My Son Takes Ballet and is Nervous about Wearing Tights

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For Thanksgiving, my son and I went to the house of another boy from his ballet class. Both boys are 8 and met when DS started taking ballet in September. My son loves to dance and is excited about the upcoming Christmas recital next month but is embarrassed because he will be wearing tights for the first time in public.

The friend is lucky to go to a private school where he is not mocked for his dancing. The friend's mom was incredibly nice to us and seemed to understand my son's situation. Before the turkey dinner she told us, “I can understand not wanting to be teased but you shouldn’t let that influence everything you do.”

Her son has been taking ballet since he was 5 and has an almost terrifyingly slick show-biz professionalism. The friend likes that the costume for the recital is purple tights (not as revealing as white tights!!!).

I'd love to hear what other people think. I would allow my son to quit ballet if he really wanted to. But I think he will overcome his fear and awkwardness of being on stage in tights. Am I right? And having this new friend will hopefully give him more confidence.

LOL. This is SO troll.

[Anonymous]

Ballet will always be a for a better class of people than the average homophobe. You have to make a choice about what matters who you want to appease.

[Anonymous]

My dd has gone to a professional ballet school since 8 and I’ve been to hundreds of recitals or shows or Nutcrackers or musicals from all the relatives and friends in these shows. I have never seen a boy wearing purple tights.

In class they wear white t-shirts and black footless tights.

Is he dressing like the girls? I hope he sticks with it. They are always looking for male dancers.

[Anonymous]

I bet once he wears them the first time he’ll see it’s no big deal. My son got frustrated with his at first, mostly because they were hard to put on, but now he wears them all the time and thinks they are quite comfortable!

I wouldn’t worry about anything showing until puberty and then they wear a dance belt underneath.

[Anonymous]

Show him professional performance videos of men in tights doing ballet.

[Anonymous]

He is in ballet and it’s the TIGHTS he worries about?

Come on now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet once he wears them the first time he’ll see it’s no big deal. My son got frustrated with his at first, mostly because they were hard to put on, but now he wears them all the time and thinks they are quite comfortable!

I wouldn’t worry about anything showing until puberty and then they wear a dance belt underneath.

+1. No experience with dance but this is how my son was with wrestling and the tight singlet. He worried and then didn’t care after the first time he wore it. He found it very comfortable.

[Anonymous]

My son has worn a dance belt since age 8. Wear Moi is one of the only companies that makes dance belts small enough for younger boys w/small waists. He began dancing ballet at age 7. The tights are just part of a ballet dancer’s uniform and it’s so that their lines have maximum visibility. His friends have always been eager to watch him perform in Nutcracker, etc. The tights are really not a thing. Really not a lot different from tights that football players wear just minus the pads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Longer shirt and possibly a sports jock cup so everything isnt visible

No, in ballet it is a dance belt for men. White tight T-shirt or leoard top and black tights. Everything is covered and neat.

[Anonymous]

Tights are not like football players. I did both. Ballet tights are more feminine Football players wear pants and not tights. Ballet tights are more like opaque pantyhose. I hated wearing them

[Anonymous]

I think this show looks amazing. Maybe if he goes he can meet one of them after and ask how they do it. My daughter met some of the cast of "Hamilton" after a show and they were super nice.

https://trockadero.org/calendar/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Welcome to the world of a "dance belt"

Lord.

Take some time and talk tot he other parents and teachers at the dance school so that you can properly prepare your son for the dance world, please.

It's part of your job. And if you actually HELP prepare him and equip him
Properly, he can continue to dance without embarrassment.

Wow. Someone's in a mood today.

[Anonymous]

Swimmers and wrestlers go through the same thing.

[Anonymous]

You are crazy to do this to your kid. Put him in a hip hop class or something if he loves dance.

[Anonymous]

Two thoughts: tutu or put a sock in it.