Potty training consultant

[Anonymous]

DC is a month shy of 3 and potty training is not going well. Needs to be fully potty trained by September when starting preschool. I know this will prompt eye rolls but has anyone actually used a potty training consultant they'd recommend? Getting desperate here.

[Anonymous]

Seriously just boot camp for three days—two weekend days and a Friday or Monday that you take off work.
No diapers, no underwear.
Plan to do a ton of fun activities in kitchen or at kitchen table (baking, rolling dough, puzzles, playdoh, whatever…) and as soon as DC starts to “go” you pick him/her up race then to the bathroom to finish on the toilet.
Lots of fanfare and prizes for getting ANY amount in toilet.
It’s a crazy but very effective method.
Just takes a total commitment of no diapers. Child needs to be able to feel the unpleasantness of being wet and see how easy it is to prevent that next time by running ti the toilet…

[Anonymous]

The boot camp never worked for us. We had to be consistent and potty at wake up, bedtime and every 45-60 minutes.

[Anonymous]

We did all the methods at once and at worked: naked at home for days near a potty, candy for every single success and candy jar right right to potty so reward was tangible, plus I recorded the pee schedule for days prior to potty training and recorded all successes and accidents for a few days so I’d know child’s natural pee rhythm throughout the day, and then putting them on the potty following that schedule for a few days.
I don’t think just naked with no prompting or rewards would have worked as well.

[Anonymous]

I think your child is probably not ready yet. 3 year old is still pretty young for potting training. Yeah you probably have seen lots of other kids are potty trained at this age but there are also many kids who are not.

My DD started to show potty interest at 2.5 but then she refused to use potty for about a year. Later on she would tell me that the flush was too loud or bathroom at school too cold or scary, or she was afraid she would fall into it. There would be lots of little things that we don’t even think about but are huge big deals for them. I think we just need to give them time and try to figure out what bothers them.
My DD is 4.5 now and she still occasionally has accidents. By age 5, everybody is able to go potty. I have never seen any adults who don’t know how to use potty. And when we grow up, it doesn’t matter if we were potty trained at age 3 or 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your child is probably not ready yet. 3 year old is still pretty young for potting training. Yeah you probably have seen lots of other kids are potty trained at this age but there are also many kids who are not.

My DD started to show potty interest at 2.5 but then she refused to use potty for about a year. Later on she would tell me that the flush was too loud or bathroom at school too cold or scary, or she was afraid she would fall into it. There would be lots of little things that we don’t even think about but are huge big deals for them. I think we just need to give them time and try to figure out what bothers them.
My DD is 4.5 now and she still occasionally has accidents. By age 5, everybody is able to go potty. I have never seen any adults who don’t know how to use potty. And when we grow up, it doesn’t matter if we were potty trained at age 3 or 5.

3 is absolutely not too young for pt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your child is probably not ready yet. 3 year old is still pretty young for potting training. Yeah you probably have seen lots of other kids are potty trained at this age but there are also many kids who are not.

My DD started to show potty interest at 2.5 but then she refused to use potty for about a year. Later on she would tell me that the flush was too loud or bathroom at school too cold or scary, or she was afraid she would fall into it. There would be lots of little things that we don’t even think about but are huge big deals for them. I think we just need to give them time and try to figure out what bothers them.
My DD is 4.5 now and she still occasionally has accidents. By age 5, everybody is able to go potty. I have never seen any adults who don’t know how to use potty. And when we grow up, it doesn’t matter if we were potty trained at age 3 or 5.

This is bad advice. Kids who are scared of flushing will still be scared at 3. And not being potty trained at school will affect them a lot.

OP you have to just keep pushing through.

[Anonymous]

I got good advice on this board. Be more specific about the problems and people here can help you. For strong willed kids you need a reward and they have to lose the reward the first couple times (no parent caving because of crying.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your child is probably not ready yet. 3 year old is still pretty young for potting training. Yeah you probably have seen lots of other kids are potty trained at this age but there are also many kids who are not.

My DD started to show potty interest at 2.5 but then she refused to use potty for about a year. Later on she would tell me that the flush was too loud or bathroom at school too cold or scary, or she was afraid she would fall into it. There would be lots of little things that we don’t even think about but are huge big deals for them. I think we just need to give them time and try to figure out what bothers them.
My DD is 4.5 now and she still occasionally has accidents. By age 5, everybody is able to go potty. I have never seen any adults who don’t know how to use potty. And when we grow up, it doesn’t matter if we were potty trained at age 3 or 5.

This is bad advice. Kids who are scared of flushing will still be scared at 3. And not being potty trained at school will affect them a lot.

OP you have to just keep pushing through.

I would also push through because of the school thing, but you're wrong about the flushing thing. Kids outgrow that and there's not be easily anything you do to make it happen. Kids acquire fears at these ages and then the fears disappear.

I would just focus on training with a training potty for now and ignore the flushing issue for the moment. Take it out of the equation and just focus on using the potty when he feels the need to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got good advice on this board. Be more specific about the problems and people here can help you. For strong willed kids you need a reward and they have to lose the reward the first couple times (no parent caving because of crying.)

Didn't work for my strong willed kids-- she would simply decide she did not care about the reward. No matter what it was-- candy, toys, you name it.

What did work: literally spending hours a day with her in the bathroom (with books, toys, screens whatever) for a week until she was consistently using the potty when she needed to or when I prompted her to go. We were up against the clock because school was starting in a month and nothing else (and we tried it all) would work. It was a painful, miserable week for which I had to take work off and there were lots of tears (hers, and then later when she went to bed and I debriefed my day with my DH, mine). But she was potty trained by Day 1 of preschool, and only had a handful of accidents that year.

Some kids are really hard to potty train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your child is probably not ready yet. 3 year old is still pretty young for potting training. Yeah you probably have seen lots of other kids are potty trained at this age but there are also many kids who are not.

My DD started to show potty interest at 2.5 but then she refused to use potty for about a year. Later on she would tell me that the flush was too loud or bathroom at school too cold or scary, or she was afraid she would fall into it. There would be lots of little things that we don’t even think about but are huge big deals for them. I think we just need to give them time and try to figure out what bothers them.
My DD is 4.5 now and she still occasionally has accidents. By age 5, everybody is able to go potty. I have never seen any adults who don’t know how to use potty. And when we grow up, it doesn’t matter if we were potty trained at age 3 or 5.

This, if you're at the point you need a consultant she's not ready, go back to diapers for a couple of months and try again. Pushing for school will only give longer term problems

[Anonymous]

Can the preschool not allow pull ups for a period, ours did for our 3 year old. We tried everything but she just wasn't ready at the time preschool began.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC is a month shy of 3 and potty training is not going well. Needs to be fully potty trained by September when starting preschool. I know this will prompt eye rolls but has anyone actually used a potty training consultant they'd recommend? Getting desperate here.

Oh, dear God...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your child is probably not ready yet. 3 year old is still pretty young for potting training. Yeah you probably have seen lots of other kids are potty trained at this age but there are also many kids who are not.

My DD started to show potty interest at 2.5 but then she refused to use potty for about a year. Later on she would tell me that the flush was too loud or bathroom at school too cold or scary, or she was afraid she would fall into it. There would be lots of little things that we don’t even think about but are huge big deals for them. I think we just need to give them time and try to figure out what bothers them.
My DD is 4.5 now and she still occasionally has accidents. By age 5, everybody is able to go potty. I have never seen any adults who don’t know how to use potty. And when we grow up, it doesn’t matter if we were potty trained at age 3 or 5.

This, if you're at the point you need a consultant she's not ready, go back to diapers for a couple of months and try again. Pushing for school will only give longer term problems

and this folks is how you end up with 5 year olds going to kindergarten in diapers.

Oh Crap worked very well for us, and it doesn’t require rewards. One thing to keep in mind is that the partial training period can last for a long time. With Oh Crap we had pretty quick success with peeing first thing in the morning, or you can induce it by making them drink a bunch of juice. But from that point we went weeks with a lot of accidents. Seems like he came home every day from preschool with shoes full of pee for a while! But gradually there were fewer and fewer accidents.

Basically the idea is that gradual progress is OK. you just have to accept accidents will happen. If you’re getting one good pee on the potty a day, that’s success!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously just boot camp for three days—two weekend days and a Friday or Monday that you take off work.
No diapers, no underwear.
Plan to do a ton of fun activities in kitchen or at kitchen table (baking, rolling dough, puzzles, playdoh, whatever…) and as soon as DC starts to “go” you pick him/her up race then to the bathroom to finish on the toilet.
Lots of fanfare and prizes for getting ANY amount in toilet.
It’s a crazy but very effective method.
Just takes a total commitment of no diapers. Child needs to be able to feel the unpleasantness of being wet and see how easy it is to prevent that next time by running ti the toilet…

This method can make the kids feel a lot of pressure and backfire. It works for some kids but can cause problems for others.

I really recommend the Big Little Feelings Potty Course: https://biglittlefeelings.com/courses/potty-training-made-simple/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw9IayBhBJEiwAVuc3fp2Bt2zFJ6m6zvNC6I62_99GF1gOqdCrR_ZWFkzhMqX1AAjIhKUn7hoC59wQAvD_BwE

It involves no pressure and being very calm and matter of fact about it.