Gay male couples with kids

[Anonymous]

I just read about lesbian bed death. I’m thinking this is not a thing for gay men with kids. When they were babies there were times when we were both exhausted and sometimes morning sex is not practical because the kids are up and ready for us to get going, but I wouldn’t say it has decreased in any significant amount. Anyone disagree?

[Anonymous]

I had to google that but glad to learn something new! I'd guess any relationship is subject to the possibility of death bed but also it's a very individual thing. Address it with your partner and brainstorm solutions before it becomes an issue.

[Anonymous]

I mean, we're kind of getting up there, but we're still kind of getting up..

[Anonymous]

My husband and I adopted a baby, and sure, the early years were a bit exhausting. We were always super into each other and continued having great sex. He was a bit older than me and sadly died when our daughter was still in ES. I miss him a lot and not really interested in a new partner though I do miss the physical intimacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted a baby, and sure, the early years were a bit exhausting. We were always super into each other and continued having great sex. He was a bit older than me and sadly died when our daughter was still in ES. I miss him a lot and not really interested in a new partner though I do miss the physical intimacy.

Oh my god, I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted a baby, and sure, the early years were a bit exhausting. We were always super into each other and continued having great sex. He was a bit older than me and sadly died when our daughter was still in ES. I miss him a lot and not really interested in a new partner though I do miss the physical intimacy.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

This is an interesting question. Are you asking if gay male couples who have babies and kids experience less of a drop in sexual activity than do hetero or lesbian couples with kids? My guess is yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I adopted a baby, and sure, the early years were a bit exhausting. We were always super into each other and continued having great sex. He was a bit older than me and sadly died when our daughter was still in ES. I miss him a lot and not really interested in a new partner though I do miss the physical intimacy.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

+1

[Anonymous]

Sure. Its the testosterone.

[Anonymous]

This is a bizarre thread. Two men should be able to handle the physical demands of an infant. It is MUCH more taxing in a heterosexual relationship because the woman gave birth to the child and has to overcome the physical issues from 9 months of pregnancy and then childbirth. Heteros have it much harder in the bed game then two men who had nothing to do with childbirth and its consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting question. Are you asking if gay male couples who have babies and kids experience less of a drop in sexual activity than do hetero or lesbian couples with kids? My guess is yes!

I am the OP and that is my question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a bizarre thread. Two men should be able to handle the physical demands of an infant. It is MUCH more taxing in a heterosexual relationship because the woman gave birth to the child and has to overcome the physical issues from 9 months of pregnancy and then childbirth. Heteros have it much harder in the bed game then two men who had nothing to do with childbirth and its consequences.

Op here. The question was not about infants. It was about in general with gay men with kids. Does the amount of sex appreciably decrease because of the kids (in contrast to pure age).

Other than little ones interrupting sometimes, I’m betting no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a bizarre thread. Two men should be able to handle the physical demands of an infant. It is MUCH more taxing in a heterosexual relationship because the woman gave birth to the child and has to overcome the physical issues from 9 months of pregnancy and then childbirth. Heteros have it much harder in the bed game then two men who had nothing to do with childbirth and its consequences.

Op here. The question was not about infants. It was about in general with gay men with kids. Does the amount of sex appreciably decrease because of the kids (in contrast to pure age).

Other than little ones interrupting sometimes, I’m betting no.

Why are you curious about this? I honestly don’t understand. Is it just curious it’s about queer lives and experiences?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a bizarre thread. Two men should be able to handle the physical demands of an infant. It is MUCH more taxing in a heterosexual relationship because the woman gave birth to the child and has to overcome the physical issues from 9 months of pregnancy and then childbirth. Heteros have it much harder in the bed game then two men who had nothing to do with childbirth and its consequences.

Op here. The question was not about infants. It was about in general with gay men with kids. Does the amount of sex appreciably decrease because of the kids (in contrast to pure age).

Other than little ones interrupting sometimes, I’m betting no.

Why are you curious about this? I honestly don’t understand. Is it just curious it’s about queer lives and experiences?

Op here. I’m a gay man with kids. Yes, I’m curious as to the experience of other gay female couples with children. Not from an outside looking in perspective, but from the inside looking around.

[Anonymous]

Are queer lives gay lives? What does the term mean? I always thought it was an insult.