Is it normal at 25 or older to send Xmas wish list

[Anonymous]

How rare or common do you think it is for adult children, 25 or older, to send Christmas wish lists to parents— when parents do not ask for lists?

[Anonymous]

Only when asked!

[Anonymous]

Not normal, unless you are known to buy a lot of stuff that is useless to them. I would assume most parents give cash and a couple of token gifts to adult children.

An alternative is that they want you to send them your wish list as well and this is a hint.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's any normal or not normal in this situation. It depends on what your family dynamics and customs are.

On one side we always exchange lists - even my 70 yo MIL sends one.

[Anonymous]

I agree with previous poster that is depends on family dynamics. If it was asked for and or provided the previous 24 years, why would it stop at 25 without a conversation in the family? Mine is 21, I like getting the list so I know what to get.

[Anonymous]

No one should ever send a Christmas list unsolicited! You clearly didn’t realize your children with manners op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How rare or common do you think it is for adult children, 25 or older, to send Christmas wish lists to parents— when parents do not ask for lists?

Are these your kids? Do you get them Christmas gifts every year?

[Anonymous]

It depends what's hiding behind the "unsolicited".

My parents ALWAYS ask what we want, so sometimes we get ahead of that and send one gift request per person, something we know they can easily purchase and afford.

If my kids did that in the future, they'd do me a favor! Right now they're 18 and 13 and never know what they want.

But I agree that sending an unsolicited request without regard for cost or logistics is rude.

[Anonymous]

Sure, it would be welcome. Doesn’t mean they should get everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How rare or common do you think it is for adult children, 25 or older, to send Christmas wish lists to parents— when parents do not ask for lists?

Not common at all. Mine doesn't even say what they want for their birthdays.

[Anonymous]

I was just thinking about this today. We spend about $200-$250 a kid. The oldest will graduate college this year. She still provides me with a list and I’m happy to shop from it. But at what point do you stop buying expensive gifts for Christmas? Is it college graduation, 25 or 30? Where does it end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think there's any normal or not normal in this situation. It depends on what your family dynamics and customs are.

On one side we always exchange lists - even my 70 yo MIL sends one.

Agree with you completely.

[Anonymous]

I’m 47. My parents have asked me what I want for Christmas and bought me a gift off that list every year of my life. About three of those years I’ve told them before they asked what I‘d like. I don’t think it is presumptuous to assume that they will continue to do what they have done my entire life.

[Anonymous]

My mom would probably love it if I sent one.

[Anonymous]

Normal but you don’t have to get them anything past 18. My parents send me $500 every Christmas for me and my kids