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Have you ever regretted nasty posts you made on DCUM?
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Anonymous
| On occasion I have posted replies that I regret because they were either too mean or could be taken that way even if it were not my original intention. What about you other snarky posters? Have you ever felt bad about what you said? If so, did you post to apologize? |
Anonymous
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Yes.
No. |
Anonymous
| I'm embarrassed to admit that some posts have made me cry a little or at least feel really bad about myself. That's why I try to defend people when I think it's warranted. |
Anonymous
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I've made lots of snarky posts on threads where it was more acceptable. (Controversial topics, the OP was baiting people, in defense of my own posts, etc.)
There was one thread where I was particularly hard on someone. It was the opting out of homework thread. I got on some PPs case about her helping her kid with his homework every night and "correcting" his work. I realized that I didn't know her situation and she was a mother writing an honest post about something she does as a parent. I still have my opinion, but she's a human being trying to do what she thinks is right as a mother, she didn't deserve me telling her how she should parent her child. I posted back an apology. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I've regretted snappish comments. And yes, I have on occasion apologized or backtracked. Not always, though. There are some DCUMs who need a good rhetorical smack. |
Anonymous
| 2-3 times, but each time I have within a few minutes come back and said so (sorry, shouldn't have been this harsh) or something. |
Anonymous
| Yes, but I'm normally more shocked at how innocent things can blow up into huge things on this board. |
Anonymous
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Yep. I've apologized for a few snarky comments. They were impulsive, and I felt badly afterwards.
I also tried to have a question/thread I posted removed from the board because I realized after posting that it would be pretty hurtful if the wrong person read it. My hope was to make it anonymous, but in retrospect I never should have posted it in the first place. 
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Anonymous
| Yes, in the politics section. I got on someone's case and it turns out I had misread his/her post. I did apologize. |
Anonymous
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Yes, I've regretted a mean post before. It was a snarky post about body type. The entire thread was snarking on women's bodies, I thought it was mean-spirited so I made a mean post.
A woman posted that her feelings were hurt, I felt really bad and apologized. |
Anonymous
| OP here. The one that stands out in my mind was a response to an OP who posted very early in pregnancy about expecting triplets. I basically responded with don't count your chicks until they have hatched. I did respond and apologize. I meant no ill will or bad wishes. I myself had such a pregnancy and had only one live birth and although in retrospect the OP had to have known that is a possibility, my intention was for her not to get hurt or be surprised if things didn't work out as she expected. Of course she knew that and a post from me wasn't going to prevent her from getting hurt if she did miscarry. I felt horrible afterwards about offense or upset caused. She posted again with a very gracious acceptance of my apology (though I still feel bad and wish her the best). |
Anonymous
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Yes.
Yes. Once. |
Anonymous
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Nope, never.
I'm always sweet. NOOOOOT 
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Anonymous
| We all have bad days. I know that several of my friends participate here and we sometimes jokingly wonder if we've been snarky to each other without knowing. |
Anonymous
yes. Yes, several times. I'm trying, however, to not be mean but I don't always succeed. Also, hiding behind "anonymous" makes it much easier to be snarky because I know that some of the things I have written I would never have said. It is interesting how often threads where something unhappy is posted that all PPs answer with kindnes. |