Social Impact of Child Getting into Level IV later (Grade 5)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would consider declining, Advanced math is all that matters in AAP in the long run. Activate in MS when friends are more spread out. You know your child best - why make them unhappy?

This is clearly not true because my 3rd grader is writing 2 page papers, multiple slide presentations, reading 5th grade books and doing Socratic seminars. LIV LA is definitely above at my child’s center school

[Anonymous]

You are putting your ambitions and desires before you kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are putting your ambitions and desires before you kid.

Well...No...That's why I am getting peoples' opinions who have been in the same position, to make a good decision for him both academically and socially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are putting your ambitions and desires before you kid.

Well...No...That's why I am getting peoples' opinions who have been in the same position, to make a good decision for him both academically and socially.

He already said he though the kids had attitudes and he’d miss his friends. Stop trying to make yourself feel better for shaking up his social life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are putting your ambitions and desires before you kid.

Well...No...That's why I am getting peoples' opinions who have been in the same position, to make a good decision for him both academically and socially.

He already said he though the kids had attitudes and he’d miss his friends. Stop trying to make yourself feel better for shaking up his social life.

OK then... We come on here to ask for advice from parents in a similar situation...not to get bashed...I was just wondering how other kids have adapted in similar situations. That is WHY I am asking, because his mental well being is super important to me. On the other hand, you will always encounter kids you DON'T like everywhere. You need to learn to handle them and also make new friends.

Also, now he seems to want to do it. I actually didn't even once tell him he has to or even should. I just told him he got in and it is HIS choice. If anything, I told him the cons (his friends not there, way more work etc) and said it's upto him. He said he wants to do it and wants to learn new stuff and meet new people. So I told him, "Ok, but remember that if you aren't happy, we can always get you back to your previous classes." He said he definitely wants to do it now. So problem solved, I guess...

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why people make such a massive deal of these things. DD changed schools 4 times between K and 3rd grade. She has become better skilled at making friends as a result. My neighbor moved here from out of state last year, so the kids started a new school in 5th and 6th grades last fall. Then they changed schools again in January because of unresolved bullying problems for one of the kids. Both are doing well in their current school. DD has had a bunch of new kids join her class over the last couple of years, and they’re all fine.

Kids are adaptable. It’s rarely the case that someone’s life got ruined because they changed schools or classes that one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are putting your ambitions and desires before you kid.

Well...No...That's why I am getting peoples' opinions who have been in the same position, to make a good decision for him both academically and socially.

He already said he though the kids had attitudes and he’d miss his friends. Stop trying to make yourself feel better for shaking up his social life.

OK then... We come on here to ask for advice from parents in a similar situation...not to get bashed...I was just wondering how other kids have adapted in similar situations. That is WHY I am asking, because his mental well being is super important to me. On the other hand, you will always encounter kids you DON'T like everywhere. You need to learn to handle them and also make new friends.

Also, now he seems to want to do it. I actually didn't even once tell him he has to or even should. I just told him he got in and it is HIS choice. If anything, I told him the cons (his friends not there, way more work etc) and said it's upto him. He said he wants to do it and wants to learn new stuff and meet new people. So I told him, "Ok, but remember that if you aren't happy, we can always get you back to your previous classes." He said he definitely wants to do it now. So problem solved, I guess...

He definitely should switch to AAP. The social shakeup will be much worse to go through in 7th grade than it is in 5th. If your son switches now, he'll still be able to remain friends with his old group, but he'll start to make friends among the AAP kids. If he waits until 7th, he won't see any familiar faces in his AAP middle school classes.

[Anonymous]

Don’t listen to the naysayers. It’s a center school so he’ll be fine.Go to AAP. My son switched in 5th and he has made really good friends. We are at a center too and He’s found some kids who really get him. He’s still friendly with the other kids from the previous years, but so happy in AAP. Especially because you are at a center it won’t be a huge deal.

He’ll be great in AAP.