Is it rude to ask other parents if their kid is in-pool?

[Anonymous]

Is it discussed at your school which kids were in-pool? What about discussing which kids got into AAP? Is that discussed? I feel like it is crickets at our school.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s rude.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully, other than one mom who talks too much about absolutely everything, I’ve never had a single conversation about AAP with other parents.

I’m all for crickets.

[Anonymous]

Not at our school. We had a few friends who mentioned applying or being in=pool but that is all. Every so often parents will mention that they applied and their kid was or wasn’t accepted but that is only once in a while. It is more parents of kids who are friends.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. It's rude. Plus, what's the point?

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP, just stop. People like you are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. If you send your kid to ask my DCs, they won’t tell you because they are trained to not disclose that kind of info.

[Anonymous]

Rude. You will see them at the open house if they’re interested.

[Anonymous]

There is a certain group of people who think asking is rude. You know who they are, the uptight nincompoops who are very insecure about such things. Try to find like-minded parents and ask them. I would certainly not be offended if anyone asked me.

[Anonymous]

I had one friend ask me the other day about in-pool and I was thankful because we are at a non-center school and moving to a center school would be a big deal for my child, leaving friends behind (but IMO the best path for my child). This friend's child is a close friend of my child and if they both are accepted, it would make it a much easier decision for both children. That parent hadn't referred and wasn't completely clear on the whole process.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s rude.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be offended if a parent asked me. But I would never ask another parent.

[Anonymous]

It’s rude … you’re asking about a test score. In just a couple of months you will know who got into AAP at your school (at orientation). Wait it out …

[Anonymous]

I asked some people who I knew well and have obviously smart kids. If people don’t talk about it, there is no way to make sure the system is fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked some people who I knew well and have obviously smart kids. If people don’t talk about it, there is no way to make sure the system is fair.

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