If a person knows they want to be a SAHP, is it still a good use of money to go to college?
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Anonymous
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Assuming that debt or at very least, sacrifice on behalf of family is involved.
My friend, who has a postgraduate degree but quit as soon as was pregnant and never went back, tells me her daughter says she wants to be a stay at home parent, but wants to go to college 'because it's fun' and maybe she will meet someone there. I am never at a loss for advice but I was here. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think she’s asking for advice. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely. It is difficult to find a high-earning man without a college degree. |
Anonymous
| This was a calculation we had to do in Finance 101 in college - well, whatever career you planned, would the return on investment (education tuition) be worth it. |
Anonymous
op - no, fair, she wasn't - I just am one of those people who always thinks they 'have the answer' and I had nothing. which was fine. i dont think she knows really either. |
Anonymous
There are plenty of us out there. Women with education and skills who don’t use them. I know three attorneys who don’t practice and never will. I took the LSAT and almost applied but we needed to move so I delayed. I’m so glad I didn’t waste time and money because I liked the open schedule with the kids to do what we wanted to and what we needed to. When you’re a stay at home mother you get to know the others and you find out there’s a lot of them. Just because she wants to be a stay at home mother doesn’t mean she should skip a college education. A liberal arts study will give her knowledge and skills that can help with raising children. Plus college is fun! |
Anonymous
but then is the college degree obtained to make the person 'marriage quality'? |
Anonymous
Yes. It is the bare minimum to be the spouse of a well-educated, high-earning person. |
Anonymous
Yes. Have you not heard of an "MRS" degree? Also, tragedy happens. Divorce happens. If one finds themself in a position where they need a job they are much better off with a degree when they go looking. |
Anonymous
| you sound judgmental. Yes, it is. |
Anonymous
| as a SAHM, in some ways no. I never use it. It was fun. But I was lucky that mine was free. I think if my parents had had to scrape money together for it, I might think twice and find another way to use that time. |
Anonymous
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Yes. I know lots of women who thought they wanted to be sham and went to college to find a husband. But they did not find a husband until much later in life. So they ended up having a great career. Or, they got married, and could not have kids. Or got married and realized they liked their careers.
I would support Amy person who wants to go to college to go. If they do not want to, then seek out training to give then another career. Everyone should be able to support themselves. You never know what can happen. |
Anonymous
| Yes, she should go. For many reasons. |
Anonymous
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There’s no guarantee to find a husband or to become a mother. So unless she’s already married and pregnant, then she should 100% continue with a post high school education.
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Anonymous
| Yes, it's still worth it. From divorce to death and serious long-term illness, you don't know what the future holds. Unless you are incredibly wealthy, you need to be able to make an income for yourself. I was a stay at home parent for 12 years, and I'm also a speech-language pathologist. At the age of 45, I started a private practice and I'm so grateful for both experiences. |