and responsibility.

No one knows what happened so the opinions about calling police or suing are say out of line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

I mean the teachers should have a feel for the classroom. As adults, they should be able to grasp who is problematic and who is likely to be bullied. They should monitor the situation and not let any of the kids in second grade out of their sight, especially not the problematic ones and especially not in a smaller, private school setting.

The set up was that instead of doing their jobs, the teachers allowed one kid to follow another kid where they would be alone to engage in some sort of inappropriate touching. The school now wants to turn this into a teachable moment about “consent and healthy boundaries.”

It’s a set up because the teachers aren’t helping the children deal with their issues in age appropriate and responsible ways, within the classroom and on the playground, etc. Instead, they’re letting the sh-t hit the fan and then trying to act like it’s a good lesson in the long run.

If it weren’t most likely going to be expensive and fruitless, I would encourage the OP to sue the school, so that it could be a teachable moment about fiduciary duty and responsibility.

No one knows what happened so the opinions about calling police or suing are say out of line.

We do know what happened. The OP says that a child followed her child to where they would be alone and touched her child inappropriately. The OP says it was more serious than a slap on the behind. The OP says the school called her to discuss it, but thinks that this should lead to good discussions about consent and boundaries. The OP wants to leave the school and wants to know if there are any actions she can take. While one comment mentioned filing a police report, the bulk of the others discussed filing a report with the state. The one comment that mentioned litigation says it would probably be pointless, unfortunately.

There is something very wrong with a school where kids are left unsupervised to the point where one can corner another and touch him or her inappropriately. What’s worse is the school wants to discuss consent and boundaries instead of taking real action against the teachers who let this happen.

I fail to see why OP should just sit back. Why not file a report with her state? What’s she got to lose?

[Anonymous]

OP here. After a lot of soul searching, we are going to switch schools. Speaking to a few advocates to see what options are for tuition refund. thanks everyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. I don't want to go into too many details in case others can figure it out. I will say more than a slap on the butt. It involved following my child to where my child would be alone.

I don't plan on keeping my child there. Are there actions I can take against school? It's a private

Where is a child alone in school? Bathroom? Corner of a playground?

[Anonymous]

You should have your child see a SA therapist who can ascertain whether anything untoward has happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

I mean the teachers should have a feel for the classroom. As adults, they should be able to grasp who is problematic and who is likely to be bullied. They should monitor the situation and not let any of the kids in second grade out of their sight, especially not the problematic ones and especially not in a smaller, private school setting.

The set up was that instead of doing their jobs, the teachers allowed one kid to follow another kid where they would be alone to engage in some sort of inappropriate touching. The school now wants to turn this into a teachable moment about “consent and healthy boundaries.”

It’s a set up because the teachers aren’t helping the children deal with their issues in age appropriate and responsible ways, within the classroom and on the playground, etc. Instead, they’re letting the sh-t hit the fan and then trying to act like it’s a good lesson in the long run.

If it weren’t most likely going to be expensive and fruitless, I would encourage the OP to sue the school, so that it could be a teachable moment about fiduciary duty and responsibility.

No one knows what happened so the opinions about calling police or suing are say out of line.

We do know what happened. The OP says that a child followed her child to where they would be alone and touched her child inappropriately. The OP says it was more serious than a slap on the behind. The OP says the school called her to discuss it, but thinks that this should lead to good discussions about consent and boundaries. The OP wants to leave the school and wants to know if there are any actions she can take. While one comment mentioned filing a police report, the bulk of the others discussed filing a report with the state. The one comment that mentioned litigation says it would probably be pointless, unfortunately.

There is something very wrong with a school where kids are left unsupervised to the point where one can corner another and touch him or her inappropriately. What’s worse is the school wants to discuss consent and boundaries instead of taking real action against the teachers who let this happen.

I fail to see why OP should just sit back. Why not file a report with her state? What’s she got to lose?

The OP is not going to say what happened or what she thinks is worse than slapping on butt. She’s not going to say what it meant by they were alone. In a corner? In the cafeteria? Who knows. Also children age 7 and under do not have the capacity to commit a crime so I don’t understand how police could help.

My daughter in full day kindergarten had 20” nap time. They were assigned placed to lay their mats. My daughter told me that the boy who was assigned to lay down next to her kept touching her. I asked the teacher to move her and it was solved.

As I understand it, the OPs situation was a one time thing. The school reacted quickly and informed parents. Unless this boy did this all the time how was the school to know that he was going to touch her?

Another less innocent problem with my 5th grade daughter was inappropriate touching in a sexual way. My daughter never told me, the school called when they found out because my daughters friends had witnessed it and they reported it. He also would call her over and over all day. It was the end of the year and I don’t really know how they resolved it. We never saw him again. She was not traumatized and there was no reason to call police or blame the school.

Unless the OP is straight with the facts, it’s impossible to know if this is overblown or if they have a 7 year old who was probably sexually abused and is copying the behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

I mean the teachers should have a feel for the classroom. As adults, they should be able to grasp who is problematic and who is likely to be bullied. They should monitor the situation and not let any of the kids in second grade out of their sight, especially not the problematic ones and especially not in a smaller, private school setting.

The set up was that instead of doing their jobs, the teachers allowed one kid to follow another kid where they would be alone to engage in some sort of inappropriate touching. The school now wants to turn this into a teachable moment about “consent and healthy boundaries.”

It’s a set up because the teachers aren’t helping the children deal with their issues in age appropriate and responsible ways, within the classroom and on the playground, etc. Instead, they’re letting the sh-t hit the fan and then trying to act like it’s a good lesson in the long run.

If it weren’t most likely going to be expensive and fruitless, I would encourage the OP to sue the school, so that it could be a teachable moment about fiduciary duty and responsibility.

No one knows what happened so the opinions about calling police or suing are say out of line.

We do know what happened. The OP says that a child followed her child to where they would be alone and touched her child inappropriately. The OP says it was more serious than a slap on the behind. The OP says the school called her to discuss it, but thinks that this should lead to good discussions about consent and boundaries. The OP wants to leave the school and wants to know if there are any actions she can take. While one comment mentioned filing a police report, the bulk of the others discussed filing a report with the state. The one comment that mentioned litigation says it would probably be pointless, unfortunately.

There is something very wrong with a school where kids are left unsupervised to the point where one can corner another and touch him or her inappropriately. What’s worse is the school wants to discuss consent and boundaries instead of taking real action against the teachers who let this happen.

I fail to see why OP should just sit back. Why not file a report with her state? What’s she got to lose?

The OP is not going to say what happened or what she thinks is worse than slapping on butt. She’s not going to say what it meant by they were alone. In a corner? In the cafeteria? Who knows. Also children age 7 and under do not have the capacity to commit a crime so I don’t understand how police could help.

My daughter in full day kindergarten had 20” nap time. They were assigned placed to lay their mats. My daughter told me that the boy who was assigned to lay down next to her kept touching her. I asked the teacher to move her and it was solved.

As I understand it, the OPs situation was a one time thing. The school reacted quickly and informed parents. Unless this boy did this all the time how was the school to know that he was going to touch her?

Another less innocent problem with my 5th grade daughter was inappropriate touching in a sexual way. My daughter never told me, the school called when they found out because my daughters friends had witnessed it and they reported it. He also would call her over and over all day. It was the end of the year and I don’t really know how they resolved it. We never saw him again. She was not traumatized and there was no reason to call police or blame the school.

Unless the OP is straight with the facts, it’s impossible to know if this is overblown or if they have a 7 year old who was probably sexually abused and is copying the behavior.

Are you the jury in the court of DCUM? Op don’t owe you shit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea as to the nature of the touching, so will not comment on that. But I will say that I could tell this was a private from the get-go. Here’s the deal. An adult should have been properly supervising the children. The school messed up because no one was watching the kids. That’s because many private elementary school teachers just aren’t up to scratch. Instead of watching the children, they’re setting them up and then talking about feelings and consequences down the road, while leaving the parents in the dark. I personally would not sue, but you do what feels right to you.

Go public. You will be shocked by how much better it is.

What do you mean by teachers setting them up?

I mean the teachers should have a feel for the classroom. As adults, they should be able to grasp who is problematic and who is likely to be bullied. They should monitor the situation and not let any of the kids in second grade out of their sight, especially not the problematic ones and especially not in a smaller, private school setting.

The set up was that instead of doing their jobs, the teachers allowed one kid to follow another kid where they would be alone to engage in some sort of inappropriate touching. The school now wants to turn this into a teachable moment about “consent and healthy boundaries.”

It’s a set up because the teachers aren’t helping the children deal with their issues in age appropriate and responsible ways, within the classroom and on the playground, etc. Instead, they’re letting the sh-t hit the fan and then trying to act like it’s a good lesson in the long run.

If it weren’t most likely going to be expensive and fruitless, I would encourage the OP to sue the school, so that it could be a teachable moment about fiduciary duty and responsibility.

No one knows what happened so the opinions about calling police or suing are say out of line.

We do know what happened. The OP says that a child followed her child to where they would be alone and touched her child inappropriately. The OP says it was more serious than a slap on the behind. The OP says the school called her to discuss it, but thinks that this should lead to good discussions about consent and boundaries. The OP wants to leave the school and wants to know if there are any actions she can take. While one comment mentioned filing a police report, the bulk of the others discussed filing a report with the state. The one comment that mentioned litigation says it would probably be pointless, unfortunately.

There is something very wrong with a school where kids are left unsupervised to the point where one can corner another and touch him or her inappropriately. What’s worse is the school wants to discuss consent and boundaries instead of taking real action against the teachers who let this happen.

I fail to see why OP should just sit back. Why not file a report with her state? What’s she got to lose?

The OP is not going to say what happened or what she thinks is worse than slapping on butt. She’s not going to say what it meant by they were alone. In a corner? In the cafeteria? Who knows. Also children age 7 and under do not have the capacity to commit a crime so I don’t understand how police could help.

My daughter in full day kindergarten had 20” nap time. They were assigned placed to lay their mats. My daughter told me that the boy who was assigned to lay down next to her kept touching her. I asked the teacher to move her and it was solved.

As I understand it, the OPs situation was a one time thing. The school reacted quickly and informed parents. Unless this boy did this all the time how was the school to know that he was going to touch her?

Another less innocent problem with my 5th grade daughter was inappropriate touching in a sexual way. My daughter never told me, the school called when they found out because my daughters friends had witnessed it and they reported it. He also would call her over and over all day. It was the end of the year and I don’t really know how they resolved it. We never saw him again. She was not traumatized and there was no reason to call police or blame the school.

Unless the OP is straight with the facts, it’s impossible to know if this is overblown or if they have a 7 year old who was probably sexually abused and is copying the behavior.

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