Nagging
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Anonymous
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Hi
every time my daughter see toys maybe ice cream shops playing ground she starting crying and nagging until she gets what she wants. Last time after I pick her from school start crying because she see a video on my mobile and want me to get back to her friends to share it with them 
How can I stop her from nagging ? |
Anonymous
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How old is she?
One thing that can help is making expectations clear. “After school today, we need to go straight home for X; we don’t have time to stop at the playground.” Then follow through. Likewise, “we are at the store to buy groceries; we aren’t buying any toys today.” If she asks for a toy, tell her she can write it down and ask for it for her birthday/christmas/whatever holiday. And in general, don’t give in, of course, to anything she’s crying and whining for. |
Anonymous
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Stop giving in! She nags and cries because IT WORKS ON YOU. My rules are "If you whine, the answer will always be no." And "If you ask three times the answer is no."
Bad behavior never gets rewarded. Stop her from nagging you by saying no. |
Anonymous
This is your problem |
Anonymous
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Tell her no. If you’re at the playground and she’s whining for a treat, tell her if she’s not interested in playing and asks you again, you’re taking her home. Then take her home. If she sees a video on your phone and starts whining for something she sees immediately put your phone away and tell her to go entertain herself. Make is so whining and nagging is a sure fire way to *not* get what you want.
And no, this will not work magically overnight; it will take months and years before they never do it. But if you’re very consistent about never ever giving in they eventually accept no with grace. |
Anonymous
| Saying no can cause extreme tantrums with some kids. Shreiking and screaming and kicking tantrums. Scary tantrums can occur with the word NO. DC is 3. |
Anonymous
Yes, and they'll be a lot scarier in a few years if you don't hold strong on the no now. It won't be easy. The first few times will be lousy, but she's 3, she can't do that much damage. Plan and pick a place where you have an escape plan, whether that's a close by parking space or another adult. |
Anonymous
That’s the age you need to be addressing this, otherwise it won’t get better. |
Anonymous
Start with nos at home/in private spaces. It’s easier to ride out tantrums in private. When possible move to a semiprivate space (outdoors/car) before triggering one in public. Be super explicit with her than whining and yelling are unacceptable behaviours in public spaces and you can’t take her out to play of she’s not going to be pleasant and that’s why you’re leaving the playground. And mostly: accept this will take a long time to work through — you’ll still be dealing with nagging and whining and probably some tantruming for a couple more years. I have no idea why we evolved to whine and tantrum; it does not make me as a caregiver want to give my kid what she asks for at all. |
Anonymous
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Make a plan in advance. When they ask, redirect to making a future plan to get what they want.
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Anonymous
You just say "No.". You're as big a child as your daughter. |
Anonymous
Don't give in. It's a vicious cycle. |