Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?

[Anonymous]

In American culture. Any season. I know it’s old fashioned but I think it is a dig at the bride when significant attendees wear black, like they’re mourning. Fortunately, did not happen to me.

[Anonymous]

My SIL wore black to my wedding, and some people remarked on it. I couldn't care less. She had four young children at the time, a busy career, and probably found the only slimming outfit that was also elegant and seasonal in her wardrobe. I was just happy she came!!!

[Anonymous]

No. The outfit color rules for weddings have nearly completely broken down. Even ivory and white can be okay - see Pippa Middleton.

Bad form is when the MIL looks too bridal.

The cult of black clothes being sophisticated has staying power. I watch enviously because I look terrible in that color.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In American culture. Any season. I know it’s old fashioned but I think it is a dig at the bride when significant attendees wear black, like they’re mourning. Fortunately, did not happen to me.

of course it is. why do you need to post? you don't do this unless the wedding is white tie or tux. then OK to wear black (i.e., evening wear). Daytime? never wear black. and of course never wear white

[Anonymous]

Nope. My mom wore black to my wedding. She looked beautiful and I didn’t think once that it was a dig at me. I was just glad she was wearing a dress.

My mil also wore a dress for me when I know she would have preferred pants. (I didn’t forbid her or anything. She asked and that was my only request)

[Anonymous]

It's a bad look
Op, you don't need to determine "why", just don't do it. There are happy colors out there.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mind, if she were the type to always wear black, like my mom is and I am. If she didn't like me, then I might wonder if she was making a statement. If your relationship isn't good enough to discuss this, that in itself is a problem.

[Anonymous]

My MIL wore a white lace dress. I think black is a better (esp if it's lace, silk, or any other materials that look dressy).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. The outfit color rules for weddings have nearly completely broken down. Even ivory and white can be okay - see Pippa Middleton.

Bad form is when the MIL looks too bridal.

The cult of black clothes being sophisticated has staying power. I watch enviously because I look terrible in that color.

absolutely false. grow up and learn etiquette

[Anonymous]

It's fine unless she was acting like she was in mourning. The only faux pas is dressing too similar to the bride (e.g., all white) unless the bride requested it. I've seen all white and all black wedding parties.

[Anonymous]

If the attire is formal I think it would be fine.

[Anonymous]

The world is full of problems and this is what you choose to gripe about. So pathetic.

[Anonymous]

We had a formal, evening wedding. Most women wore black, and we've been happily married for 27 years. No problems with inlaws

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. My mom wore black to my wedding. She looked beautiful and I didn’t think once that it was a dig at me. I was just glad she was wearing a dress.

My mil also wore a dress for me when I know she would have preferred pants. (I didn’t forbid her or anything. She asked and that was my only request)

You requested that your MIL were a dress when you know she would have preferred pants? You’re pathetic too.